Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com and
I heard a very sad story recently and
I want to share with you, one of my
friends here in Los Angeles told me that
him and his very long time girlfriend
have had a very poor sexual relationship
over the past year and I asked him
how often are you guys having sex?
And he sadly told me once every two
months. Let me tell you if you don't
know this, if you haven't been in a
relationship before, you haven't been
dating a girl before, that is a very very
long time. Now that's a specific
situation if you're in a relationship
but I want to go over some of the
reasons today why a woman will reject
your advances to have sex with you, why a
girl says no to sex and in my buddy's
case, a lot of things that I'm going to
be going over today, completely applies.
Let's get into this. There's basically
3 reasons why a woman says no to sex
and that's because she doesn't feel safe,
she doesn't feel sexy and she doesn't
feel seduced. Now sexy and seduced kind
of go hand in hand, but there is a little
bit of a difference and I'll be going
over those differences today.
Remember this safe, seduced and sexy.
Those are the 3 things. A woman
pretty much needs to feel all three of
those things in order for her to want
to have sex with you and not just want to
have sex but really desire you sexually.
A girl needs to feel emotionally safe
with you. What this means is that you
are not going to be judging her in terms
of if she's putting out, if she's getting
sexual with you, if she's a little kinky,
if she's a little bit dirtier,
you're not going to be judging her for that.
She needs to feel safe, she needs to have
an opportunity to open up to you. I mean that
physically, but I also mean that
emotionally. She needs to have that safe
space where she does not feel judged and
she doesn't feel like you're going to be
looking at her with a bad eye. So that's
one thing right, practicing non-judgment.
Not making a girl feel bad for being
sexual, but also I do mean physically
safe as well. There's a lot of
concerns out there for a woman to make
sure that she's actually safe with the
guy. That the guy is not going to hurt her or
harm her and I've talked about this in
previous videos, but there's the idea of
consent, of getting consent from a woman
in order to progress further with her
sexually because when you get consent
she feels safe, she feels more open to
because she knows that she's able to say
no and you're going to be okay with it.
Some practical tips here is make sure
you're not making her feel bad for any
of her past sexual experiences, don't
make her feel bad or don't judge her,
don't give her kind of gross look or oh
I can't believe you've done that kind of look
in terms of how many guys she slept
with if she's told you or what she's
done in the past. Just be open to it, be
non-judgmental and be okay with that. You
know, she is a sexual human being just
like you so that's one thing and then
also like I said consent making sure
you're getting the okay from her to move
forward and if you do these things she's
going to feel more safe with you. Okay,
let's move on. That's safe. Let's go to
her feeling sexy. A big reason why
women say no to sex is because they
don't feel sexy and this is hard for a
guy to understand because we don't feel
that way. We come from the gym
and we're smelling really bad, our hair
is all messed up, we're still
going to be in the mood to have sex even
though we know we're not really looking
our best. We're wired a little bit
differently. But a woman wants to feel
sexy. She's having an off day where she's
feeling fat or maybe she's on her period
and just emotionally she's kind of a
mess, she might not be in the mood to
have sex. She's not feeling very sexy.
She's not feeling sexy physically and
she's not feeling sexy emotionally. Now if
you're in a relationship and you're
watching this, even if you're not you should still be
watching this. If you're in a relationship, you
should be complimenting her and making
her feel sexy, telling her that she's
beautiful. In fact, you should be doing that
all the time, even
when she's not looking her best or
feeling her best. Compliments go a very
very long way. That's sort of the
practical side of how you can make a
woman feel sexy. Another thing you could
do is if you're in a relationship and you
want to have a great night out, you want
to have some amazing sex what you can be
doing is you can tell her to get really
dressed up and you can take her out
somewhere. You know plan something for
you two, go out and enjoy the evening and
basically you're forcing her to put on
some beautiful clothes and put on her
makeup and look all pretty. Get her to
feel sexy. And when she feels that
way she's going to feel more in the mood
to be sexy with you. The third thing
completely applies the guys who are in
relationships but this is also for you
single guys out here. The third thing is
seduction. A woman needs to feel seduced
okay. Now I know seduction has kind of a
negative connotation because it sounds
like you're putting her in some sort of
trance, but I'm defining this in a
whole new way. Basically seducing a
girl turns her on, makes her feel sexy
and makes her feel safe. You're kind of
doing a lot of this at once and this is
something you're going to be doing
absolutely from the moment you meet a
girl, when you first go up to her, first
approach her and start a conversation
all the way to you guys are in the
bedroom together. One thing that I heard
that I really really liked was from
Julian from real social dynamics. He
explains attraction for women in terms
of a dial and for a man it's like a
switch. So when you see a girl and
you're really attracted to her you're
pretty much ready to have sex. You don't
care if you look sexy, you don't care how you
look, you don't care even emotionally how
you feel, most the time you're in the
mood for sex. Unless you're like in a
really bad mood, but you're ready to go
when you're ready to go. For a woman it's
a little bit different. It's like a dial.
She needs to be dialed up, it's not
like a switch. She needs to be turned on
so it's more of a process. When you're
talking to a woman and you're first
meeting her, you need to go through the
process of seduction and attraction to
get her in the mood to have sex with you
and it can happen as quick as that night.
And the way you're going to do this is
by constantly going up to a girl,
approaching her, giving her direct eye
contact, speaking in a commanding
tone, being able to hold
conversation, being able to flirt with
her, being able to challenge her and
disqualify her, which means that you're
not going to agreeing with everything
she says. You're going to be dominant by
leading the interaction all the way from
the beginning to the bedroom. This is
seduction. Most guys kind of let the
girls take control, you know they kind of
ask, oh when should we hang out and
what are you free and let's move
around everything for you instead of
taking the lead. If you're a guy who's taking the
lead, who's going up who's approaching who's
getting her number, who's continuing
conversation, who's being in charge. This
is seduction and if you're in a
relationship, this is also what you could
be doing. You're going to be leading her to the
bedroom, make her feel sexy, you're going
to be kissing her in such a way that's
going to make her so turned on, you're
going to move slow with her, you're gonna be
giving her that deep eye contact. Women
need to be seduced. Like you just learned,
it's like a dial. She needs to be
turned up. For us, it's pretty quick
but for her you need to take your time
to seduce her and that process of
seduction is the turn of that dial
because she needs to be warmed up and
warmed up and then when you do that she
is absolutely going to be in the mood
for sex. If you want to see this on a
more practical level I have a great free
video for you called Tripp's Tension
Technique and it's a video where I
demonstrate on an actual girl how to do
a little technique that turns her on.
This is again part of the seduction
process so you can get that in the
description below. I'll put a little link. It's
100% free and you can
watch me do this move that you can do
with a girl when she's back at your
place or if you're in a relationship
pretty much any time. Check that out
in the description below. Press like if
this video helped you and let's talk
more about this in the comments below.
Leave a comment, tell me what you think
about this. tell me if this makes sense
to you, again we're talking about making
a girl feel safe, sexy and seduced and
then she will say yes to you in the
bedroom. I'll see you on the next video.