[Sexplanations with Dr. Doe]
These two people have amazing sex ed channels on YouTube
and the three of us did an amazing panel...
(LINDSEY LAUGHS)
Yeah, we did.
...at VidCon.
So what we're going to do today is an exercise called
"Sex Geekdom Sex Conversations"
These cue cards have little prompts on them with ideas about, you know,
"how to start an awesome sex conversation with other people that doesn't have to be
'how do I now have sex?' with these other people."
So we're going to rapid fire, and if you want to hear my answers to some questions,
we're also going to post more and more and more prompts on Hannah's channel and Shannon's channel.
Yep.
'K here we go!
What's the worst sex advice you've ever received?
I hate the "orgasm is in the mind" thing.
People trying to say, "Well you don't orgasm from penetration because you're not relaxed enough."
"If you relaxed more, you'd have an orgasm."
It's a piece of it, it's not the full puzzle.
I was always told, like, there's a certain percentage of women that just can't orgasm
and I couldn't for ages, and I used to just fall back on that being like, "It's fine, some women can't."
And now I can, and I hate that I was told that early.
Describe something that you've changed your mind about that relates to sexuality.
Paraphilias for sure.
That's mine, too. We've had conversations about that.
Here's a link to Sexplanations' "Paraphilias" episode.
What is your favorite sex-related question to hear from a partner?
"What do you like?"
"What's your fantasy?"
Can I tell you mine?
(HANNAH AND SHAN) Yes!
(LINDSEY LAUGHS)
Again?
(HANNAH AND SHAN GASP)
Oh, girl!
Wearing the horns right now!
What famous sex educator, researcher or author do you admire most, and why?
Oh, yes!
What is your favorite sex-related word?
No.
That's a good one.
Yeah, that is a good one.
The one I like now is "cumpassion."
Cum, cum, cumpassion.
Oh, cum-passion.
Does it mean like, "Coming with passion"?
Sure. It's a neologism that Matthew Gaydos, the videographer, came up with.
That's awesome, I love that.
Now I want to have cumpassion.
Name something you wish your 16-year-old self had learned about sex.
Clitoris!
Clitoris.
What's one way we can teach young people--
Oh wait, no: you don't have to get fingered.
That the vagina is not the opposite of a penis?
Scratch the record, don't dig the hole.
What's one way we can teach young people about consent?
Ooh, hugs!
Using hugs.
"Do you want a hug? I would like a hug."
Love that. I think dances. Hugs and dances.
First book you ever read about sex?
"The Kinsey Institute".
It's like this big encyclopedia.
Oh, that has all of his studies?
Yeah. I was just...
When I wanted to learn about sex, I'm like OK,
let's start from the beginning.
And so I got that book at the library, and that just began a lifelong relationship with sex books.
Mine was this big, hardback cartoon book that my mum got me
and it was called "Let's Talk About Where Babies Come From".
There were like, these two cartoon narrators.
And they were like a cartoon bird and a cartoon bee.
They definitely do not have sex with each other.
(SHAN LAUGHS)
What sex-related topic do you wish people would talk more about?
The sexiness of aging.
Hmm...
Ooh, masturbation.
(WHISPERS) Always.
Most ridiculous sex tip you've ever seen in a mainstream magazine?
I read that you should take your underwear and turn it into a hair thing to pull back your hair.
But I don't wear thongs, so like, that big clump of fabric around my really short hair...is ridiculous.
Here's a good bit of advice: I always have a hair tie around my wrist.
Because I like having the option to tie it up, but then also in sex situations, it's like...
(VOCALIZES)
OK, right, one second.
So you wear hair ties so that you can have...sex, right?
This is like a, "Hey! Sex on the go!"
And you have a vibrator around your neck.
Which is also sex on the go.
I don't have a sex on--
(SINGSONG) I have sex on the go!
We all have sex on the go!
What is your favorite book about sex, and why?
I recently read a book called "Vagina" by Naomi Wolf.
Oh my God, "She Comes First" by Dr. Ian Kerner.
What sex-related thing do you hope will be invented in the next 20 years?
Wet vibrators.
Wet vibrators?
A little built-in coconut oil distributor.
What do you think is the most harmful, widespread myth about sex?
It would be the...
Freudian concept that the clitoris is an immature way of orgasming.
That if you have a vagina, then sex will hurt the first time you have it.
Who is your sex-positivity mentor?
(BOTH) Lindsey.
Oh my gosh that was so cute!
Please end the video right now.
(INDISTINCT) ...this love fest.
So stay curious! If you want to hear more answers and questions, please check out both of their channels.
And if you want to learn more about sex, please check out both of their channels.
And more about Lindsey because we're talking about her on our channels as well, too.
All the juice.