that's right Tana mongeau just did a Chili's mukbang with her buddy Shane
Dawson Ryland Adams as well as Morgan and there's something that you probably
missed from my video and no I'm not talking about the boo thing what is up
everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but
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social media it's good times all right so yeah anyways I was just chilling I
saw and it's tana mongeau uploaded her video but Shane Dawson and Ryland and
Morgan adams and I was like huh let's check out let's see let's see what's going on
with these guys talking about it oh my god I was like reading through the
comments and stuff like that and aside from all the comments about boo figured
stuff like well people like I couldn't even understand what they were saying by
anyways there was a few things from this video that I think a lot of us can learn
from just as the viewers right like I'm a huge advocate of if you're like
consuming this content on YouTube we could take away from it was this Lord I
mean Hot Stuff know what I kind of want to
get involved not again how's it well about you Jake so it's like you know
maybe one of you has it like even mind like hating myself and depression ah
suddenly oh there's probably a name for this I should figure it out the video
went well and yes I think it's good Shane Dawson learning and being like now
I'm gonna stay away from this thing like tanah mojo and Jake Paul doing this
whole like sociopath test and everything like that by the way this is something
that that was really interesting when I watched this video because obviously
Tana mongeau had the whole Tanic own thing Shane Dawson got some pushback for his
Jay Paul series in the very beginning we're talking about the sociopath thing
but like this is what I'm always trying to teach people and there's something
I've had to learn as well is like we're gonna screw up we're gonna make a lot of
mistakes but the goal is to learn from those things but anyways what I wanted
to point out with Shane Dawson was talking about Hawaii
we all have something wrong with us right there's all of us you know and he
shares some of his own experience but like he actually mentioned this in the I
think the first episode of in the mind of Jake Paul series right we're like
there's something going on with like youtubers like who's gonna put
themselves on camera in front of the world like if there isn't something a
little bit wrong and like this is like true right and here's one of the reasons
why I'm so passionate about mental health so passionate about changing the
way we talk about mental health like mental health does not mean a lack of
mental illness so obviously there's the DSM the Diagnostic and Statistical
Manual for diagnosable mental illnesses but even that manual it is not like a
surefire thing right like the only reason that manual exists is so when you
see a mental health professional or a doctor and you start talking about the
symptoms of things that you're going through like they can kind of narrow it
down and say okay maybe you're struggling with this disorder and here
is how you treat it but the thing is is that you do not need a specific mental
illness to work on your mental health right like imagine if you only worked on
your physical health right if something was
wrong if you only exercise if you got diagnosed with the disease if you only
ate healthy foods if you got diagnosed something right so my question is why do
we do that with our mental health like you don't need to have major depressive
disorder you don't need to be a sociopath you don't need to have
narcissistic personality disorder you don't have to have those things to treat
those things right like most people go through bouts of depression most people
go through bouts of having anxiety especially with like life changes and
things like that happening so we need to be proactive and work on these things
right and that actually transitions into the next day I want to talk about which
is a few times in this video and this is probably like one of the biggest
questions that I get right I get this question all the time about dealing with
social anxiety and not wanting to hang out with people and this is actually
something I talk about in rewire your anxiety like it's so important to
understand that anxiety and depression they intertwine and when we isolate and
we don't hang out with friends and we don't get that kind of social
interaction it can actually fuel our depression and anxiety and this is based
off of evolutionary psychology because when we were hunters and gatherers and
traveling around in tribes like our body was giving us a warning like yo you need
to get back with people right because if you were out wandering in the woods by
yourself and get attacked by an animal you can like get hurt maybe you eat some
bad berries or something like that so the body will make you sad
they'll start making you anxious business saying look get back to the
tribe now many of us are in a situation like Shane Dawson might be right we're
we're in a relationship we have a certain you know amount of friends that
hang out with us but we don't hang out as much with other friends and this is
something that I can definitely relate to like I have a very small friend group
and I have a lot of acquaintances but here's my suggestion and you could take
it or leave it alright but like I get anxiety I I get
anxiety being in large crowds and sometimes I just don't want to go out
and things like that but one of the issues is that when we say no and we
turn things down people stop inviting us right and then we get into this thought
trap where we say no to hanging out because of our anxiety or because of our
depression and then people stop inviting us and then our brain starts telling us
that nobody likes us but the reality is is that people stop inviting us because
we keep turning them down like none of us like being rejected no body likes
being rejected so the suggestion I have what I try to do is when I don't feel
like hanging out if I'm you know just you know having one of my you know folks
or if my anxieties you know going and I turn somebody down something that I
always try to make sure that I do is thank that person for offering it right
I always make sure they know that I am very appreciative then the next thing I
do is I say hey next time you guys are doing something let me know and I'll try
to hang out but the caveats of that is we actually make an effort to go hang
out the next time see something I had to realize myself about my own anxiety and
being uncomfortable is it's not always about me right like a lot of us live in
this kind of selfish self-centered way and again if you're new to my channel
I'm not talking about Shane Dawson necessarily I'm talking about all of us
and what I've learned from my experience okay I'm not saying like Shane Dawson's
selfish self-centered and stuff but we need to look at our own lives right like
sometimes we just have to hang out like we just got to do it maybe we're not in
the mood or anything like that but we do it anyways because our friends want to
see us our family wants to see wanna hang out with us you know what I
mean but Shane Dawson specifically he does a bunch of like collabs and hops in
other people's videos and things like that and like we need to just do this
every now and again because we need to maintain our social connections like
today I had the opportunity like one of my best friends who I grew up with like
he just had a baby and I was able to go hang out with him and like since we've
got older we're both parents now and everything like that we don't hang out
all the time but today I was able to go out and hang out with him for the first
time and pull the last month or so you know what I mean but there comes a
certain point where we have to get up and just get out of our comfort zone and
do things because something I've learned a lot about with my own mental health
and I've seen it for other people too is it's not as much about what we want to
do but it's what we need to do you know what I mean and something we need to do
is get out be social and other people and hang out with other people so just
real quick real quick little side note here right was the whole Jana Khan thing
like that sounds like the worst idea ever like well Jake Paul does have like
a bigger team and it might be better organized and everything like that like
that would not go well what's crazy the craziest thing to me is they would
probably sell that thing out in a heartbeat
you know what I'd be but that seems like the worst idea like she needs to move on
just go to VidCon you know they forgave her you know she
forgives them and they're friends again just don't try to throw your own thing
again you know what I mean but anyways let's have a conversation down in the
comments below let me know if you struggle with isolating not wanting to
hang out with people can you relate to the thought track that I was talking
about where you keep telling people no and then your brain starts to tell you
that people just don't like hanging out with you let's have a conversation down
in the comments below all right but anyways that's all I got for this video
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