- (narrator) This devoted dad sits with his son in Glendale Cemetery
for an hour every morning. - That's pretty good.
- Oh God.
- (narrator) When February's wind chills dropped to 40 below,
Pat wore four layers, but he was here.
♪ (rock intro) ♪
- So I wanted to start off by saying
we wanted to issue a happy Father's Day!
- Thank you so much! Oh my goodness.
- For this episode today, we have a whole bunch of dads in,
and we wanted to do a special challenge
that we did last year for Father's Day,
and again recently for Mother's Day.
- Ooh, okay.
- This is going to be a Try Not To Cry Challenge.
- You guys always make me work. Alright, I'll try.
- For this challenge, we're gonna make it
a little bit more difficult for you all,
because all of these videos are gonna be surrounding dads.
- (laughs) Oh no.
- For each video, whether it made you cry or not,
what we're gonna do is have you rate it
on a scale from one to five,
based on how emotional you thought it was,
with five being the highest.
- Okay, okay.
- Ugh, yes, let's do it.
- (narrator) On Father's Day. - (Pat) Hi son.
- (narrator) Plenty of kids pull up a chair
for a summertime chat with dad.
- (Pat) Morning son.
- (narrator) Pat Steinbach would give anything.
- (Pat) I can still picture him when he was little.
- To be with him.
- (Pat) You know, 8, 9, 10 years old. - Yeah.
- (Pat) You know, happy Father's Day, and just his smile.
- (narrator) When Pat lost his dad, Father's Day was tough,
but it's worse, he says, when a father loses his boy.
- Yeah, that changes thing. - (Pat) I always think of him.
I mean, I can tell you all day long, I think of him.
People honk and wave all the time.
- That's cool.
- (narrator) Because this devoted dad sits with his son
in Glendale Cemetery for an hour every morning.
- That's pretty good. - Oh God.
- (narrator) When February's wind chills dropped to 40 below...
- Oh my gosh! - The pop's getting frozen.
- (narrator) Pat wore four layers, but he was here.
- Wow, that's dedication.
- (Pat) When I came out here that night...
- Being the parent left over sounds like your whole goal in life
is kind of lost, right? And you're lost.
- (Pat) When I came out here that night after he died,
and I laid on top of the flowers,
I told him Matthew, I'm never gonna let you be forgotten.
(Dave sighs)
I'm not gonna do it.
And I think in a way, we've succeeded.
- Yeah. That one was sad. (laughs)
That was really sad, that made me cry.
- That's tragedy.
I think this one is more difficult as a father.
I understand how that gentleman could feel,
and he has to maintain his relationship with his son.
- That's a five, I'm close.
There is absolutely nothing worse than that.
- Obviously four on this one.
I feel a little bit more remorseful for him,
you know, it's terrible.
- Give that a four.
- I think my feeling of emotion is probably hanging around a two.
(bell rings)
- I'm gonna give it a five!
- That's gotta be a five. I lost my mom a few years ago,
and when he talked about laying on the flowers,
going and laying on the grave, I can relate to that.
- (man) There's a pen. - (woman) Go ahead.
- (man) I got a pen!
(Daryl laughs)
(Hugh laughs)
Oh, there's stuff to be read. Adult adoption?
- Oh.
- (man) What the hell is this?
- You gotta sign it, that's what the pen is for.
- (woman) Do you know what that is?
- (man) Am I adopting you?
- (woman) I want you to, you don't have to,
you could say no, but I want you to adopt me.
You've been my dad, and the legal papers don't change anything,
but I appreciate you. (man cries)
- Oh wow. (laughs)
- That's the kinda love I was talking about!
- (woman) You've been there my whole life.
- You know, this one's very emotional to me.
I am in a lucky, enviable position of being a step father.
I got two teenage daughters.
A lot of times, fathers, children, you're forced, right?
You're a family forced by birth.
When someone chooses, I think that touches me so much.
That's her choice, and she's making her choices
based on his raising of her, and his choices,
and what he's done, and that's her way of paying him back,
and I think that's beautiful.
- Sounds like he's been a great guy.
You know what I mean, taking, as far as a father.
You know, I respect that,
and you know, that sounds like he's a good guy.
- One thing is to know that he did a good job, you know?
As a dad, and when they're grown, if they look back
and say well, could they come and visit their dad?
They show the love like the daughter right there.
That's when you say well, I did my job.
I did a good job, you know?
