hiiii my sunshineeeeeee.. lovey doveyy.. super boo..
I’ve missed you..
.. fine let’s be a bit more serious for this video..
.. quite many of you have been asking me about my take on romantic relationships..
Open, monogamous, polyamorous..
You name it.
Maybe this is because you ve realized that I have a pretty different idea about love
and relationships..
Soooo for this video I’ve put together my wild little thoughts about this crazy confusing
thing called love. and I have the feeling that it might challenge your idea about romantic
relationships.
and boo.. let me know in the comments below what you think about my thoughts.. whether
you think i am crazy, weird.. or actually pretty dope. or you can simply share bit of
your learnings from your relationships in da comments below.
Enjoyyyyyyy my video.
Love.. in the end it’s all about love.
Isn’t it?
The rich, the poor, the shy, the wild.. we all seek for it..
.. for that one special person to live with happily ever after..
And then one day you do stumble upon him.. or her.. you fall in love.. passionately..
and you begin to create a life together.. it’s
colorful..
and magical..
a few months.. or a few years pass by.. and somehow.. secretly .. silently .. things
begin to change..
Where there used to be a wild fire of passion is now only a little flame left.
Where there ones where thousands of butterflies by the mere thought of your lover are now
unspoken thoughts, questions .. disappointment.
Love has blended into everyday life .. or everyday life into our love.
You see .. love to me has many faces and phases..
I’ve seen them..
I’ve cried about them..
I’ve screamed at them.. until I came to the point where I somehow learned to embrace
them.
And I started to understand that one of the biggest problems with love is not love itself..
but what we have been taught about love.
We are supposed to give our love to only one person .. supposed to have feelings for only
one person.. until the end of our lives.
But no one ever told me that love wasn’t meant to be this perfect.
No one ever taught me that love will shower me with the full spectrum of emotions.
Joy, lightness, heaviness, tears, pain..
All of it.
And so we hold on to this ideal .. and try to hide from the world when our relationship
goes through hardships.
But love doesn’t always smile..
For love is truth..
And truth does sometimes hurt.
But love always comes as a gift… with the potential to awaken our hearts and self to
new heights..
You see I have messed up a lot in those 12 years of my relationship..
I’ve lied, I’ve cheated..
I’ve done shit I am not proud of.. and yet I am grateful it all happened the way it did
.. for through all this mess have I learned some amazing secrets about romantic love..
.. I’ve learned that my partner is a reflection of myself.. and if we want to make it work
.. we need to speak our hearts with purity and honesty..
And you want to know about my greatest learning of all?
Love has to be free in order to thrive.
Love does not possess.. and does not own.. it only loves.. without restrictions or rules..
And so I began to call my relationship a “free relationship”
.. for my partner and I are free.. free to explore.. to create.. to feel.. to enjoy..
to love.. even if it doesn't include me at times..
I want to empower my partner, not shrink him.
I want to love my partner not own him.
I want to trust my partner not make rules.
Trust has to be build.. and the only way to build it is through patience and honesty..
This is not easy my love..
I know..
But think about it my love.... do you only love one of your friends?
do you only love one type of fruit? or one book?
We humans beings have so much capacity to love..
And when love comes in harmony with honesty and the willingness to not to give up when
things get difficult then love can take us to unknown heights of our greatest potential..
So my sunshine..
Let’s try to let our love be free.. let it fly.. let it soar and let it take us to
new magical heights..
.. yayy you are still here with me.
I hope you enjoyed this little video of mine..
I poured my little heart into this video because you know.. love means the world to me.. and
I know if we can free love from our ego each one of us will be a little healer to this
world.. and each one of us will experience the full magic love has to offer.
Don’t forget to .. let me know in the comments below what you think about free relationships.
Could you live in one or would it be impossible for you..
I love to learn from and with you.
I am sending you all my love my sunshine..
Peace..
I am outttaaaaa here