Hey there, this is Clay and I'm still in Vancouver but today I want to talk about one of the
most common things that people tell us, on our newsletter.
And when, when they first sign up, we ask them to fill out a survey.
And one of the things that we asked them is what they really want is to help them with.
And one of the most common things that they say is that they just want to be happy again,
that they don't want to feel bad anymore and I want to talk to you about that because a
lot of people try to block off wall out the bad, so that they can feel the good, but it
doesn't work that way.
Because when you're, when you're blocking off certain emotions, when you're walling
yourself off from certain feelings, what you're actually doing is you're also choking off
your capacity to feel positive feelings, to feel feelings like happiness and joy and bliss.
You're blocking those off too.
And instead, what you need to do is you need to really live with your heart ripped open.
You have to be able to feel all of the pain, all of the suffering, all the sadness that
comes from the breakup that comes from feeling any kind of of difficult situation in life
or in love.
You have to be willing to feel that, to let it wash over you, to feel every last drop
of, of pain and sadness and regret and remorse.
You have to be willing to open yourself up to that so that those emotions can come out,
that they can resolve themselves and that then you can have that space for the love
and the happiness and the joy and the bliss to come in.
You know, you can't just choke off one emotion and just expect that there's is not going
to choke off everything else that you might want.
All the, all the good stuff too.
You have to really be open to feeling every emotion, whether that's pain or sorrow or
regret or, or, or guilt or anything like that.
You have to be willing to experience all of that so that you can also have the space in
your life to experience the good as well.
You can't just pick and choose when it comes to emotions, you can't just, you know, yeah,
I'm just gonna pretend like I'm happy.
I'm just going to fake it till I make it.
I don't believe in fake it till you make it.
I think you should be able to feel every emotion, not just kind of wall off the bad ones and
you just, you know, paint a happy face over it because, because that's not really being
in touch with you and emotions.
That's not really a genuine expression of how you actually feel and you know, if you
try to interact with, with your ex or if anyone else, from that point, from that emotional
point, we are walling off certain emotions and blocking them off to, so you can pretend
to be in a positive emotional state.
They're going to be able to sense that they're going to be able to sense that there's something
off with you and that you know, you're not really being genuine and, and that's not going
to be attractive.
That's going to repel them.
It's going to, it's going to feel like you have this sort of hidden ulterior motive,
this hidden agenda.
And and that's not a very attractive quality in a person.
So I would really strongly encourage you, you know, it may be difficult, it may be challenging
to, to really experienced all of these painful feelings, but I'm on the other side of all
that pain.
There will come.
The Joy, the happiness, the bliss that you, that you, that you yearn for.
And, and that is really where you can feel that deep connection, that deep love.
It's not through blocking things off.
It's through being open and letting
every emotional experience flow through you so that you can have that deep connection.
And I hope this helps you out.
And you know, I know it may be difficult, but I want you to know that I've been there
and I know that you can make it through this and that on the other side you will smile
again.
You'll laugh again and you'll be able to find joy in your life again.
So please have the courage and the bravery to experience everything that you're going
through right now.
Thanks.
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