Ladies, this is Galtelligence. Today, Beardy, Larry, and I are exposing
manipulative personality traits that you need to watch out for in men.
Today's topic was inspired by Psych2Go's video where he talked about
the signs of a manipulative personality. It was very insightful. So we made sure
you'll find our version helpful too. We'll also be sharing the best thing to do
when dealing with a manipulative man, so you can keep yourself safe and sound.
Are your guards up? Let's begin.
5. Watch Out for Dementors We've all had bad luck while dating- you meet
a cute guy, he sweeps you off your feet,
and then you start seeing red flags. But you've already invested at this point so
you shrug it off and pray to the heavens you did the right thing. Well, you didn't.
While good men still exist, other men are just downright players. This is why we ladies
need to take our time to get to know a guy to find out who he really is.
You don't want to get stuck with a pathological liar, do you? Lying is a very common tactic
manipulators use to control people. In fact, lying is one of the
telling signs of a manipulative personality. They will lie about themselves,
and they will lie about you. Ladies, a person with a manipulative personality will often
undermine your confidence. These manipulators are like dementors.
They will drain the peace, hope, and happiness out of you
by crushing your confidence. If you're already having self-esteem issues, beware.
According to life coach Barie Davenport, emotional manipulators seek out
the vulnerabilities in people to exploit them. They may consciously or unconsciously create
relationships with people who are the most vulnerable and willing to be controlled.
According to Sharie Stines, a California-based therapist specializing in abuse
and toxic relationships, manipulation is an emotionally unhealthy psychological strategy
used by people who are incapable of asking for what they want and need directly.
People who are trying to manipulate others are trying to control others. Often,
a manipulative man will criticize you to make himself feel better. For example,
an insecure guy who thinks you're completely out of his league might comment on how you
dress to validate that he's "better" than you. He might say things like,
"Don't you think that dress is a little revealing? Just think about what the people will say."
When a manipulator does this, they are often projecting their own insecurities,
and so they try to bring you down to their level by chipping away at your self-esteem.
It's also easier for them to control you if you're always seeking out their validation.
Ladies, don't get fooled. A good man will never make
you feel bad about yourself. A good man will see the good and bad in you,
and he'll love you for it.
But if you want to know how to get a guy to like you, start by cultivating self-love.
Love yourself so you won't have to rely on anyone else to tell you that you're worth
loving. Besides, men love confident women. If you want to know how to spot a liar,
watch this video where we dish out hidden signs a man's a liar. Check it out.
4. Skip the Guilt Trip We often set standards for people, especially
when dating. There are certain things men want women to do and things women want men
to do. While an ordinary person recognizes boundaries, a manipulative person
will do just about anything to get what he wants. A man with a
manipulative personality has a habit of guilt-tripping people.
According to therapist Sharie Stines, when a manipulator is targeting you,
you are psychologically coerced into doing something you don't really want to do.
You might feel scared to do it, obligated to do it, or guilty about not doing it. She
pointed out
two common manipulators: "the bully" and "the victim." A bully makes you feel fearful
and will use aggression, threats, and intimidation to control you. The victim,
on the other hand, creates a feeling of guilt in their target.
A person targeted by a manipulator who plays the victim often tries to help the manipulator
to stop feeling guilty. For example, during a disagreement or a fight, a manipulative
boyfriend will say things like, "I gave you everything you wanted. If you leave me,
I'll hurt myself." or "I thought you love me? Why can't you do this for me?".
Manipulation is all about controlling others, and emotionally manipulative people
love to prey on others’ vulnerabilities to get what they want. While it's normal to
voice out hurt and disappointment, doing so to get something
out of it is pure evil. Ladies, if you're on the receiving end of a manipulative
relationship, remind yourself that it's okay
to say no. Be firm about what you won't tolerate, and don't feel bad about
putting your foot down. If he's showing signs of a manipulative personality,
let the man go. He's not worth it. Watch this video if you want to learn
the things all men want women to do. Check it out.
