>> I WOULD SAY JUST MAKING SURE WE TALK ABOUT HOPE. AND RESEARCHERS SAY.
>> THE NEWS OF THIS WEEK IS
WEIGHING SO HEAVILY ON ALL OF
OUR HEARTS AND ALL OF OUR
MINDS. A LOT OF US STRUGGLING
TO COME UP WITH THE WORDS TO
HOW WE’RE FEELING AND WHAT
WE’RE WHAT WE’RE THINKING ABOUT
WHAT HAS HAPPENED IN UVALDE,
ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO
TALKING TO OUR KIDS ABOUT THAT.
SO IN TODAY’S CASE OF CUMIN, A
WE HAVE DOCTOR BARBARA ROADLESS
ROMA MURPHY WITH UT HEALTH,
SAN ANTONIO, A CHILD AND
ADOLESCENT PSYCHIATRIST.
DOCTOR, THANK YOU FOR BEING
THIS. THIS IS A REALLY, REALLY
DIFFICULT WEEK.
AND I I WANT JUST TO START THIS
CONVERSATION ABOUT JUST THAT.
WHERE DO YOU START TO TALK TO
A CHILD ABOUT WHAT THEY’RE
HEARING AND WHAT HAS HAPPENED.
>> YES, I MEAN, THANK YOU BOTH
FOR HAVING THESE IMPORTANT
CONVERSATIONS. WE WANT TO BE
HAVING THESE TOUGH
CONVERSATIONS ON A REGULAR
BASIS. RYAN NOT GOING JUST WHEN
TRAGEDY BUT CERTAINLY IT’S
IMPORTANT THAT WE ALL LEARNED
TO HAVE THESE DIFFICULT
CONVERSATIONS IN A WAY. I THINK
IT’S GOOD THAT WE’RE ALL
STRUGGLING SO MUCH TO HEAR THIS
NEWS BECAUSE THESE ARE NOT
NORMAL MEANS THESE ARE NOT
THINGS WE WOULD BE SEEING ON A
REGULAR BASIS. AND SO I THINK
THAT’S THE FIRST STEP TO SAY
THAT THIS IS A VERY HUMAN
RESPONSE THAT WE’RE ALL HAVING
THIS THAT THAT DEATH OF, YOU
KNOW, CALLED DEEP. IT GOES.
IT SHOWS IS THAT WE ALL CARE
ABOUT EACH OTHER I FEEL SAFE.
BUT LIFE ISN’T SO.
WE CAN ACKNOWLEDGE THAT FOR
US IN AND BE OKAY WITH THAT
THING. LEARN TO FEEL IT AND OUR
TO TO NOT BE GATED.
>> IT’S JUST IT. IT IS SO
DIFFICULT BECAUSE
THESE ARE THINGS OUR CHILDREN
ARE GOING THROUGH THAT MANY OF
US DIDN’T AT THAT AGE. WHAT
DO YOU SAY? I MEAN, WHAT DO YOU
HOW DO YOU YOU KNOW WHAT?
WHAT ARE TIPS FOR TALKING TO
EITHER YOUR YOUNGSTER OR YOUR
ADOLESCENT ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED?
WHAT PLAYED OUT IN THE VALLEY.
>> HE HAS. SO I THINK TALKING
TO A LOT OF JOURNALISTS AND OUR
HAPPY TO SHARE SOME RESOURCES.
BUT BASICALLY WE START WHERE
YOUR CHILD IS A TERM STUFF,
DEVELOPMENTAL STAGE, THEIR
ABILITY TO PROCESS THIS
INFORMATION IN WHAT THEY HAVE
HEARD ALREADY, WHAT THEY
ALREADY KNOW. SO ASKING
QUESTIONS OPEN, ENDED QUESTIONS
IN MISSING TO WHAT THEY’RE
TELLING YOU ALL SERVING THEIR
BEHAVIOR. HOW ARE THEY
RESPONDING? ARE THEY SEEMING
AND SHE SAYS, I MEAN, EATING
MORE SOUP OR MORE REASSURANCE,
MORE CONNECTION. THOSE COULD BE
SIGNS THAT THEY’RE FEELING THE
STRESS WHETHER OR NOT THEY KNOW
THE NEWS THAT THE SITUATION
AND SO UNDERSTANDING WHAT THEY
KNOW ALREADY. THAT’S WHERE WE
WANT TO START. AND THEN YOU CAN
BE BASED ON WHAT THEY ALREADY
KNOW. IF YOU CAN SEE WHAT
QUESTIONS THEY HAVE AND HOW YOU
CAN SUPPORT THEIR UNDERSTANDING
AND ACTS OR THAT THEY DON’T BUY
ALLOWING THEM TO ASK MORE
QUESTIONS, SHOW YOU THAT
THEY’RE PROCESSING THE
INFORMATION OR HOW THEY’RE
PROCESSING AND THEN YOU TAKE IT
FROM THERE BASED ON, YOU KNOW.
