Hey everybody today on the show we're talking about le-le-le-le-le-le-lesbians.
Last week on the show I answered the question of whether or not girls are more easily grossed
out than guys. Got some great gross out comments. Maxbyer who said, 'I'm a twenty something
guy who can't sit through a human biology class because thinking about insides makes
me ridiculously squeamish.' It's incredible that we have to walk around in this skin and
guts suit because it makes so many of us so disgusted. Svenypoodles had this to say. 'I
think a big part of this is the "man up" factor that teaches men to temper their feelings.
It's not manly to be disgusted by spiders to the point where you run away from them.
It's manly to kill the spiders. Once you start killing spiders and you realize it's no big
deal the feeling of disgust or fear diminishes.' I guess I haven't killed enough spiders because
they gross me out and I get Professor Boyfriend to kill them. Just want to let Danny Alasce,
alas, Danny alas? Know that I have seen your request for a video on the sexual double standard
and I am making it. Keep an eye out for it on Stuff Mom Never Told You the channel. This
week on the show I actually want to tackle two questions along the same lines. Kelsey
Morgan asks, 'What I want to know is why some me believe a woman "turns" gay or why they
believe they can turn a girl straight. Why is it so weird for a woman (such as myself)
to be gay?' Jay Jay Naing says, 'Cristen I want to ask you something. Whenever I tell
straight men who are hitting on me that I'm gay, why do they always take it as I got hurt
by a guy before and that's why I turned gay? Why can't they accept the fact that she is
gay because she is?!' According to the Williams Institute out of UCLA an estimated 3.5% of
adults in the US identify as lesbian, gay or bisexual and an estimated .3% of adults
are transgendered. The people who don't accept that you are a lesbian are the weird ones
because they don't accept statistical facts. Let's imagine a straight guy hanging out at
a bar, he's approached by a gay guy who says hey man uh, love to take you out sometime.
The guy says oh no no no no man I'm into chicks. The gay guy says what no you are way too hot
to be, you're way too hot to be straight. You clearly like penis and even if you say
you don't I'm going to show you how much you like penis. The straight guy would then flip
his lid. There are plenty of open-minded, educated, straight guys who understand what
sexual orientation is. There are still plenty of straight guys who have this sort of 'Chasing
Amy' influenced idea that female sexuality is so fluid. If a woman says that she's a
lesbian then it just means that she hasn't had the right kind of penis. Really flawed
heteronormative backward thinking that guys need to scrub out from their brains. I do
think that some of it stems from this pop-cultural fetishisation of attractive lesbians. Katy
Perry singing about kissing a girl and liking it. Hot cheerleader characters on Glee making
out. So much in porn of hot lesbian action and then finally a guy walks into the room
and they're like come on. Guys, even if you have a massive crush on a lesbian because
she's like the coolest woman, you just don't know what to do cause she's a woman and that's
the way that your sexual orientation flows, you need to respect the fact that that's not
the way her sexual orientation flows. As for the question of why some straight men still
insist that they can "turn" lesbians or sleep with them or date them, whatever, I think
that there are a lot of different factors involved, such as basic ignorance about how
sexual orientation works, lack of respect on their part, some male ego involved, tied
to that this pop-cultural fetishisation. But I think also under girding a lot of this is
straight privilege, never having our dominant structure of the way that we do relationships
and the way that we do sex being challenged. I think that we need to talk more about too
consent in the sense of not challenging women who say that they don't want your number or
they don't want to whatever. All of this is part of this massive stewpot of issues that
need to be worked out in 21st century dating, sex and relationships. Now I want to hear
what you think about this, has this ever happened to you? Have you ever don this to someone?
I want to know too whether you also think that there is a broader problem of no not
being taken for an answer, not in the sense of in the bedroom consent but even way before
that. Let me know in the comments below and as always ask me your questions so that I
can answer.