3. Stonewalling Getting into a fight with your partner can
be frustrating, especially when one of you refuses
to engage in open communication. This is called stonewalling. Stonewalling is common
in close relationships and can include: giving someone the silent treatment; refusing to
give nonverbal communication cues; walking out
in the middle of a discussion without warning or
explanation; or simply refusing to discuss the issue at hand. While some of these
are things girls do that guys hate, according to John Gottman, a marriage therapist, men
often react to disagreements with more signs of physiological stress than women do. Thus,
they are more likely to stonewall than women, often in an attempt to remain neutral
or avoid conflict. This form of aggressive manipulation is a common technique
emotional abusers use to get their way and make the person being stonewalled to feel
isolated. You might even ask yourself, "does he like me?" or
"is he not worried about losing me? Emotional manipulators use stonewalling
to gain power over a partner and maintain control in the relationship.
When stonewalling happens, a manipulative man will refuse to communicate
to draw out the situation and prevent his partner from addressing the conflict
or ending the relationship. This causes the partner who is being stonewalled to feel
hopeless and experience a loss of control or self-esteem. It also increases the risk
of suffering from anxiety, depression, and alcohol
or drug abuse. Ladies, deliberate stonewalling is a major red flag. If you see this manipulative
personality in a man,
call him out and tell him that it won't be tolerated. Communication is key
in any relationship and if he's not up for it, he's not worth it.
Make him worry about losing you by watching this video. Check it out.
Are you enjoying today's topic about manipulative personality?
If you're already noticing signs of a manipulative personality from someone
you know, stick around because at the end of this video, we'll be sharing the best thing
to do
when dealing with a manipulative man, so you can keep yourself safe and sound.
2. Emotional Vampires A man with a manipulative personality has
a habit of making you feel bad whenever they feel bad or making you feel
guilty because they feel bad.
This is why they're often called emotional vampires.
Emotional manipulators like being the center of attention, and when they're upset,
they make sure that everyone knows how they feel.
Instead of getting advice or comfort, a manipulator will respond
by telling you that your situation is nothing and that they've had or currently have it
worse. They invalidate what you're experiencing so
that you're forced to focus on them and exert your emotional energy on their problems.
For example, a manipulative boyfriend will try to undermine your problems
by saying things like,
"You think your problem's a big deal? Do you have any idea how hard my job is?."
Ladies, when a man genuinely cares about you, he'd listen to your problems too.
If he takes the time to listen to you, that is a sign a man likes you.
1. Breadcrumbing I know you're familiar with ghosting, but
do you know about breadcrumbing? According to psychologist Kelly Campbell,
breadcrumbing is leading someone on romantically to keep someone's interest in
you, even if you never intend to become romantically
involved with them. It is an emotionally manipulative tactic designed
to make someone dependent on you. Is he into you, or is he
not? Ladies, you have to learn how to know if a guy likes
you or not. There are a lot of ways to tell if you're
being led on. A manipulative man will make plans
with you but cancel or flake on you at the last minute. You'll also never know where
you stand with them. According to Campbell, breadcrumbers
are sporadic, inconsistent, and unpredictable in expressing interest in
you. This means he's sweet one day and indifferent the next day. Lastly, they
will try to sweet-talk you into doing what they want by
bombarding you with compliments. Once they're done with you, you'll be left wondering
about whether or not you'll hear from them again.
Now that you know how to spot a manipulative man,
we're going to share the best thing to do when dealing with a manipulative man,
so you can keep yourself safe and sound. Ladies, set and enforce boundaries.
Manipulative men prey on people-pleasers who have very weak boundaries.
You can start setting boundaries by writing down things that you will and will not accept
in your life. When setting boundaries, it's important that you stay firm about it.
If the manipulative person keeps crossing one of your boundaries,
call them out, walk away, and cut them off of your life.
Do you know more examples of a manipulative personality? Help a sister out and share your
answers in the comment section below.
Now that you know how to spot a manipulative personality,
it should be easier for you to recognize a man who genuinely likes you and a man who
is only using you for his own good. If you want to know how to tell if a guy is
into you, be wary of how he treats you.
Remember, if he loves you, he'll have your best interest at heart.
Liars are the worst and should be avoided at all costs.
Watch this video where we dish out hidden signs a man's a liar. Check it out.