Hey there, I’m Lisa Force with another relationship how-to video...
this time, I’m going to share some text messages that you can send to your ex to make
him or her want to get back together with you.
I’m a dating and relationship coach specializing in breakups and divorce, by the way… and
if you’d like more guidance and tips on how to rekindle the romance with your ex,
visit LisaForce.com/Breakups and watch the free full-length video.
Now, on to the texting…
First of all, allow me to explain why myself and many of the leading breakup experts suggest
using text messages to communicate with your ex.
There are 3 main advantages to texting:
1.)
It allows you to think ahead and plan out your messages without being put on the spot…
you can plan exactly what you’ll say in a text, unlike on the phone or in person where
you might be thrown a curve ball by your ex and not know how to handle it or what to say.
2.)
It’s casual and non-threatening, so your ex isn’t going to feel harassed or immediately
assume that you’re contact them only to try and win them back.
You don’t want your ex to know that getting back together is the real goal, and texting
is a safer way to disguise your underlying motives.
3.)
Your text will only be a few sentences long, but you can plant a powerful idea or message
into the back of your ex’s mind that will spark their curiosity and make them actually
WANT to reply to your message.
Phone calls and conversations in person are always longer than a text message would be,
so it’s much harder to create that sense of mystery and excitement when you’re having
a longer discussion.”
So, those 3 advantages make texting a logical medium for re-establishing contact with your
ex, and they’re great for kick-starting the process of re-building attraction.
BUT… there’s a caveat here… you can’t just send your ex any old message.
Asking “whats up” or saying “hey how are you” is not going to make your ex want
to reply or talk to you further, because it’s boring and dull.
Do you want to hang out with someone whose text messages are that dull?
Probably not, and your certainly ex won’t come running back to you because you asked
them how their day was.
Simply put, you absolutely must not send any mundane, uninteresting, or dull messages to
your ex.
That applies to phone conversations and other forms of communication, too -- you always
want to say and do things that will make your ex smile or laugh or spark their curiosity.
Probably the best known breakup expert, Brad Browning, has come up with a few excellent
texting concepts that work wonders to re-build your ex’s attraction and generate a reply.
I’ll share two of his sample texts in this video, but if you want to see tons of other
great message examples, click the link in the description below or visit LisaForce.com/Breakups
to grab a copy of his “Ex Factor” program.
The first message is what Brad calls the “Good Reminder” text.
Basically, this text is a quick way to let your ex know about something that might interest
them.
For example, you might say something like…
“Hey!
Hope you’re doing well.. just messaging because I just saw an ad on TV about Gordon
Ramsay!
He’s doing a book signing at Barnes & Noble downtown next Saturday.
Thought you’d like to know since you’re probably his biggest fan on the planet, haha!
:-)”
The reminder has to be something that would be of direct interest to your ex… if he
or she loves a particular TV show, for example, you could let them know when the next season
will be premiering.
Or if they’re a huge sports fan and the two of you went to many baseball games together,
you could share a piece of news about a big trade that just went down.
The key is to pick a topic that not only is interesting to your ex, but will also remind
them of something fun that the two of you did together.
The example I mentioned earlier, about the Gordon Ramsay book signing, would be a great
choice if the two of you religiously watched one of Gordon’s cooking shows.
The second text message option is one that can often be very powerful, because it weaves
in a bit of subtle jealousy.
It involves asking your ex a question that you think they’ll know the answer to…
for example, a good question text might say something like:
“Hey!
Quick question: do you remember which street that tiny little Vietnamese restaurant was
on?
The one we went to for our anniversary?
I really want to take a friend there but I can’t find the name anywhere!
Thanks!!!
:-)”
See how I mentioned that I “wanted to take a friend there”?
That’s going to add an element of mystery, and will leave your ex wondering whether you’re
going there on a date… and not only does it possibly spark some jealousy, it also reminds
your ex of a fun time you had together (anniversary dinner) and will generate a reply 99% of the
time.
These two are some of the best text message options, but there’s plenty more you can
be doing via text to turn the situation around and make your ex start thinking about getting
back together…
as I mentioned earlier, head to www.LisaForce.com/Breakups for more in-depth advice on texting and winning
back your ex.
And, no matter what you send your ex via text message, never be boring or send pointless,
dull texts… those type of conversations usually do more harm than good.
If you’re wondering whether a text is interesting or stimulating enough to send to your ex,
you can comment below this video and I’ll give you some feedback.
Well, that’s it for this video…
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Thanks for watching guys!
Hope you’re able to use one of the texts I talked about in this video to win back your
ex and live a happily ever after.
See you next time!