- So let me know if this is you.
You want your kids to do chores
and you want them to contribute,
you want them to help because,
Lord knows, you are doing enough,
but still, their stuff is piling up.
You might even feel like they're not learning anything,
you might feel pretty frustrated.
You might even feel like a bad mother.
And I'm telling you right now,
stop that,
you're not a bad mother.
But I can help you figure out what to do with your chores.
I have created a chore chart for my kids,
and I'll share it with you down below.
But more so, I've actually created kids that help
and do several things throughout the day,
which, believe me,
is the biggest change because
that is not how they started.
Join me.
Hey, beauties.
If we haven't met before,
my name is Robyn,
and I help overwhelmed women help simplify
their lives so that they can start living it.
From organizing to cleaning to just overall self-care.
Now, I've had some requests
on what my kids chore routine is,
and the lovely Michelle made this comment.
And just so you know,
I do love to hear from you,
so please leave a comment below.
So as far as messy kids go
or trouble with chores overall,
believe me, I get it.
I have three boys,
two of them have ADHD,
and all kids,
and in particular kids with ADHD,
have trouble focusing.
But after many years,
I figured out the perfect routine for kids chores
and kids cleaning.
The wonderful thing is the kids
are actually learning responsibility,
and they're also contributing
so that we don't have to do everything.
So you might not know where to start
and you might just randomly start giving your kids chores.
So here's the thing,
the kids actually don't know
where to start either when it comes to chores.
They need clear and concise,
concrete instructions.
They also need for you to start slow,
like real slow.
So don't go printing off the chore chart,
filling it out
and saying, "We're doing this."
You need to start one or two things at a time.
And let them know that
so they're not mad when you give them more and more chores,
which I made that mistake,
I'm just saying.
And I'm going to go over my daily routines a little bit,
but I will be making another video on that very soon.
So each of my boys have two chores per day most days.
Sometimes they only have one.
The thing about this list
is that your kids might be very small,
and you can start with very,
very simple things,
like setting the table, etc.
Making their bed, whatever.
So this is my family chore tracker.
I've got the kids down the side
and days of the week up here
and all of the chores.
So for example,
today is Tuesday.
Now, the most important thing every week is dishwasher.
So today, Lad 3 has dishwasher.
So dishes in the kitchen
can get your kitchen looking messy,
it can stress you out,
it is not simplifying your life
and this is why dishwasher
is sort of like the priority
as far as chores for our kids go.
So if they do it first thing in the morning,
they don't have to put in the dishes
that have accrued at the end of the night
or first thing in the morning in.
I will do that or whoever's dishes they are,
they can do it.
But if they do it later,
they have to put all of the dishes
that have been sitting around the sink in the dishwasher.
So do you see how we do that?
It's actually a reward for them to do it sooner.
So the second most important thing would be pet care,
and if you have dogs or whatever,
you can incorporate that.
And for the cat care,
because the cats are very important,
Lads 1 and 2 have cats today,
and I'll get to the rest of the chores in just a second.
So we have three cats,
two of them are disabled.
They fall down all the time,
they have a thing called CH,
so we need to make sure that their litter boxes are cleaned.
And of course I get them washing their hands.
It's very important that their hands
are washed after handling the litter boxes,
so don't worry,
don't send me messages about that.
I also have them doing their sheets
and towel once a week,
so they all have their own towels so we know who's it is.
That makes that simple.
Who's towel is this?
They wash their clothing once a week,
and they fold their clothing
and put it away on the following day.
They are all responsible for one bathroom to be cleaned.
Now, if you've seen my Clean Mama
and FlyLady routines,
which I will link at the end and up above,
I of course go and do it as well,
but I want,
I just want them to know how to do this stuff
because I don't want them leaving here one day
and marrying some lady
and her being like,
"What the heck,
you taught these guys nothing!"
You're welcome, future daughter-in-laws.
And now, here is the laundry on Tuesday,
which is today,
Lad 1 will wash clothes.
Tomorrow, he will fold his clothes,
Thursday, he cleans the bathroom,
and Saturday, he washes his sheets.
And the other two have the same routine.
So I encourage the lads
to do all of their chores right away,
but if they don't,
then there are consequences,
such as the dishwasher.
And that's up to them.
You'll notice on Wednesday
no child is doing dishwasher.
That's because either my husband
or I do because we have three kids
and I wanted to divide the dishwasher up
evenly because they all just seem to hate it so much.
And it's on a busy day for the kids anyway.
And I've got a blank copy that you can fill out
just by clicking at the bottom of the page.
And I'll just touch on the routines here.
The morning routine is hygiene,
like really important,
especially getting boys to learn this,
let me tell you.
So they do their hygiene,
they make their bed, etc.
There is also an after school routine.
Now, I went the route during COVID of homeschooling,
so I am really looking forward to September rolling around,
but after school what they end up
doing is they just put their books away,
which I'm happy with.
Once they go back to school in September,
they will come home,
put their backpacks away,
empty their lunchboxes,
hang up their coats.
And then there's the evening routine.
After dinner,
everybody helps clear the kitchen and the table.
And a word to the wise,
if you've go multiple kids cleaning the kitchen,
get them to do it all at the same time.
Don't just let one of them do it
and then leave because by the time it gets to the last kid,
there's still a ton of stuff left over.
Don't fall for that trick.
I often kind of sneak off
and do my sort of daily routine
of cleaning from the Clean Mama.
And I'll link a PDF I have for Clean Mama
and FlyLady down below as well.
And of course, then there is getting ready for bed,
last sort of sweep of things around the house,
but don't worry,
I have a video coming up for that very soon.
The most important thing about giving kids chores
is teaching them how to do it.
You need to lay out.
♪ Step by step ♪
Step by step how they have to do things.
If they have ADHD,
you have to be that much more clear
and it does take more patience.
But overall, it is totally,
totally worth it.
So click this video here.
I did it about Clean Mama versus GO CLEAN CO.
There's also one about FlyLady
that comes on right after that,
so you can check it out.
And don't forget to download your free PDF,
and I will catch you on the flip side, ladies.
Bye!