Hi, I'm dr. Joe beam.
I understand that you may be thinking about coming to our three day intensive
workshop for marriages that are having problems. I surely hope that you come,
you don't have two versions of that. One is what we call our in-person version.
And the other is our online version.
Now the in-person version we've been doing for decades, I mean,
the first one I did was back in 1999,
the fall of 1999. And we have done many of them since then.
I mean, a lot it's powerful, it's effective. We have over the years,
made it even better as we go along as we hone this and change that and tweak
that a little bit.
And so it's always the latest and greatest if you decide to come to it.
And we love our industry workshops. Now, for some time,
our team has been asking me, dr. Beam,
what about us doing an online version of the workshop?
And I'm the one who kept saying no, no, no, no.
There is no way to replicate in an online workshop,
what we do in an in-person workshop.
And I'm not going to water it down like that. So, no, we're not going to do it.
The reason I said that is because I'm an old fogy,
that's the reason I said that I could and possibly imagine how anything online
could match,
but then the pandemic came along and suddenly we couldn't do our in-person
workshops anymore because only a handful of people could get together in the
same room at the same time. And we understand that we want people to be healthy.
We want people to be safe,
but that meant we couldn't do our in-person shut for a while.
So what did we do either shut down or find a way to do it online and
hope that that were so we had to try the online version of the workshop,
insisted that I do the very first online workshop.
I did not want somebody else's evaluation of whether it was good or bad.
I wanted to see for myself, you see,
we have a few people who are trained to do the in-person workshop and any one of
them could have done a great job with the online workshop.
But I personally had to see that it worked.
I was surprised it worked exceedingly well because I fully expected it
not to. And if it didn't, how was he going to insist?
Where are you funding the enrollment fee to everybody who came to it?
But it was powerful. I mean, it worked extremely well,
us covering all the same material,
still having the interaction between people that we do in the in-person workshop
and people were learning and they were beginning to get how they applied it to
their lives and how they applied it to their marriages. And it was just as good,
if not better than the in-person works. Yup. That's what I thought.
That's a fluke. I'll do the next one.
Same result only maybe a little better. I did the third one.
Yeah, I know. I'm kind of silver and I have to see for myself,
I did 15 F I F T E N 15 of those
in a row. Then I had another one of our leaders do two of them and want to do,
evaluate just to make sure that we all could do it equally. Well, um,
they're talented people. It was not a judgment of them. It was just like,
let's just see that it does definitely work across the spectrum with whoever is
leading it.
And so other people on our team began to lead to workshops and they had the
same, tremendous, wonderful results.
So what are the benefits then of the online workshop now,
when we have in-person workshops,
if you prefer that we'd love to have you in those, we would,
we're not giving up on those anytime that it's safe to do.
So from a health standpoint,
particularly thinking in terms of things like pandemic,
we will definitely have in-person workshops,
but we're now going to continue the online workshops from now on because they're
so powerful and so good and so effective.
And it's amazing how much people can save when it comes to money
by doing the online version, as opposed to the in-person version,
no airfare, no hotel rooms, no restaurants,
no rental cars and wind up saving a ton of money because they're not coming to
middle Tennessee where we operate and people can do it from their own homes.
So they don't have to worry about childcare like they do.
If they were to leave town and they can actually have dinner at their own table
lunch at their own table, if they wish they can be relaxed in their own home.
As a matter of fact, sometimes in the afternoon sessions,
we'll see people have a glass of wine as they participate,
which is fine because they relax actually creates a more
intimate environment if you will, because it's like,
I'm invited into your home and people now can come from all over the world.
And so in one workshop recently,
we had people from seven countries in that same workshop. Now,
of course they all speak English because that workshop was done in English.
What I'm trying to tell you is this, if you prefer the in-person workshop,
great wait for when those things were available. We'd love to see you there,
but if indeed your marriage problems exist now,
I would strongly recommend that you not wait because I'm telling you from my
own personal integrity,
which hopefully you will accept the online workshop is as good.
If not better. Now later,
if you want to enroll in one of the in-person workshops as well,
then you can sign up for that then. And we'd love to have you there,
but I'm recommending don't wait.
So just recently we had a counselor friend of mine come through the online
workshop with me just to see it and understand how it works at the end.
He said to me, Joe, how was prejudice against it?
From the time I've started for 20 years, I've done therapy and counseling.
One-on-one with people right there in front of me in a room.
And I thought nothing can replace that.
In-person contact when you you're right there. I was wrong.
Your workshop actually is unbelievably effective.
