The biggest mistake I see people make when it comes to having an issue with alcohol is
this idea of waiting until you lose everything to make a change needing to hit rock bottom is
a myth and it's a dangerous one and to prove it to you I've brought my friend
Leon from the YouTube channel sober Leon here to talk to you about his
personal and professional experience with this exact issue I've been a fan
of Leon's for a very long time now because everything he says on his channel lines up
perfectly with my own philosophies I want you to pay close attention because Leon's
going to outline for you the four signs that it's time to make a change if we
picture a rock bottom what exactly comes to mind probably somebody that's
just been arrested somebody that's just got a D U I someone that's just
checked themselves into a rehab a wife that's just packed her bags said I've
had enough of this we get a number of images when we think of a rock bottom
now I've personally experienced countless numbers of rock bottoms I've thrown up
blood on a computer I've you know ran out of money borrowed money off my family all
sorts of crazy things have happened in my own life because of alcohol but my
definition of rock bottom it's a little bit different and in today's video I'm going to
show you exactly how you can stop drinking alcohol without ever getting to rock bottom
without ever having to pick yourself up from ground zero and start again
I'm going to show you a different way to do things and we'll unpack that today can't wait
to share this with you and shout out to Amber thank you so much for having me on
your channel can't wait to share this with you guys and just before we actually get into the
video a quick introduction so my name is Leon Sylvester and I founded a company called sober
clearcom where we've worked with over 300 business owners professionals and
high achievers and we've helped them take back control of their drinking
I have a YouTube channel with over 50000
subscribers 8 million views and 500 videos and I've personally dealt with a drinking
problem for almost 10 years and I haven't drank for almost five years and like I said
there repent a lot of rock bottoms along the way so in short I know a thing or two about
helping somebody not drink alcohol and rock bottoms so let's dive into
it so before we define a rock bottom and talk about how to stop drinking without
hitting rock bottom we first need to define why anybody drinks in the first place the
only reason why anybody drinks alcohol is because the perceived benefit of drinking
that drug outweighs any negatives that happen in an individual's life
that's really the definition of addiction people could have bad
things happening you know they could be out of shape they could be feeling
lethargic but then in their head the benefit of drinking the drug or taking
the drug or whatever far outweighs the negatives that are happening in their life
and the crazy thing is is that the worse things you get for that drinker the higher
that they hold alcohol in a pedestal and it becomes a very slippery decline where people
just go down down down down down but then the attachment and the desire to drink goes up and
up and up so an individual can keep drinking despite bad things happening in their life
but a rock bottom is when it switches it's when the negatives are so apparent they're so smack
bang in your face that any benefits that you were basically lying to yourself that you thought that
you got from alcohol have now disappeared these perceived benefits have all gone and and what
is actually remarkable is that an extremely heavy drinker can heavy hit rock bottom and immediately
overnight not drink and go months without drinking just because they got to such a dark place where
they'd had enough and they stopped lying to themselves about these benefits that they thought
they were getting and they realized that they're gaining nothing from the al alcohol anymore
and if they keep doing it They could end up dead they hit these rock bottoms and and
heavy drinkers can seemingly be cured in an instant and that's the exact same drug that
they'd been consuming for years sometimes decades and they've been struggling to stop
drinking it for so long but I don't know about you but I don't want to wait until I get a D U I
I don't want to wait until my business collapses I don't want to wait until my
partner's saying that she's going to walk out the door I don't want my wait till my kids are saying
I'm disgusted with you I'm not talking to you anymore I don't want to wait for that day does
anybody I don't think so so let's unpack what needs to happen and most importantly what you
need to do to get into a state of mind where you see no benefits to drinking without that
huge negative experience smacking you in the face because I don't want that for you
so there are really four key things that you need to get your head around to make
this a success the first thing and the most painful one of all and the
thing that catches up most people got to stop BSing yourself you know for for
10 years I just lied to myself again and again and again he's not that bad
it's okay I can it's going to be different this time i I'm going to control it this
time oh this time you you know I'm going through a very stressful period oh well
I I I I just need to drink tonight cause I'm going to go and go for a
date with a new girl it it's not like I'm drinking vodka on my corn flakes
they you know tho those people in the AA meetings they drank way more than I ever
will excuses excuses excuses until I truly got real with myself until I truly asked
myself what is alcohol actually doing for me I just kept lying and lying and lying
and you know what the crazy thing is is that I bought into those lies
they were actually they were beyond lies they were fabricated beliefs that I made
to just rationalize and justify my addiction to alcohol but the first thing you got to do
