In terms of the one nightstands, you're able to tell if it's a one night stand,
and then there's times when you do the three date thing. Maybe you need to do a seven date thing.
I know. What's your plan now? I guess I'm going to increase to 5. Because I feel like the third date
rule is now a little bit too predictable. I feel like a lot of guys know about that so they know.
I mean, maybe not. I don't know, I'm not a guy. But maybe some of them know about the third date
rule so they're just waiting for that third date. And they expect it at that point now.
I don't know. But maybe 5 will weed out some more people. Yeah, maybe I don't know. Maybe there's
something else you can tell. Maybe there's another way you can tell. Do you think you were fully
duped in some of these where you're like, wow we were really getting along, it seemed really fun,
they were totally okay with not hooking up, maybe they even didn't even try until the third date?
Do feel there's any of those situations? Not entirely. I think a lot of times,
I will know if a guy is emotionally unavailable, but choose to ignore it, which I think is a
problem that a lot of women have, in terms of they cry that they are in a relationship and can't find
anybody that likes them. But then they go after the wrong type of guy. And a lot of times you
get that type of communication. Communication is more than just words. A lot of times a
woman will get a vibe from a guy, but he's not emotionally available. But maybe he's telling her
that he wants a relationship, or maybe he's inconsistent. And that keeps a girl
on the hook. Maybe when they're together, he's really affectionate and tells her how
much he likes her and how he feels about her and how he wants to be with her, but then
doesn't text her for three days. Things like that, I think keep women in this loop
of not being confused and not really sure whether they should continue seeing this person or not.
What about this? What about this as an idea? What if you're with a guy and
on the second date, maybe you've done this, you ask them what they're looking for?
Have you done that? I have done that. But I think that's something that I have
adopted into my new dating practices to avoid all this. I think that it's really important
to be upfront and honest. But I also do think that sometimes I have asked that and guys have
lied about their intentions, which is also an issue that you can't control. Now I'm going to
throw this out there and I mean no offense by this, but you and I are talking really raw and
honest and I appreciate your honesty so here I go. Maybe it's possible, you're bad in bed.
Maybe. I don't know. I'm just being honest. I've gotten a lot of compliments. I think it's
rare. I mean, I don't think that's the case. Not that I can tell. But that's probably a
rare thing if it happens so much. But hey, what if that's the case? I would say that to a guy
if girls are ghosting him after they have sex, and that's happened to plenty of clients that
I work with. I'm thinking, well I ask him what's going on in the bedroom? What are you doing in the
bedroom and maybe they're doing something that's turning her off. That's why I ask you, I wonder
if you're doing anything? Yeah, I mean, I don't know. Maybe. It's definitely a thought to ponder.
But you're like, no. I mean, I would hope not. Of course you hope not but it's possible.
You don't think it's possible. You think that you're amazing and guys are having a
good time. I like to think that yeah. It's really interesting though hearing this from you. Because
I do hear this from a lot of people about the hookup culture. I mean, we're seeing it
firsthand right here. Hookup culture, it's really hard to date. Would you say that? Would that be a
sentence in your head that gets hard to date? I don't think it's hard to date. In terms of it's
not hard to find somebody to go on dates with and go on dates. I don't mind first dates. I
think it's hard to form a connection with somebody because of the impact that hookup culture has had.
Yeah, it's hard to date in the sense where it's hard to keep a man around. Yeah, exactly. What
do you want ultimately? I definitely want a long term, monogamous relationship. Just haven't found
a new one in a while. What kind of guy do you want? Somebody who is hardworking and
has life together. I'm not dating somebody who wants to be an actor or something like where
they have no plan, no money. That's just like, I don't want to... it sounds vain, but I don't
want to have to make more money than my boyfriend or support him. It just seems you should be able
to support yourself. I would say preferably tall but that's not a big deal to me because I'm short.
How short are you? I'm only 5'2 but I do wear heels a lot so as long as he's taller than me
in heels, then that's perfectly fine with me. If he's 5'6 you're cool. Yeah, that's as short as I
would go though. 5'7. I would do 5'7. I used to date a guy who was 5'8 for two years. I don't
mind the short. It's just like, would I prefer to be with somebody tall? Yes. But I do think
that a lot of the guys who are 6 foot and over, because it's such a desirable masculine trait,
they didn't have to develop personalities. I think that a lot of times the guys who are really tall
and attractive, they know that they can get any girl they want so they're just assholes.
Interesting. So you appreciate a guy who's under 6 feet because you might
think that he's not as arrogant? Exactly. Wow, that's interesting. Good for you.
I mean, I don't think that every guy over 6 feet is arrogant. No definitely not every guy. But...
I don't know, I feel like more of the guys that I've interacted with at least that
are over 6 foot, you can tell that they walk into a room and know that they're
more desirable than another guy who's 5'8. Well, that's confidence though, isn't it?
In a sense, yeah. Aren't you attracted to confidence? Absolutely.
What's the deal? Then you would want a guy who's over 6 feet?
Yes. I think confidence gets the girl... Because the guy who's under 6 feet, 5'8,
I'm not saying that a 5'8 person isn't confident but maybe he's not according to
what you're saying here. I think confidence gets the girl but it doesn't keep the girl.
Because if you are being confident with 5 other girls every single weekend and if you're not
treating a girl well, at the end of the day, she's not gonna want to be with you in the long
term. Are you actively dating and sleeping with men under 6 feet tall? Not currently.
Oh man. Ever? I mean, I have in the past, just not right now. Are you seeing anyone right now?
I've gone on a couple first dates lately. And they're over 6 feet? Yes. I find it's
odd because I find that there are a lot more tall people in Manhattan than I've
ever experienced before. Most of the people that I match with are automatically over 6 feet and I'm
not necessarily looking for that, but a lot of them do like my profile, which is interesting.
Are you matching with anyone who's under 6 feet? Yes. But you're not going on dates with them?
No. Why? I have this thing where if a guy asks me for my Instagram or my Snapchat and not my number,
I don't contact them. I don't give it to them. All guys under 6 feet or asking for your Instagram.
Some of them are boring. Some of them are ugly. I don't know, there's a lot of different factors.
Some of the guys over 6 feet are boring and ugly and ask and I don't talk to them either.
Okay, got it. You're just saying the majority of guys that you seem to see on the apps happy to be
over 6 feet? Yes. Fair enough. What are you on, Hinge? Yes. Any other dating apps? No. I tried
to get on Raya, but I wasn't able to. They're a little bit exclusive. Will you promise me that
you'll go on a date with a man under 6 feet in the next two weeks? Sure. I can do that. Is that
a hard promise? Are you nervous to do that or is that or is that ok with you? No I'm nervous.
You're gonna DM me, you're gonna tell me that you went on a date with a guy under 6 feet.
And then that guy, you're gonna also tell me you didn't ghost see him.
And then you told him that you didn't feel a connection with him just like I told you
to say earlier. How's that sound? That sounds perfect. We got a good deal here.