So one of today's questions is about how to play it cool which is perfect because I am
clearly an expert.
@MacTavish002 asks, 'There is this girl I have been really interested in for a long
time and recently I dared to talk to her and she is nice and everything but I want to show
her that I am interested in her without showing too much interest because usually girls don't
pay attention to boys who show too much interest. How do I do that? Is it okay? Any advice?'
Since I've never been a guy talking to a lady that he fancies I asked Professor Boyfriend
about this last night to get his insight on it and boy did he have lots of insight on
how to talk to women. So the first thing he said is, 'Is the guy funny?' because humor
is going to be your best friend, if you can lead in with a joke then you are golden. Get
that lady laughing. But if humor doesn't exactly come naturally don't try to force it because
that's gonna be really awkward. You say that you've known her for a long time so you probably
have a sense as to her vibe. Is she a little more serious, a little more sarcastic, a little
more laid back, a little more shy? Tailor your approach a little bit to that so for
instance if you are in a class together and she's a little bit more of a serious type,
you might just want to talk to her about what you're studying or how interesting the lecture
was. And then once you're talking to her pay attention to eye contact. If she is just like
kind of looking around and not really making good eye contact then that is your sign to
abort, get out of the conversation, she doesn't want to be talking to you. It might not have
to do with you specifically. Do not trap her in a conversation that she doesn't want to
be in. And I'm also not going to tell you things to say to a girl that you're interested
in but don't want to look too interested because rehearsing a script in your brain and playing
it out over and over again is probably going to get you so much inside your head that when
it actually happens you're going to be really stiff. [Robot voice]. Hello, I would like
to make out with you. Maybe she'd be like [robot voice] okay. But I doubt that's going
to be the case. The times when I've been most successful flirting wise is when I've had
a lot of different stuff going on in my life, when I'm really invested in hobbies, my job,
my school, whatever is happening to where I haven't been just like sitting around and
fixating on one person so that even if I have a crush on that person when I run into him,
I'm not like oh, oh god, uh, uhh, well, what's up, well what's up, is I've been wasting away
just imaging your face on top of my face. Cultivate yourself, be interesting. Don't
scare yourself away, you've talked to her, she's nice, you've known her for awhile, you
have all of the resources at your behest to talk to her again. Good luck and if any viewers
have anymore advice for @MacTavish002 please put it in the comments. Let's crowdsource
this. I've got a quick question here from @Jay Montana who says, 'Hey Cristen,' oh hey,
'do you know any good tricks to get organized for school, work or life? What are some baby
steps to making a shift in habits?' One simple thing Jay Montana that I do everyday even
on the weekends sometimes is I make a to-do list. In fact, here is today's to-do list.
That way whenever I start my day I know exactly what I need to do. It gives me a moment to
regroup, by writing things out it jogs my memory of what I need to get done absolutely.
Setting up rewards for yourself is a great way to kickstart positive habits. You study
20 minutes, you can hang out on Facebook for 5 minutes, but set that 5 minute timer. Viewers,
what are your tips for getting organized and staying motivated? Finally I have a question
here that I want to put out there for other people to respond to to talk about more next
time. This is from Breanna Zbeeshko. 'How do you forgive someone who bullied you in
the past? Its been a while but I'm holding on to it and I can't let go. It hurts me and
inside it makes me feel horrible. Everyday I feel worthless, ugly and when I go out I
feel like everyone is judging me even though I know they're not. Please help.' So Breanna
clearly you're hurting and I know where you're coming from, I'm sure a lot of viewers know
where you're coming from as well and bullying is a huge issue that not just effects school
kids but it stays with us. Viewers if you have any thoughts on bullying put them in
the comments below because I want to spend more time talking about Breanna's question
for next time but wanted to get your thoughts first on how to help. If you have any other
questions for me, you know where to put them. I'll see y'all next week and in the meantime,
stay terrific.