this is Marlena aka makeup geek made her
video about her truth about the beauty
community we have had so many beauty
gurus coming out and spilling their
truth and a lot of them are also
responding to marlenas video and this is
a perfect example of how she has exposed
the beauty community for being extremely
extremely self centered what is up
everybody this is Chris from the rewired
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am i talking about what am I talking
what is being self-centered being
self-centered is something that we all
struggle with okay some people who get
mad about it when I tell them I'm like
by nature humans are selfish and
self-centered people and at the end of
this video I'll give you a prime example
about how this is actually affecting
your life but what's interesting to me
and like I'm always analyzing like human
nature and seeing things you know in
people that they often don't realize
about themselves and a lot of it came
from my own work and my own
introspection and noticing things about
me and until we notice what's wrong with
ourselves we're never going to be able
to solve any problems we don't
understand why we have such big issues
with relationships with the people
friends family significant others
husbands wives kids whoever it is but
we're seeing a prime example of this in
the beauty community so for those of you
who don't know bar lane Estelle made a
video about her truth coming out about
the beauty community and in her video
she talked about a couple examples about
the beauty community and she talked
about some people charging sixty
thousand dollars you know just to
mention one of her products and she
mentioned people stepping on each other
and then after that somebody else came
out with a post saying that some people
some beauty influencers are actually
charging a lot of money to do a negative
review
on somebody else and oh-ho-ho-ho people
did not like this people did not like
the fact you T influences getting paid
so much money they might be getting paid
to put out negative reviews but even
still we saw so many people make these
response videos and it's mind blowing I
just had a lot to get off my chest with
that you know I want people to not look
at my channel and wonder oh is talk to
you one of the guys that's like secretly
like on the DL like telling brands that
they better pay her and like no I'm not
well I'm just not like that I mean is Stephanie Lange: my
point even trying to you know defend
myself E because there's nothing to
defend if you watch my house to light
you'll see that I rent a house
everything I own is basically
hand-me-down furniture for my
grandparents and the rest is guns and
roses memorabilia like what are the what
are the hurtful truths one of the tough
love pieces of advice that we have to
give each other it's like not everything
is about you like it blows my mind like
we've seen like Totti Westbrook come out
and jaclyn hill
mel ray actually just made a video about
it - I'm gonna talk about her video a
little bit more in depth in a second but
you see all these beauty gurus coming on
they're like but not me not me and it's
like yo nobody ever said you you need to
calm down like not everything is about
you and so many people are just coming
out of the woodwork and saying don't
look at me like even jaclyn hill talking
about how she turns down offers for
millions of dollars in this like oh my
god like you have to understand and this
is why i preached empathy so much i put
yourself in the other person's shoes
when Marlena made that videos she
probably had one one person in mind just
one just one person admired when she
made that video as this example right
and like you have dozens of people
dozens of people coming out it's not
more I don't even know all the videos
that come out so many people coming out
and say not B not me it's like she was
talking about one like one instance
maybe a few but like calm down not
everything is about you but we do this
as people as people
so for those of you who don't know the
channel no race Eagle she's actually a
smaller makeup artist she has about
fifty to sixty thousand subscribers on
her YouTube channel and she made a video
the other day about how makeup geek did
her dirty it's a very interesting video
if you want to check it out and she made
a follow-up video about why she made
that video and just a real quick
she said she struggles with OCD as well
as the generalized anxiety disorder and
she talked about how she had to make
that video or she wouldn't be able to
sleep
she's them she's a mother of children
like she wouldn't be able to be a good
mother to them if she didn't get sleep
the night before and she had to make
that video and like her situation is a
little bit different because she has a
direct example about what happened when
makeup geek and I get that like somebody
who struggles with anxiety myself like
there's there's something it's hard to
explain there's something where I can't
rest right until I get this thing out
now should you do it publicly I don't
know sometimes for for those of us who
have anxiety it's like our moral compass
right and our anxiety work together and
it's like unless you get this out you're
gonna continue to have anxiety for me
personally a lot of that comes through
writing and other exercises but
sometimes like I make youtube videos
where I'm very nervous to put them up
but something's pulling at me so hard
I'm like I need to get this out there
but I'm kind of glad no a seagull made
that video because like nobody is 100%
innocent in this thing like not
everybody but you know then we can look
at makeup geeks self centeredness you
know she's thinking about how things
affect her her and her company and like
what is she really doing for smaller
influences we made a video the other day
about my black and white thinking I
think about that a lot i watch so many
youtubers who talk about this stuff like
we need to help our small people and
small youtubers and small influencers
and da-da-da-da-da and they say it but
they talk about it but they don't be
about it you know what I mean
so that's really interesting to me but
anyways back to the whole self centered
conversation like I said my videos are
to help you like I'm not a drama channel
I'm not here to spill any tea or
anything like that like my goal is to
help you
you to sell reflect you on your own life
and say like am I always thinking that
everything's about me like for me
somebody who had a lot of social anxiety
so I remember being in my crowded
restaurants and see it here is somebody
across the restaurant laughing or
giggling right and I immediately think
it's about me
right like not everything is about me
and I got to remember that that helps
calm down my social anxiety but here's
an example of our natural instinct of
self-centeredness that so many of us
struggle with like think about you
driving down the road
okay maybe on the freeway and there's
dozens of cars if not hundreds of cars
depending on where you live and there's
traffic and all that kind of stuff just
so many cars on the road
and you hear a car honk and you get
upset what what what are you honk it out
what are you honking at me I'm driving
perfectly fine why are you honking at me
like with that many cars on the road
what are the odds that that person is
actually honking at you think about that
for a second our default is to think
that things are about us this is why we
need to pause this is why we need to
meditate this is why we need to
declutter our brains and ask ourselves
like a little bit silly and irrational
right now is this really about me you
know what I'm saying like the the
innocent have nothing to prove to
anybody that's the thing like sometimes
I wonder when these people are putting
these things out there like are you
really guilty of this and you're trying
to do this to clear your own conscience
like what motivated you to make this
video why why do you think it was about
you like this is an analogy that might
not go over well with some of you but it
reminds me of this sometimes you see
like these posts right from like you
know women and they talk about guys like
you know guys are sleaze bags or they're
blank boys or you know whatever and then
you see guys reply to it and say not all
men not all guys are like that like
that's what I'm seeing in the beauty
community right there though like hey
not all of us are like that it's like
nobody was talking about you were
talking about these people who did it
but anyways like I really want you to
just check in with your self
centeredness because I promise you it is
hurting your relationships not only with
other people but also with yourself so
check in with that why do you
automatically think everything is about
you all right let's get a conversation
going down below do you think that
things are about you or do you have an
example I can you relate to that card
analogy I made about honking and you
thinking it's immediately about you or
somebody laughing at a restaurant you
think it's about you leave comments down
below let's talk about this and support
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quit being so self-centered and I'll see
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