Stay tuned and you're going to want to make sure you watch
till the end because the end will tell you that it's for sure a gift from a narcissist.
Okay,
five red flags that you have received a gift from a narcissist
and make sure you watch till the end.
Number one. Let's start from the beginning.
Let's start from the beginning of the relationship.
This is when they're trying to draw you in then
want to bring you in.
Their trying to make sure that they get you.
So you're gonna see guge gifts,
huge massive gestures.
This is the winner trying to sweep you off your feet.
So the red flags are massive gift, sweep you off your feet gifts.
Unbelievable stuff.
Flowers that fill the room, things that blow you away.
Dinners every single night.
Things that your mind is blown.
They show up at your house or office with things that you can't even believe.
So thoughtful.
Everything you could possibly imagine your mind is absolutely blown,
but it doesn't last very long.
So the love-bombing phase they make you dinner, foot rubs.
I mean if it's a business partner,
they have brought brought you a possible client you can ever imagine.
I can't even describe the gifts.
It's perfect. Its massive gestures.
It's out of control during the idealization or the love bomb face.
It's amazing and it doesn't last very long,
but it's enough that you are,
your mind is blown and it sweeps you off your feet.
You're in you are in like flynn.
You're sold.
It make sure that you are in.
You’re moved in.
You’re signed on the dotted line.
Whatever it is.
They've got you.
Once they have you, now they know you're a good source of supply.
Now the conditioning starts.
Now they're testing testing testing to make sure that you're that good source of supply.
So the types of gifts that you'll see
during this phase will be
It might be the bare minimum.
The last minute, the I ordered it hasn't come yet.
It's on its way.
It's at my mother's house.
I'm planning it.
I had to work,
but I'm putting something together
and there's always sort of this thing where you
end up sort of making excuses for them,
because you had it so good during the love
bomb and idealization phase that you kind of helped make the excuses for them.
You want it so bad to be good that you actually
kind of help them along and you know,
it's not, it's not good.
It's not good but you do you do and plus you
don't want the world to know that maybe things aren't
as good as it should have been,
right?
something of their shirt or there's something.
But it's meant to be like,
oh it's to remember them by or two to bond you together or something
and you think it's all sweet and nice but you know,
it's it's kind of like a little bit weird,
but you know, it's okay.
But you think it's kind of sweet and cute because you know,
it's like they want to share it with you
even though it's not for you really you
kind of still find yourself sort of making excuses
for it because it's it's something they want to share with you.
You sort of start wrapping your head around
why it's all good because it's for you guys.
It's for us.
There's a way to kind of rationalize that it was,
it was a great gift in some way
even though in your heart of hearts in your gut,
you sort of know really
wasn’t the greatest
but you kind of figure out a way to sort of
rationalize it in some way but you know,
they really wasn't as good as during the love bomb phase
but you kind of figure out a way to kind of em, maybe.
But you know, you sort of know wasn't really the greatest
or maybe they saw I have forgot
but you kind of figure out a way to sort of rationalize it.
All right, so that's the next sort of phase
and then it starts to get even worse and worse and worse
as the devaluing goes on and on,
and on until you get to
you know, you get past that discard phase,
it gets even to the bottom
and then you're at the end of the relationship and you're done
and then it gets into the hoovering
and the future faking and then you It into the
only really thing you get at the end of the day.
Number five. Told you I saved the best for last.
Don't fall for it. Don't fall for this one because
you know, we all do at the end of the day
because we want to so bad.
They show up empty-handed.
The gift of the nothing.
The gift that they're going to give you.
The gift that I couldn't afford it
but it's going to happen or I'm going to be better.
You'll see.
You’ll gonna have everything you wanted.
It's all going to be amazing and you're going to have
everything you deserved and everything you wanted.
It's all going to happen in the future
especially if it's in the hoovering phase,
meaning the discards happened.
It's all six months down the road two months down the road.
Even if it's, you know, after in the hoovering phase, it's definitely going to be better.
Give me a chance, you know,
or maybe it's, you know, it's going to be a trip.
That's when it's going to be, you'll see.
Give them a chance,
give her a chance and they go back into whatever they were
able to say at the beginning to get you to see.
Charm you at the beginning but without the gifts,
of course.
So that's the hoover phase.
The nothing but the empty promise at the end.
So that's number five and I'm telling you,
they are so good sometimes.
Narcissists are very charming.
That's how they get so far in life, so it does work
a lot of the times but not for you.
You guys have seen it.
I know you have
and if you want to know more about love bombing and all
the different phases of relationships,
you can definitely check out my videos on love-bombing, discarding and devaluing.
I have videos on all of those different topics.
You can definitely check out those videos and if you're not falling for it,
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