is get real with yourself and the best question that you can ask yourself is
this look back at your track record of drinking and look at how it's slowly
increased over time and look at how it just seems to increase more and more and more
because for most people alcohol is an exponential curve where at the beginning
it's fine it's not a problem then all of a sudden it starts getting really
really really bad until bang it's a tragedy so ask yourself this if you keep doing this
for the next decade where are you truly going to be get real with yourself and ask yourself
and the first answer that comes up to you is probably the real answer because you know what
comes up for me when I'm when I'm honest with myself probably going to end up in a
coffin probably going to end up six feet under probably going to have my my mum burying her
son imagine that it's heartbreaking because there are people out there that do pass away from this
this is no joke listen I don't want to get too negative in this video but that is the reality
that we're facing we're just going to keep telling ourselves that it's going to be okay
that it's fine that it's not a problem it's madness right but then what do you do once
you've got real with yourself you've admitted to yourself that do you know what this is insanity
well what I did and what I help people do on my channel is I help people reframe
the way that they view alcohol what I did is I just got into a state of
mind where I saw past lies I saw past this idea that alcohol added anything
into my life and I got to a place where I saw alcohol the same way that I'd see
bleach the same way I'd see drinking pool water drinking chloride right
if I went out to a bar and instead of everybody drinking alcohol everybody
was drinking bleach right we've now got this vodka bleach we've got this
this this new beer but instead of alcohol is bleach would I go to that bar yeah
I mean if all my friends are there I'm not going to avoid it I'm not going to
hide in the shadows but it would feel no desire to drink to join them I'd look at
them thinking what's wrong with you if I mean why would you drink that stuff I
know it sounds hard to believe but that is how I feel when it comes to alcohol
I have no desire to put that stuff in my body the same way I don't want to
smoke a crack pipe I see that as a drug yet with without alcohol it's different
not because it's a different drug but because everybody's buying into this idea that it adds
value in your life that there are benefits to drinking a poison and this is the problem right
if you truly believe there are benefits to drinking alcohol you
will keep drinking it as negatives keep coming up in your life until there's an
explosion and until you're able to see that there are no benefits and only bad
things happen when you drink alcohol that is when it's like an epiphany
that's when it's like why would I do this it's a logical choice now getting
into that state of mind it takes work it takes study you know I've spent hundreds
of hours reading books and learning about alcohol and seeing what it is
and and how it affects my life and and it takes time right and it takes commitment
it takes you to say do you know what I'm willing to put it all on the table question
everything question everything that I thought I knew about this drug but I promise you that
is going to pay off the biggest dividends of anything that you can do in your life
if you've got a drinking problem study learning breaking things down into its
component parts breaking it down from first principles looking at the problem
once you do that my word it's going to be the most beautiful thing you've ever
done it's like all of a sudden you take off some glasses that weren't your prescription
glasses and then you could see you're like whoa how is everybody falling for this the
biggest fugazi ever which leads me to the third thing and this thing is critical
you need to prove to yourself The the benefits of not drinking dwarf the
perceived benefits that you used to have and the only way that you can do this is
by building momentum and building a great life for yourself now I'm not
saying that therapy and you know maybe in AA they go make amendments to people
I'm not saying that stuff's not valuable right there's a time and a place but at
the same time that cannot replace the idea of creating a vision for your life
deciding who you actually want to be deciding what kind of value you want
to create in the world and moving into this better version of you
it can't replace that because you need evidence that life is better without
alcohol if you stop drinking and sit around and and watch TV all day and change nothing about
who you are or what you want next what do you think is going to happen what's
the point like we don't want to just stop drinking for the sake of stopping drinking
well unless you want to wait for rock bottom and then you really are stopping drinking for
the sake of stopping drinking but we're trying to not wait for that what we want to do is not
wait for that D ui not wait for that explosion we want to get into a state of mind where we see
our alcohol for what it is and then immediately start moving towards a better quality of life
and the full thing that you need to do if you don't want to wait for rock bottom you
need to stay committed and you need to stay vigilant now if you commit to this path and
you stick with it You will face challenges because at the end of the day we live in
a world that wants you to drink the financial incentive to get you to drink alcohol is absurd
it is massive people that start alcohol brands are becoming billionaires the incentive to get
you to drink alcohol is massive people want to market to you people want to create these
brands they want to promote this drug and you need to stay hyper aware and
that's why watching channels like like mine can be extremely helpful
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