WHERE THEY WANT TO TAKE IT,
HOW HEALTHY THEY WANT TO TAKE
THAT CONVERSATION. AND I THINK,
YOU KNOW, IT’S IMPORTANT THAT
WE AS ADULTS LEARN TO.
HOW WEAK THIS WE NEED TOUGH
PEOPLE, CONGRESS STATIONS
BECAUSE WHEN WE A FEELING THAT
MEAN WE MAY NOT WANT TO TALK
ABOUT IT. THE LITTLE ONES THAT
THEY’RE HEARING THIS NEWS, THEY
MIGHT BE HEARING FROM FRIENDS
AT SCHOOL OR ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
AND SO IT’S IMPORTANT THAT WE
OPEN UP THOSE SPACES FOR THEM.
YEAH, I’M GLAD YOU BROUGHT UP
SOCIAL MEDIA BECAUSE IT IS SUCH
AN INFLUENCE, ESPECIALLY ON
TEENS. AND, YOU KNOW, KIDS WHO
ARE OF AN AGE WHERE THEY HAVE
THEIR PHONES IN THEIR HANDS ALL
THE TIME.
>> AND BUT I HAVE ON SOCIAL
MEDIA HEARD PARENTS SAY, YOU
KNOW, I WANT TO SHIELD MY CHILD
FROM THIS. I DON’T I DON’T WANT
TO TALK TO THEM ABOUT IT
BECAUSE I DON’T WANT THEM TO
FEAR SCHOOL. AND I’M JUST
CURIOUS IN THIS DAY AND AGE
LIKE STEVE SAID, THIS IS THIS
IS A PART OF OUR KIDS.
>> LIVES. THEY ARE GOING
THROUGH ACTIVE SHOOTER DRILLS.
THESE ARE CONVERSATIONS THAT
THEY’RE HAPPEN HAVING IN
SCHOOL.
>> DO YOU THINK THERE IS HARM
OR IS IT TO A CHILD’S
DETRIMENTAL NOT TO TALK TO THEM
ABOUT WHAT HAS HAPPENED THIS
WEEK, NOT TO HAVE THAT
CONVERSATION. IT AND I’M SURE
AGE PLAYS A FACTOR IN THAT,
TOO. BUT I’M I’M CURIOUS TO
GET YOUR THOUGHTS ON THAT.
>> WITH THE LITTLE ONE WHO MAY
NOT BE EXPOSED TO NEWS RADIO TV
OR OTHER PEOPLE OUTSIDE THE
HOME. IT’S DEFINITELY, YOU
KNOW, NOT NECESSARY FOR THEM TO
KNOW IF THERE’S NO NEED FOR
THEM TO HEAR
THIS NEWS. BUT I DO WANT TO
REMIND PARENTS THAT A LOT OF
TIMES ADULTS TO
COME OUT SENSITIVE
CONVERSATIONS AROUND LITTLE
ONES THINKING THAT THEY MIGHT
NOT MAY BE LISTENING. BUT I CAN
TELL YOU I HAVE A FOUR-YEAR-OLD
WHICH THERE’S EVERYTHING I’M
SAYING. HE DOES FOLLOW UP WITH
QUESTIONS. AND SO KEEP THAT
IN MIND JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE NOT
TALKING ABOUT IT DOESN’T MEAN
THEY’RE NOT LISTENING. 2 OTHER
PEOPLE TALK ABOUT IT IN TERMS
OF SHIELDING OUR KIDS FROM THE
HARD REALITY THAT THEY ARE
GETTING. IT’S JUST A POSSIBLE
ONCE THEY GET TO 8 AND BEYOND,
ESPECIALLY ONCE THEY HAVE A
PHONE AND THEY’RE ACCESSING
SOCIAL MEDIA, IT’S JUST
IMPOSSIBLE TO SHIELD THEM FROM
THESE NEWS. AND SO. I REALLY
ENCOURAGE PARENTS TO FIND WAYS
TO TALK ABOUT THE STOP FOR
CONVERSATIONS. IT’S NOT EASY.