- That touches my heart.
I think that goes even higher, I think for me, that's a three.
Definitely touches my heartstrings, I like that stuff.
- All of 'em are so tough. I would put that one up there too,
so it's like a four.
- Yeah, that was a four as well.
- That one might be a four too.
- Oh, that's gotta be a five, but for different reasons, right?
God, that was a happy five. That was a good one.
- I'm gonna give it a four, because in order for this to happen,
it took a long, long time.
For that moment to take place, woo, a lot of tough times happened,
and that's why I'm gonna give it a four.
Maybe I'm not crying, but I know that that is some,
you know, doesn't happen to everybody.
- Oh.
- (woman) You're not gonna break it.
- (Chris) I thought it was just like Scotch tape.
- Oh. - (Chris) It's like reinforced.
- (woman) I think it is just Scotch tape.
- And he has no idea, clearly.
- (Chris) Are you kidding me? - Uh oh.
- (Chris) Babe, are you serious?
- He's like please don't mess with me. - (woman) Dead serious. (laughs)
- Look at his face!
- (woman) Dead serious.
- (laughs) Oh, look at that. Look at that.
- (woman) Are you happy, are you happy?
- Aw.
- (Chris) Oh man, it doesn't even feel real.
(Daryl laughs) - (woman) You're gonna be a dad!
- That's so cute.
- (Chris) This does not feel real. Feels like a dream.
- Oh, that's good. I'm happy for them.
If you find out you cannot have kids, right?
Or you're trying, and you know, nothing is happening,
I cannot imagine what a person feels when that happens, you know?
So for them to find out they can, you know, and that she's positive,
that she's pregnant, that's amazing, you know?
I'm glad about that.
- Each time you are reminded that that's gonna happen,
it's not quite real until it happens.
There's two big deals there, right?
The first one is when you find out,
and the second one is when the baby's there.
In the middle, you're kinda, you're not,
it's not like you don't believe,
but you don't have anything really tangible.
You know, your wife starts to show,
but even still, I mean, then when you have the baby,
wow, it's amazing.
- We've had people that have been friends
that have tried for years,
and I know how emotional that's been for them.
So I would rate that one way up there too,
that's another four.
- I would say four again.
New life is just the beautiful-est thing.
- Still probably a four. (laughs)
- I'm going in with a four on that one.
- Knowing that they said, you know,
they were waiting for a child,
I'm gonna give it a four, because a lot of people
take that for granted, you know?
They have no idea what it feels like
to hope to have another baby, you know, marry someone,
and have that life, the lifestyle,
and for a person to find out that that cannot happen.
- I rate that one probably higher than all of them.
It probably touched me more than any.
Probably four on that one.
- (anchor) I met Kobe one time,
backstage at an event for ESPN in New York.
- Ah. - (anchor) And I saw him,
and I thought oh my gosh, that's Kobe, I gotta get a picture,
for the 'gram.
- Kobe's such a cool guy.
- (anchor) I didn't get it for a few minutes.
- Big fan.
- (anchor) Because as I approached him he immediately commented
on my rather large, eight month pregnant belly.
"How are you? How close are you?
What are you having?"
A girl, I said, and then he high fived me.
"Girls are the best!"
- Oh.
- (anchor) I asked him for advice on raising girls,
seeing as though he quite famously had three at the time.
- Yeah, he became more of a father.
- (anchor) And he said just be grateful
that you've been given that gift, because girls are amazing.
- I really feel for that one.
I mean, it's strange how you get really so proud
of each of them individually and judge them all individually,
and I'm a huge Kobe Bryant fan and it was just devastating
to see, you know, the loss of life of him and his daughter.
- It's just amazing that he was just telling his wife how blessed she was,
not knowing what was about to occur.
- (anchor) Their daughter, Bianka,
was about a year and a half old at the time,
so I asked if he wanted more children,
and he said that his wife Vanessa really wanted to try again for a boy,
but was sort of jokingly concerned that it would be another girl.
- Another girl. (laughs)
- (anchor) And I was like four girls, are you joking?
What would you think? - Oh my gosh.
- (anchor) How would you feel?
And without hesitation... - Yeah.
- (anchor) He said I would have five more girls if I could.
I'm a girl dad.
When it came to sports, he said that his oldest daughter
was an accomplished volleyball player,
and that the youngest was a toddler, so TBD, but that middle one,
he said that middle one was a monster,
she's a beast. - Wow!
