CAN ANGER BE GOOD ?
Anger is an issue, isn't it?
When you are locked in with the same people for so many days,
your opinions clash, your interests clash, your ideas clash,
your way of working clash, lifestyle clash.
All different type of clashes coming.
And the result is you burst up in anger.
Every time you are angry, you end up regretting it.
You know? The root cause of anger is righteousness.
I am right. If you think you are not right, you cannot get angry.
And if two people are angry at each other,
they both think they are right.
You talk to them individually or separately,
you will find they are right in their own way.
Now, righteousness is again a perception, is again a concept.
You see? On the other side, when you have a deep desire,
and it doesn't get fulfilled. You get frustrated,
and that frustration raise up anger.
The third incidences, when you are tired you're physically tired,
mentally tired, you’re worn out,
and you have not relieved the stresses that you have been carrying.
Anger by the way, is not bad.
If it stays only for a few seconds, it is okay.
The ancient people in India said: “How long the anger should stay?”
It should stay, only as long as the line that stays when you draw it on the water.
Anger can be used as a tool, to get your work done.
Sometimes kids don't listen to you when you tell them nicely.
You show some anger, they listen to you.
You are able to bring discipline.
Anger is okay.
But if it starts eating your own mind, eating your energy,
It will be disastrous for you.
Anger is like that fire which can give you warmth,
and which can burn you too.
Getting angry yourself, is not good for your body.
Your mind. Your soul. Your spirit.
But what do you do?
In this, one thing is you broaden your vision.
Don't hold on to this only “I am right”.
You accommodate others’ point of view also.
Everyone has got different understanding.
If you're a man or woman of perfection, then you're bound to get angry.
But know that not everybody can be as perfect as you are.
People have their own pace of growth.
So let them come. You cannot expect everyone to be in your level today.
You look back and see how you were before.
And other young people are coming in that line.
Do not question the intention of the other people.
Especially when they're so dear and near to you.
They also want to do good, like you.
Leave some room for imperfection.
Embrace imperfection. it is okay.
As long as it's not too harmful to life.
And if it's against injustice, show your anger.
But you getting angry, even about injustice,
it's not going to give you great ideas.
And it's not going to propel you to the right action.
One injustice cannot be eliminated by another injustice.
And I tell you if you are angry, if you are upset,
you will end up regretting all the actions you have done at that moment. That's why it's very, very, very important,
for everyone to have a say over their anger.
Few tips for you to see.
First, show to a Ayurvedic doctor.
They will tell you if you are a pita type of person,
They’ll prescribed your type of food you should eat.
Don't eat too much chili if you're pita type of person.
And don't fast too long.
Eat in time.
So when your pita is balanced you will not lose your temper for no reason.
And if anyone else is doing that.
Know that their pita is high and help to calm them down.
Give them some ice cream, milk.
Something that cools down the pita is necessary.
Number two, pranayama and meditation will help you.
They will calm down your pitta.
This will help you a great deal.
Third thing, is wisdom.
Broaden your awareness.
So what? Give some room for imperfection to be there.
And that's how the world is. You know ?
In tropical places the bushes are like this, you know?
It's all haywire.
And the temperature is high, the entropy is also high.
So, arguments, unnecessary arguments, we should avoid.
And another important thing I would say is when
someone is upset you also don't get upset the same time in the family.
Let them have their time if someone is yelling and shouting.
It is their time, give them their time.
You be spectator. Not one who is participant in that show.
You take your turn, I am not saying you be docile.
Another time you lose your temper you shout,
You show your anger.
So, the problem comes when everybody becomes an actor,
there is no spectator.
Take turns to get angry.
Especially among couple I would say,
if one is shouting the other should simply listen.
We should have fun in life.
Anger can also help in taking up challenges.
Which otherwise you may not do.
It can be a great motivational spirit here.
But without the bitterness.
If there is a bitterness that anger has caused within you,
it's going to eat you up inside.
So to keep anger at bay, you can do pranayama meditation.
Listen to music.
And have some sense of humor in life.
Humor is antidote to anger, you know?
And when you are centered, humor automatically will be there