Vanessa 0:00 Oh ah 69 ng one of the most infamous sex positions.
Some
Xander 0:11 people love it.
Some people hate it, but it's an icon for a reason.
Vanessa 0:16 So in this video, we are giving you a primer
about what this position is, and some of our favorite tips for 60 nining to your heart's
content.
So before we get into it, we want to know, have you ever 69 before so if you have, leave
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Alright, so let's talk about what 60 nining is.
So a lot of people actually don't know.
So this is a no shame zone, break it down for you and explain it to you.
So 69 is when one partner lays on their back and the other partner lays on top of them
facing the opposite direction.
So you're giving each other oral sex at the same time your body's like kind of resemble
the 69, it's sort of you think about like the little loop of the six and the nine as
being the head and the tail is being like our feet, you're sort of in that general position.
So in this position that your genitals are supposed to line up with each other's mouths
for oral sex, but more on that later if you don't exactly match up with your partner.
Xander 1:39 Alright, so here are some of our favorite
tips and tricks for successful 60 nining.
Alright, so first of all you got to figure out is it actually going to work for you while
you are clothed?
First, we generally recommend trying things like this with your clothes on not while you're
in the middle of having sex, because it can honestly be a little stressful, you're getting
hot and heavy, and then you try something new that you're not even sure is going to
work and you're trying to get into position, someone's maybe losing an erection or something
like that you lose some steam in the middle.
That's no fun.
So try it with your clothes on.
The reality is if you have a sizable height difference, it just may not work.
Honestly, it's something Vanessa and I struggle with I'm taller than she is.
However, if there is a big height difference, try the taller person on the bottom lying
on their back, maybe with some pillows or blankets, or like a sex wedge underneath their
hips that can help bridge some of that gap, so to speak, it'll make your genitals a little
more accessible for the shorter partner.
Vanessa 2:41 Okay, so I just described 69 is like one partner
laying on their back, because that tends to be the most common position that people do
it in.
But you absolutely can do it on your sides as well, that can be a lot more comfortable
and a lot more doable for some people.
So give that a shot to
Xander 2:57 you can also keep the lights down low if you're
feeling self conscious about the view that your partner may be getting,
Vanessa 3:03 because you're all up in there when you're
insisting.
So you can turn those lights down, you can also use your hands.
So it is an oral sex position.
But that doesn't mean that you can't use your hair.
Yeah, and actually using your hands can be a great tip.
Because this position is kind of tricky issue, you're not going to be able to give oral sex
the way that you usually do.
So your technique really suffers because you're trying to get into this position, that if
you use your hands that allows you to create more stimulation on your partner,
Xander 3:33 we also recommend taking turns focusing on
giving versus receiving because a lot of people report that it can be feel really distracting
in the moment, it can be hard to really fully receive while you're trying to give or you
feel like God, I can't really give a very good, like blow job or give very good oral
sex while I'm also distracted receiving it.
So that's a good tip there.
Vanessa 3:56 Yeah, that's another one where you know, typically
we think of 69 as both partners doing each other at the same time.
But like it's your sex life, you can be flexible, switch it up a little bit.
If you don't like giving and receiving at the same time, you can stay in the position
but take turns giving and receiving.
So you really get to focus on what you're doing.
Yeah,
Xander 4:13 and you also don't need to do 69 From start
to finish.
I think a lot of people get caught up in oh, let's do 69 thinking like we start that way
and we both have to have an orgasm that way it can it can be something that you spend
your entire session doing.
It can also be something that you just do for like 30 seconds and then move on to other
activities.
Vanessa 4:34 And at the end of the day, if you give it
a try and you're not really that into it that is totally fine.
A lot of people really don't like 69 and it just does not work for them so totally okay
if you are a part of that group.
Alright, well that wraps up our quick little primer on 69
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