I didn't even want it to be because it doesn't fit my paradigm,
but I have to admit it really works.
But maybe you want to hear from other people. So right now,
going to show you a couple.
Of videos from people who have been through the workshop,
telling you what they think about the online version,
make your decision that's best for you.
But if it decided to come to the online workshop,
how that you're going to find it as an outstanding decision on your part,
thank you. Our marriage has been shattered. Uh,
we spent over the past year trying to, trying to go to various counselors,
trying to figure things out, uh, you know, with this program,
it just gives you from step one to understand yourself each
other, and then try to bring it all together and what those steps look like.
And had we not gone through this? Uh, we would never,
would've been just spinning in circles and possibly just sending them in
divorced. And so hopefully over this workshop this weekend, uh,
it gives us tools to be able to get the same back on track and where it
shouldn't be. And I highly encourage if you know, anybody that, uh, um,
is getting married is probably a great course to go through just to get that.
I wish we would've had it when we first got married,
but it wasn't wasn't available.
Yes. I appreciate all your guidance. Um,
realize that it is important to work on myself too,
maybe first and then hopefully this works together to,
and you've given us great tools to do that. Um,
I appreciate Randy's insight and help and guidance through this too.
So it's all been great and we'll use it and go forward and
not backward. Thank you.
So which way you see it, you know, whichever point of view, you have it,
you take away something from this workshop and you guys are helping couples,
you know,
buying it on the right path where they need to be as individuals and as couples.
So you, one way or the other, you come out of this,
grow into something more than what you did before,
even if you didn't want to even feel reluctant from the beginning. You know,
I mean, you definitely took something away, you know,
to impact yourself and could ultimately impact the marriage.
I definitely recommend this.
I feel like we should have done this a long time ago, but you know,
like many couples, we don't come and seek help until it's too late.
This, I wish I've had some friends go through, um,
rough spots and ultimately in their marriage,
I feel like if I had found this and shared this,
this would have been a lot of help. I'm so glad that this was available online.
You know, it's different from reading books, um, from reading articles,
but actually hearing guidance from other people,
knowing that other people are going through it as well. You know, this,
our struggles are not original in that it can be,
it can be saved.
And there are so many tools that we're getting out of this.
I I'm coming out of it,
more hopeful knowing that I can change me and knowing what I did wrong.
Um, it's,
it's such a blessing to be able to find this and go through this workshop.
I would definitely recommend this misses as closest marriage one-on-one gets.
If there's like a class that anybody should take,
if you're getting married, if you're just wanting to strengthen your marriage,
if you want to save it,
this is the closest marriage one Oh one it's smack in the head,
a wake up call it's it's,
it's been a blessing it's I really highly recommend it to everybody.
I really recommend that anybody that's having any issues go through the
workshop. Um, we've been through multiple counselors with very little success.
Um, this workshop dives into the deeper details of communication,
love, you know, everything that you really need to make it work,
but not only shows it to you,
but helps you understand it thoroughly and to where you can pretty much fix
anything with your spouse and have hope for love and, you know,
the forever that we all hope for when we took the vow to be with the person, uh,
you know, forever. So this workshop has really opened my eyes, um,
and helped me see a lot of things from a different light. It really helped us.
Um, okay, so I'm going to try not to cry. Um,
I actually have taken so much from the workshop for me.
It's more recognizing things within myself,
I guess that maybe I've projected onto my relationship in a negative way that
have given me a negative outcome without me actually realizing that's what I was
doing. So that's been a big deal for me and the push pull and, uh,
maybe also seeing things in a completely different perspective,
which I have a really hard time doing. Um, but that's really helpful for me.
And I feel like, um,
I'm leaving the workshop with a lot more confidence than I came with.
So I would just really,
really appreciate the whole experience.
I'd say the biggest thing about the marriage helper workshop is, um,
providing hope number one, um,
providing support and seeing other couples are going through similar issues.
And, um,
just kind of having that support system with everyone being open and honest and
discussing things are obviously very personal. Uh,
and then the other piece of the puzzle is having a roadmap to success if you so
choose. And, and obviously everyone's definition of success is different, but,
um, there's,
there's definitely a plan in place and a method to
reconciling or to improving a marriage regardless of what stage you're at.
So I think, um,
it's just been an awesome and it's amazing how much has been packed in the free
days.
Yeah. Um, I learned a lot about me,
about Jason, about our relationship,
and I think it's gonna be a eye opener for many couples out there
on insulin. I mean, very helpful.