How do you describe
our current relationship
status to others and why?
God, this
is what we're afraid of. - Oh!
We
we aren't together,
but we are together.
Um...
we have been together for
like three years.
Right?
On and off.
And we decided
recently to take some time apart
for many reasons.
Yeah. - But you know that maybe we only...
We understand.
But we will always care about each other.
Yeah. - Yeah. Like, that's-
That's a given. Um...
‘How do you describe our current
relationship to others?’
We're roommates still.
Yeah.
We own a cat together. - Cat moms.
Yeah. - Co-parents.
I don't know.
What would you say?
We are
deeply committed
to
the growth and
the growth, the development
and the wholeness of each other.
Yeah, it's beautiful.
Yeah.
Next one?
Hmm.
Interesting.
What do you find
yourself hesitant to tell me?
Oh...
That I know
I could be,
I will be,
and I am okay
without you.
But I don't. Yeah.
And I know I need to sit with that
as a reality to
get rid of
any negative, unhealthy attachment
I have with you.
I’m so afraid that means that
there's no place for each other
in our lives.
And I know. I know that's not the case.
Yeah. - Yeah.
Yeah, and I...
I feel like I've always-
I don't know, like,
I felt like I was pushing you to like
to get there, to say
you could be okay without me.
But
also, I know, like, hearing that
and thinking about that being a reality.
Like, that's-
I don't know.
That's- that's
not really something I let myself
dwell on.
And
yeah, like,
it's complicated. - Yeah.
Yeah.
How do you, how do you feel about it now?
Like,
like you...
You are hesitant to tell me these things,
but we've, we've talked about it. - Yeah.
And
so how does it feel?
I feel like I'm in a place where I know
that statement
has to resonate as
a deeper truth to us.
For us to be in a truly healthy
relational state. - Right.
For both of us.
I mean, we were wildly independent
before we met each other, right? - Yeah.
Yeah.
And I think that's
when we are at our best together, is when
we're at a place of interdependence.
Yeah. - Yeah.
Where we know
we can fully rely on ourselves, but
still like each other a little bit, I guess.
If you could change one thing
about our time together,
what would it be and why?
One thing...
I wish I
could have
opened myself up earlier
or faster.
Like...
Like I feel like I've-
I've made you go through, like,
so much pain.
Just because
I wasn't ready
for this.
And, like-
Like I really...
I really wish I could have handled things
better.
Like, I can't say it with confidence
if I like if I,
if I could have
in those moments because, like,
we weren't where we are now.
Yeah. - And...
What would you change?
Not a single thing
‘Cause it got us here.
We've been through a lot together, right?
And
yeah, it's
been tough at times,
but I feel like
every single obstacle we've
encounter has been one that is
absolutely necessary for us
to have the breakthroughs that we have.
And I don't want you to feel any guilt
because I know
you've never come from a bad place
or with any
harmful intentions
towards me in those moments.
Yeah.
Doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt.
Yeah.
I’m sorry.
I love you.
I love you too.
What is your biggest fear about us
breaking up?
That we're actually breaking up.
We really suck at breaking up.
Yeah.
Mm hmm.
Yeah.
A permanent goodbye.
But I think both of us are, so...
Yeah.
I can't do that.
We're really bad at doing that.
Mmhm.
Yeah.
I don't know. I don't-
I don't even think we know
exactly what it means to-
Yeah. - Be...
like, actually broken up
and not actually broken up.
I will still love and support you
the same amount
no matter what our title is.
I know.
Yeah. - I know.
Are you still scared that I'm-
I might not want to get
back together again?
I feel like right now
I can confidently say no. - Okay.
Would have asked me this
a couple of weeks ago...
A little more fear there. - Okay.
Yeah.
I think it's...
Well, I feel like we've kind of
talked about this before,
but it's- if we do take time
to be apart and be with other people
and end up finding
partners who are better suited
for the other
and like, yeah,
so like my- the biggest fear is
us not ending up together at the end.
I feel like that's
scary.
What have I taught you about love?
Oh!
I've told you this so many times
and I still stand by it.
I didn't know what
unconditional love meant until I met you.
And I think
the past couple of months,
we've realized that
that shouldn't mean
that there aren't boundaries or
conditions.
And that can still be true with
me knowing that
my love for you isn't going anywhere.
Right?
We have to make sure
that this is as healthy
as it can be.
Still,
the purest thing I've ever experienced.
And I’m so grateful for that.
I feel like the question
I want to ask you is, do you like
experiencing that?
Falling in love
is the stupidest thing you could ever do.
But this is
this is- this...
I'm confident
this is what we are meant to experience
for our time on earth.
The full range of emotions.
And I know we have felt all of them,
right?
Wouldn't change it for a second.
Yeah.
You’re the one I've experienced it with.
You taught me what it feels like.
I'll tell you what it-
What it means.
I don’t know, that’s...
And at the end of the day,
it's still a choice.
Right.
We choose each other.
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