You know?
I'd like to believe Harry when he talks about all his struggles with mental health and how
he had to endure years of silence about this topic.
But there's a big problem, and it's that every time he sits down to address the topic he
seems to... let's say change things a bit.
And this is an excellent opportunity to make a comparison between the actual words that
have come out of his mouth in different occassions.
Because verbal analysis plays a huge part in human behavior and you should always pay
attention to what people actually say.
And there's always that member of the family that somehow changes the narrative to fit
them... and it seems that they always get away with it.
I'm going to address that too.
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Harry has made a conscious effort to make it clear about his situation inside the Royal
Family and his struggles with mental health.
The most relevant are the Oprah Interview...
- You were ashamed of admitting that Meghan needed help.
- Yeah.
- I don't have anyone to turn to.
Uhm...
- But for the family they just have this mentality of... this is just how it is.
And the docuseries The Me You Can't See, where he states, literally,
"I wasn't in an environment where I was encouraged to talk about it, either", referring to the
topic of mental health.
But, I'm confused.
In May 2017 he sat down with Kate and William for the Heads Together initiative on mental
health and he said some really revealing words:
- I always thought to myself, what's the point of bringing up the past, what's the point
of bringing up something that's only going to make you sad.
It ain't going to change it, it ain't going to bring her back, and when you start thinking
like that it can be really damaging.
You always said to me you have got to sit down and think about those memories, but for
me it was like I don't want to think about it.
- You always said to me you have got to sit down and think about those memories, but for
me it was like I don't want to think about it.
Yeah, he said that William always told him to sit down and think about those memories,
and we can imagine that it wasn't just to sit down but to talk to someone that could
help him.
And one year before that, in July 2016, at a Heads Together event at Kensington Palace,
he stated publicly that "anyone can suffer from mental health problems, even a member
of the royal family".
In fact, he was actively engaged with William and Kate in raising awareness about this topic.
But again, in the Oprah interview he wanted to change the narrative and act like he had
never had absolutely anything remotely related to support from his family, which we just
confirmed, from his own mouth and actions, that this statement of being on his own was
not true.
Now, I find this kind of behavior incredibly annoying.
Let's think about a very, very common example.
Let's say that your father has a drinking problem.
You've tried to suggest ways to solve it, but speaking strictly just by yourself hasn't
gone anywhere.
You decide to team up with your brother, you speak to him, hey! our father is in a very
dark place, you know what has already happened in all those family reunions, and... we should
stop this!
You think your brother agrees with your point of view and then you decide to bring up the
subject to your father being your brother present.
What happens?
your brother says that he doesn't know what you're talking about, that he doesn't share
your point of view or maybe, if he acknowledges the conversation, he'll say that he didn't
think it was a good idea to bring it up.
You end up being the crazy one.
Now, the first reaction that any person can have in this sort of situations is that you
want to scream to their faces in front of everyone that "you're such a coward".
Because that's what it feels like.
They have a previous narrative, previous words, previous actions, and you've been involved
with them, maybe suffering the same as them... and then the story changes completely and
you're left in the curb.
Harry even went as far as trying to imply that it was Meghan's idea that he seek therapy,
when all these initiatives where he was involved with William and Kate were on full flight
even before meeting his wife.
Now, I'm sure you want to ask the question, why does he pretend to change everything that
he has said, everything that he has shown the world to make it seem like he realized
everything when Meghan came into his life?
And there's also the fact that Harry was trying to expressly deny that his family had made
any comments about the abuse and harassment on Meghan by the tabloids:
- And specifics around her race, it was an opportunity, many opportunities, for my family
to show some public support.
Ok, he claims that, but then...
I'm even more confused, because there was this statement from Kensington Palace, back
in November 2016, condemning the abuse and harassment, including the racial undertones,
that Meghan was suffering from the media.
Excuse me, but that is not bad memory.
I think one of the strongest theories is that he is desperately trying for people to like
her.
And I think that's something we all learn in school, and not in a good way.
The more you want people to like you, you are just going to have the opposite effect.
And what Harry is trying, is to present Meghan, over and over again, like she's fighting against
this huge juggernaut of The Firm, when they already left.
That has been the greatest contradiction.
You told everyone that you left to have a 'normal' life, to have a 'private' life, to
leave your Royal Duties but all that you have done so far is to use your royal titles as
a crutch.
And the problem is that it's not just the titles.
After all, titles don't mean anything, right? but the problem is that you still use the
figure of the Monarchy to paint yourself like you're fighting something.
There's an interesting fact that maybe you're not aware of.
The Oprah interview was scheduled to be online for just 30 days after it happened, and then
it was absolutely removed from everywhere.
You cannot watch it online anymore.
This is done on purpose so it just fades from people's memory, I mean, beyond some clips
that are going to be played over and over again, and the memes that I'm going to keep
on pushing, most of the interview is no longer online.
Don't you find it odd that the video where both Meghan and Harry accuse the Royal Family,
no longer exists?
That is like saying, "I don't want to continue this conversation over text or email, I want
to have this conversation in person", that's very convenient because that way, there will
be no records of what's being said.
I really used to give Harry the benefit of the doubt.
But after reviewing their case over and over again I noticed inconsistencies and contradictions
that are far beyond what a simple slip of the mind, or that's not what I meant, could
justify.
And that's why I mention those hypothetical examples in families.
Because they happen all the time and those kind of people almost always get away with
it.
And you always end up feeling powerless because you know that what they said is simply not
true.
It's only that it's really sad, seeing a grown man trying to run away from something, only
to complain over and over again how that something affected him deeply and continues to do so.
When it seems like five years ago, it was a totally different person.
And here's my recommendation for you in this kind of situations.
You will never win an argument with this kind of people.
They will change their narrative over and over again and paint themselves as the victims.
You will feel really powerless and frustrated, and the only thing that you can reasonably
do is to limit your interactions and cut any contact with them.
But when they notice that you ignore them, they will try to come back.
Interact with you again, provoke you again.
Get any reaction from you again.
And that's why I'm absolutely sure that every time Harry runs out of clout, he's going to
go back to the UK to get a fresh supply of it.
So much for a 'normal' life.
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