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>>> WE'VE
>>> WE'VE SAID THIS BEFORE, COLORADO IS ALL TOO FAMILIAR
WITH SHOOTINGS.
WITH SHOOTINGS. COLUMBINE, AURORA, THORNTON,
MOST RECENTLY STEM SCHOOL
HIGHLANDS RANCH.
HIGHLANDS RANCH. SHOOTINGS LIKE THOSE IN TEXAS
AND OHIO OVER THE WEEKEND CAN
CONSTRUCT SOME OLD FEELINGS.
WE ASKED MARK TO COME IN AND
CHAT ABOUT IT.
I THINK THE FIRST QUESTION YOU
HAVE TO ASK IS, IF SOMEONE IS
FEELING SOMETHING RIGHT NOW,
WHAT DO THEY NEED TO DO TO
BASICALLY GET THEMSELF TO A
PLACE WHERE THEY CAN HANDLE IT?
>> SURE, I THINK THE FIRST
THING IS REALLY TO LET
THEMSELVES HAVE THE FEELINGS.
THERE'S GOING TO BE FEAR,
ANXIETY, HELPLESSNESS, ANGER.
THOSE ARE REALLY NATURAL, AND
IMPORTANT FEELINGS TO FEEL.
LOTS OF TIMES YOU WANT TO PUSH
THEM AWAY.
THEM AWAY. PART OF BEING HUMAN IS TO HAVE
THAT KIND OF REACTION TO
EVERYTHING WE'VE SEEN IN THE
LAST 30 HOURS.
>> YOU KNOW, ONE THING I THINK
THAT WE FORGET IN ALL OF THIS
IS TO ASK PEOPLE HOW THEY'RE
DOING.
DOING.
DOING. >>
DOING. >> I ASKED YOU, AND I'LL ASK
YOU NOW, HOW ARE YOU DOING
RIGHT NOW?
RIGHT NOW? >> IT'S TIRING.
AND IT HAS ME WORRIED AS WELL.
AND I WANT TO BE HELPFUL TO, TO
INDIVIDUALS AND TO MY OWN LOVED
ONES AS EVERYBODY IS FEELING A
LOT OF REALLY ICKY STUFF.
AND IT GETS HARDER TO DO THAT,
THE MORE THAT THIS HAPPENS, AND
SO IT'S DIGGING DEEP TO WHAT IT
IS THAT I KNOW ABOUT THAT
PEOPLE ARE RESILIENT, AND THAT
STAYING CONNECTED, AND REACHING
OUT FOR HELP, AND KNOWING WHERE
TO DO THAT, IS A REALLY
IMPORTANT THING, THAT HAS
HELPED PEOPLE, HISTORICALLY,
AND WILL CONTINUE TO HELP
PEOPLE.
PEOPLE.
PEOPLE. BUT CERTAINLY A VERY, VERY SAD
DAY.
DAY.
DAY. >>
DAY. >> ADMITTEDLY, I HAD A MOMENT
EARLIER, WHERE WE WERE TRYING
TO PLAN FOR THE SHOW THIS
AFTERNOON, WHERE I WAS PLUGGED
INTO THE TV, TRYING TO WATCH
THE LATEST DEVELOPMENTS ON
THIS, AND THEN ALL OF A SUDDEN
I JUST FELT OVERWHELMED.
I FOUND MYSELF, I HAD TO UNPLUG
AND WALK AWAY, AND GET AWAY
FROM THE NEWS FOR A LITTLE
WHILE, AND IT WAS HELPFUL.
WHAT WOULD YOU RECOMMEND TO
PEOPLE?
PEOPLE?
PEOPLE? >> GOOD TO YOU FOR LISTENING TO
THAT.
THAT.
THAT. EACH OF US REACTS A LITTLE
DIFFERENTLY TO TRAUMATIC
EVENTS.
EVENTS.
EVENTS. SO LISTEN TO YOURSELF, AND BACK
TO THE BASICS.
SLEEPING.
SLEEPING.
SLEEPING. EATING WELL.
EATING WELL. HYDRATION.
HYDRATION. REALLY TRYING TO PUT MYSELF IN
SAFE PLACES FOR A WHILE, AND
ALSO CONNECTING.
ALSO CONNECTING. STAYING CONNECTED.
STAYING CONNECTED. NOT TO ISOLATE DURING THIS
TIME, WHICH IS THE TEMPTATION,
BUT TO STAY CONNECTED IS WHAT
WILL HELP US GET BACK TO THAT
PLACE OF NOT FORGETTING, BUT
BEING ABLE TO PUT ONE FOOT IN
FRONT OF THE OTHER, AND
RECOGNIZING LIFE AS I KNOW IT
MOST OF THE TIME.
>> I'VE HEARD FROM SOME PEOPLE
IN THE LAST COUPLE OF DAYS, OR
ESPECIALLY SINCE YESTERDAY
MORNING WHO HAD GONE OUT IN
PUBLIC, AND SAID THEY, AFTER
SEEING THE STORY IN EL PASO,
ESPECIALLY, A VERY PUBLIC PLACE
THAT THEY FELT VULNERABLE WHEN
THEY WERE OUT IN PUBLIC.
