Heya playa, are you at that point in your life where you feel like you're not really
sure whether or not you're ready to date?
Whether it's your age, your financial situation, your social setting, whatever that may be,
you're not really sure what the answer to that question is.
Well, in this video I'm gonna help you work through it, figure out what's right for you
and whether or not you're ready to date.
For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh and every single Monday through Friday
I make videos sharing tips, ideas and stories teaching you how to be your best self.
Now when it comes to figuring this question out, knowing whether or not you're ready to
date it really is an internal question you really have to reflect upon your own circumstances
for to answer.
The first thing you should ask yourself is, do you feel like you have the ability to make
time for someone else in your life or are you just too bogged down with school, work,
friends, family, drama, whatever it is you're dealing with?
When you start dating or start a new relationship, that question is gonna come up.
If you don't have time for your partner, they're gonna feel that.
They're gonna feel neglected like you just don't care enough about the relationship or
care enough about them to really just prioritize things in your life to make them a piece of
that.
To give you an example, when I was younger I would always tell myself I'm not in a place
where I want to date yet because I wanted to focus more on building out my YouTube stuff,
really just growing out my career and I think dating is just going to take up too much of
my time.
Now eventually that changed because I ended up realizing something that I think a lot
of other people ended up realizing too.
That they do want to date, that they do want to find a partner and that sometimes telling
yourself you're too busy might be an excuse you use just to not pursue this new thing
in your life.
Now don't get me wrong, there are people who just don't have the time for it and it would
be wrong for them to enter a relationship under the false pretenses that yea, they're
going to dedicate just as much as their partner will.
But instead, I think a lot of us just feel nervous about it.
This idea of potentially being accountable for someone else's feelings that if I don't
make time for them, then they're not gonna feel loved, that's a scary burden to carry.
But it's also a wonderful one.
The idea that you can take time out of your day to really make someone happy, to really
just enjoy living life with them is a wonderful thing.
So it's not really something you should pass up if you feel too nervous about it and you
use the excuse "I'm just too busy".
The second thing you may want to think about is whether or not you're ready to be vulnerable
with someone.
To share your feelings with them and to trust them enough to not hold it against you.
A lot of times people don't feel ready to date because they're afraid of getting hurt.
No one wants to be cheated on, or disrespected, or abused, or just kind of taken advantage
of in a relationship.
So the best way to avoid those things is to not enter one, right?
Part of the issue there is that you're missing out on probably a very important piece of
your life.
And that's the ability to be vulnerable with someone.
Now yes, you can do this with friends and family but, having a partner takes it to a
different level.
It takes it to this new stage where you can share things with this person, they can share
things with you and you have a special unique bond between each other.
Part of the reason why being in a one on one relationship is good for you is because you
have someone in your corner looking out for you.
The same way that they have someone in their corner looking out for them.
Now yes, you do also have your family and your friends but their time is generally divided
amongst other people and amongst themselves.
So having a one on one relationship allows you to stay focused on one person moving forward.
But sometimes, there are a lot of different reasons why someone wouldn't want to date.
And one of the reason I hear most commonly is the fear of getting hurt after you've already
invested feelings in someone.
The last thing anyone would want to do is to put all of their feelings into one person
only to have that person decide that you're not the partner for them.
They don't want to be with you.
Or they cheated on you.
Or they just don't like you anymore.
But the thing is, no relationship is guaranteed.
As time goes on, feelings may change and you guys might fall out of love with each other
so if you're worried about that happening, instead try to focus on what you can bring
to the table.
What you can offer in that relationship to help keep it strong and healthy.
The third thing you may experience is that your nervousness is making you fearful of
what to expect in a relationship.
You've never fought with a partner or been deeply in love with one so, those feelings
will all be new and you might not feel like you're prepared to handle them.
I would say you'll never really know until you have that experience.
Being in a relationship puts you in new circumstances and situations you've never encountered before
so you're on the fly trying to figure out ways to make them work, that's how you grow
and that's how you learn.
The unknown is terrifying, no one ever wants to be in a situation where they don't feel
prepared.
But being in a relationship and having these new experiences will help train your sense
of what being in a relationship is like.
And look, if it doesn't work out that's ok.
Talk to more people, date more people, keep learning as you go.
Because the more relationships you're in, the more you're gonna fine tune exactly what
it is that you want and what kind of partner you're looking for.
All in all, I would say you're ready to date if you're willing to get to know other people.
But now I'm curious to know, what do you guys think?
Are you ready to date?
What do you feel are different blockers preventing you in your life from finding someone to be
with?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
On that note guys, thank you so much for watching.
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On that note guys, I'll catch you next week.
As always love and peace.