I’M NOT PRETENDING THAT SEEING
NONE OF US WANT TO HAVE
THESE CONVERSATIONS. BUT
THROUGHOUT TIME, EVIL
PSYCHOLOGY HAS TAUGHT IS THAT
OPENING NOT THOSE CONVERSATIONS
REGARDING THOSE DIFFICULT
TOPICS THAT ARE TOP 2 IN OUR
OR ARE DIFFICULT SUCH AS, FOR
EXAMPLE, THAT DRUGS, ALL OF
THESE THINGS, WE KNOW THAT
PARENTS AND FAMILIES TO OPEN UP
THOSE SPACES FOR KIDS TO LEARN
FROM TRUSTED SOURCES OF
INFORMATION.
TEND TO DO BETTER THAN WHEN
THEY TRY TO NAVIGATE THIS
INFORMATION ABOUT THEMSELVES.
AND WE DON’T KNOW WHAT THEY’RE
GETTING THEIR INFORMATION.
>> I KNOW YOUR CHILD AND
ADOLESCENT PSYCHIATRIST.
BUT FOR ADULTS, ISN’T IT ALSO
IMPORTANT FOR US TO ADMIT?
THAT WE’RE NOT OKAY, BUT THIS
IS AFFECTING US THAT THIS IS
TROUBLING TO US. WHAT HAPPENED
IN THE VALLEY AND THEN AND AND
DO WE LET OUR KIDS SEE THAT?
>> IT IS ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY.
THAT WE STILL ARE HAVING THESE
VERY TOUGH AND HONEST AND OPEN
SETTLED BECAUSE WE OFTEN DON’T
TALK ABOUT THE SPACESUITS
YOU KNOW, LOSS
AND GRIEF HARDSHIPS. ALL OF
THESE THINGS ARE PART OF OUR
TEAM TO EXPERIENCE WHAT WE HAVE
TO LEARN, HOW TO TALK ABOUT IT.
AND SO IT’S IT’S EXTREMELY
IMPORTANT AS A CHILD.
PSYCHIATRY IS. I THINK IT’S
EVEN MORE IMPORTANT THAT WE ARE
KIND OF HAVE THESE DIFFICULT
CONVERSATIONS WHEN WE HAVE
KIDS. AND WHEN THOSE KIDS
AROUND THIS PEAK, THAT
EDUCATORS, RIGHT? SO ANYONE WAS
LOOKING AT KIDS NEED TO LEARN
HOW TO PROCESS THESE DIFFICULT
EXPERIENCES SO THAT THEY CAN
KNOW HOW TO TALK ABOUT IT WITH
THE YOUNG ONES. ABSOLUTELY.
>> IT’S DIFFICULT TO KNOW WHERE
TO START, BUT THE POINT IS JUST
START SOMEWHERE. YOU DON’T HAVE
TO BE PERFECT. YEAH, YEAH.
OR HAVEN’T COME TO LOVE THAT.
YOU GET A LOT OF LISTENING AND
YOU CAN LEARN TO JUST LET
PEOPLE EXPRESS.
>> THEIR EMOTIONS, THEIR
EXPERIENCES, THEIR PM’S WITHOUT
HAVING TO GUIDE THEM ALL THE
TIME. SO WE CAN ALL LEARN HOW
TO DO THAT A LITTLE BIT BETTER.
AND BY LEARNED BY LISTENING,
WE CAN LEARN HOW TO EXPRESS
OURSELVES AS WELL.
>> DOCTOR ROWE BLAZE FROM EARTH