HOW DO YOU CONFRONT THAT?
NOW THIS LIVES IN US.
>> THAT'S REALLY COMMON.
THIS WAS A VERY FAMILIAR
SETTING, AND MANY OF THEM HAVE
BEEN.
BEEN.
BEEN. SO
BEEN. SO TO KNOW THAT YOU'RE GOING TO
BE A LITTLE BIT ANXIOUS, AND TO
KNOW THAT IF YOU NEED SOME
SPACE FROM DOING THAT FOR A
WHILE, THAT'S OKAY, BUT IN
MODERATION.
MODERATION. YOU WANT TO MAINTAIN AS MUCH OF
YOUR ROUTINE AS POSSIBLE, BUT
TO KNOW THAT IT'S GOING TO BE
ANXIETY PROVOKING, AND THEN
WHEN YOU GET INTO TO GO THAT
AGAIN, AND YOU REALIZE THAT YOU
WILL BE OKAY, BECAUSE MOST OF
THE TIME, WE ARE.
THAT'S WHEN WE REACH OUT A
LITTLE BIT MORE AND A LITTLE
BIT MORE.
BIT MORE.
BIT MORE. AND ALSO TO KNOW WHEN IT'S
UNCOMFORTABLE BEYOND WHAT'S
HELPFUL IN ONE'S LIFE, ALWAYS
THINK ABOUT REACHING OUT, AND
TALKING TO SOMEBODY, AND YOU'LL
LEARN THAT PROBABLY MOST OF THE
TIME, IT'S REALLY
UNCOMFORTABLE, BUT IT'S ALSO,
IT'S ALSO REALLY HUMAN.
>> SPEAKING OF REACHING OUT,
YOU OFFER AN INCREDIBLE
SERVICE.
SERVICE.
SERVICE. WE CONTINUE TO REPORT STORIES
LIKE THIS, WHAT ARE YOUR CALL
VOLUMES LOOKING LIKE?
ARE YOU SEEING MORE PEOPLE CALL
NOW?
NOW?
NOW? >>
NOW? >> WHAT WE'RE SEEING IS THAT
THE CONTENT RELATED TO A MASS
SHOOTING IS HIGHER THAN IT IS
CERTAINLY AT OTHER TIMES.
A LOT OF TIMES PEOPLE AREN'T
MAKING THE CORRECTION TO
SOMETHING THAT'S HAPPENED LIKE
THIS, AND THEY'RE FEELING LOW,
OR A LITTLE BIT HOMELESS, SO
THEY TIE IT TO SOMETHING THAT'S
HAPPENING NATIONALLY.
HAPPENING NATIONALLY. CERTAINLY, WHAT WE KNOW IS
THERE IS THE DIRECT IMPACT, AND
IT SORT OF TRICKLES OUT YOU
FROM THERE.
FROM THERE. THIS RIPPLE EFFECT, SO ALL OF
US, REGARDLESS OF HOW CLOSE WE
WERE OR NOT, IT CAN HAVE AN
IMPACT ON US, AND IT ALSO CAN
EXACERBATE OTHER THINGS,
FEELINGS ABOUT OTHER THINGS
THAT ARE GOING ON IN OUR LIVES
AROUND LOSS, AROUND CHANGE,
AROUND FEAR OF THE WORLD FOR
OUR CHILDREN, AND THEN THIS IS
LIKE, OKAY.
LIKE, OKAY. NOW IT REALLY FEELS SCARY.
WHAT DO I DO ABOUT THAT?
AND I THINK HAVING A HOTLINE IS
IMPORTANT.
IMPORTANT. NONE OF US ARE GOOD AT HOW TO
HANDLE THIS.
HANDLE THIS. IT'S NOTHING THAT WE EVER WANT
TO BE GOOD AT.
SO OUR TEAM THAT'S THERE 24/7
ARE THERE TO REALLY BE A
SOUNDING BOARD FOR WHAT YOU
MIGHT BE FEELING.
FOR WHAT YOU MIGHT BE THINKING.
IT CAN BE REALLY SCARY TO THINK
AND FEEL SOME OF THE THINGS WE
DO AFTER VIOLENT SHOOTINGS LIKE
THIS.
THIS.
THIS. AND
THIS. AND WE'RE THERE TO SAY, YOU
KNOW WHAT?
KNOW WHAT? THAT'S REALLY NORMAL AND
NATURAL RIGHT NOW.
THESE WOULD BE THE RED FLAGS,
IF YOU WANT TO LOOK AT DOING
SOMETHING DIFFERENT, OR TALK TO
SOMEONE PROFESSIONALLY.
SOMEONE PROFESSIONALLY. A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE CALLING IN
SAYING HOW DO I TALK TO MY KIDS
ABOUT THEIR WORLD AS THEY'RE
PREPARING FOR SCHOOL?
THERE ARE WAYS TO TALK ABOUT
ALL DIFFERENT AGES.
>> A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE GETTING
READY FOR DIFFERENT SITUATIONS.
WE KNOW YOU'RE GOING THROUGH
WHAT EVERYONE ELSE IS GOING
THROUGH IN TRYING TO HANDLE
THIS.
THIS.
THIS. IF
THIS. IF YOU NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO,
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