- (anchor) She's better than I was at her age.
- It is, you know, it's sad. - (anchor) She had it.
That middle one, of course, was Gigi.
When I reflect on this tragedy, and that half an hour
that I spent with Kobe Bryant two years ago.
- I, yeah, wow, that's heavy.
- (anchor) A small source of comfort for me
is knowing that he died doing what he loved the most,
being a dad, being a girl dad.
- Man, that's rough.
I think about people who make it past 70 or 80,
and when they die, at least you can kinda
put a check in the box saying well you know,
the guy made it to 80, that's pretty awesome, you know?
I hope to make it to that.
But people who get snapped up early, there's no reason for it.
It's just a bunch of missed opportunities.
You know, they just missed opportunities to live their life.
That's a four.
- I definitely give that one a four.
- It just sounds like a three. - That was three.
- I've already kind of been through the shock
and you know, that kinda thing of the whole event,
so probably just like a three.
- I probably got more into you know, the relationship
between the father and the daughter
and understanding where he was coming from,
and going with him, so for me,
it was probably around a two.
The situation itself is a five.
(laughs) Without question.
I probably went into it thinking that you weren't
gonna get me to feel emotional,
but you kinda ramped up on me there.
As dads, we just go, and go and go,
and we keep trying our best.
Working hard, and we don't tend to be emotional creatures
and think about all these things,
and when we see it live in front of you,
it's kinda put into my face,
so it was more challenging than I thought it would be.
- We don't have any more videos for you,
but we got one last surprise.
- Oh my God! - Hi dad!
- Hi papi! - Hi papi!
- Who are those two ugly kids?
- Oh my God!
- Oh, is it Anahita?
I didn't break my record.
I was like I only do this with Anahita!
I'm used to sitting in the chair next to her,
and she's my comfort zone.
- I'm nervous! - So now my comfort's back,
and my nerves drop back down, that is so awesome.
- Happy Father's Day!
Thank you so much for
[censored] start crying already. (laughs)
- Oh my God, I'm gonna cry. (laughs) Okay.
I just wanna say happy Father's Day,
and I won't be here on Father's Day, 'cause I'll be in California,
but I just wanna say I appreciate you so much.
- Let you know I love you, and I appreciate
everything you do for us, you've always been so hardworking,
and I'll always be grateful for you dad. (laughs)
- Just wanted to say that the hard work and effort
that you put into everything has always been an inspiration
to both of us, and we will never forget
how much you've pushed us to grow as people.
- You for being a great friend to me. You know?
You're not just a dad, you're like one of my best friends.
- You came into our lives at such a difficult time,
and you were like helping us through our homework, hours,
like, even when you weren't dating my mom,
you were just helping us constantly with everything,
even my boy dramas, my girl dramas.
Daryl's the first person I go to,
I don't even go to my mom first,
I'm like ah, she'll figure it out at some point.
- Thank you for being there when I felt like I had nobody,
and that was like, a really dark day of mine,
and you helped me out of that hole.
Thank you for giving me all of my best childhood memories,
like when you took me on my first roller coaster,
and you had to hold the bar down on my lap,
because I was too small to fit.
- I remember when we were little and how much you would play with us,
and how Andrew and I would ride your back
when we were little, you know,
and I was your little pumpkin then, and I am your little pumpkin now.
- That's right, you were my little pumpkin.
- It's just, I admire that you're driven,
and you're dedicated, and even if it takes twice as long,
or even 10 years too long to get something done,
you always do it the right way. Love you, dad.
- Yep, I love you too. - Happy Father's Day.
- Anahita, quite honestly, you invited me into your family,
you're the one who accepted, you're the older sister,
you're the one that I came to and said look, I wanna date your mom.
You're the one that I talked to before I talked to
your grandpa and your grandma and your mom about getting married,
and you made me part of this family. - Yeah.
- And I love you for it. - I love you!
- You've made me so happy, and I wouldn't change anything.
I'm looking forward to us spending the next 20 years together!
- Yes! The next forever!
- 40 years, yeah. - Yes, more than 20 years.
- However long I'm alive. - Are you kidding me?
- Thanks for watching this episode of Dads React.
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- Til the next episode fam!
- Hey everyone, Lauren, Producer here at FBE.
Thank you guys so much for watching
this special Dad Edition of Try Not To Cry.
We wanted to wish all the dads out there a happy Father's Day!
Hope you're all staying safe. Bye!