- So let's talk about some feminine habits
that can drive men wild.
This topic comes up a lot in my coaching program
because a lot of the women that I coach,
they want to attract a masculine man.
And to do that,
they know that they need to embody their feminine energy.
And a lot of them,
this is a new skill that they're developing.
They've got feminine energy, but really amplifying it.
How do they lead from their feminine?
Because many of them in their work life are very much dialed
into their masculine energy.
Now, we've done some great videos
on feminine energy in the past,
and at the end I always ask you,
what are some habits or ways of being
that you have found really drop you
into your feminine energy and draw
and attract masculine men to you?
And the comments are phenomenal because you are brilliant.
So my team has curated some of the best comments,
the best practices from those videos
and we are bringing them to you today.
Check it out.
So this first comment comes from Lonita321.
Let's go.
Here we go, Lonita321.
Lonita writes this, and I love this practice,
"To amplify my feminine energy and open my heart chakra,
I focus on my heart, breathe in for six counts,
hold for three counts, exhale for six, and hold for three.
Repeat this for five to seven rounds.
It really opens the heart
and gets you out of the thinking mind
and puts you into your grounds.
Before a date, I review my cliff notes about these points
that I've learned from Mat.
Awesome, Lonita. I love that.
So let's try this together.
Inhale for six, hold for three,
and exhale for six.
And hold for three.
Man, you can already feel that if you were gonna do that
for five to seven rounds, how grounded that you would feel.
I love that, Lonita.
Beautiful.
This next point is brought to us by Vicki Dooey
And, Vicky, this is brilliant.
It's all about relaxing
into the present moment and allowing yourself to receive.
And here's what Vicky writes.
She says, "This is so true.
I used to be a serial dater
and the relationship never worked and frustrating.
When I learned to enjoy receiving and more relaxed,
I found my match.
The man who is everything I've been looking for
as if he came alive straight from my wish book."
I love that phrase.
"With him, it's effortless.
No confusion, no hesitation,
no mixed signals, no frustration.
We are loving every day
and we're engaged and are getting married next month."
And so, Vicky, congratulations,
because actually at the time you wrote this,
now you are already married so I wanna celebrate you.
That's one of the hallmarks of a great relationship,
this feeling of ease, this feeling of peace,
and you actually attract that when you yourself cultivate
a relaxed, grounded state and allow yourself to receive.
It's brilliant.
Okay, this next point
is all about small touches and gratitude.
And I encourage you to really listen to how she describes
when he's touching her, what she does.
And this is put in username, ithurtstobebeautiful.
I bet it does. I know what you mean.
Okay, here we go.
"Being receptive to his touches."
So this is the practice.
"Being receptive to his touches, to his kisses,
sinking into them.
Saying thank you for a soft kiss to your forehead."
I love that.
So just notice this.
What would it look like to sink into his touches?
I often describe this,
my wife does amazing job of this.
The way I experience it is like she's a sponge,
like she just absorbs me.
And it is, when I think about this phrase,
"Sinking into his kisses or his touch," it is like that.
She's like sinking into my arms
and relaxing and just soaking me in.
Such a beautiful feminine move to make.
And she continues.
"Showing enjoyment and gratitude
for even the small gestures will make him melt.
My husband brings me coffee every morning at my desk
and every time I stand up, rub his chest,
kiss his cheek close to his ear and say, thank you, baby.
The coffees keep coming."
I bet they do.
This is awesome.
I love this one as well. Really sink into his touches
and you'll activate that masculine energy in him.
This next practice comes from a woman
with the username reconnected.
And this one is brilliant
because it's all about receiving compliments graciously.
And she writes, "Taking a compliment well,
and even returning one is deeply sexy.
Dismissing compliments can be frustrating
because the person is trying to show you
what they appreciate and get closer to you.
As hard as it may be sometimes,
let them express those feelings and take them warmly."
We talk about feminine energy being this receptive energy.
And so what are the things that you could receive?
You can receive his acts of service.
He's trying to pull out the chair, trying to open the door,
trying to cook something for you.
You could receive his physical touch
that we've talked about, really sinking into him.
And here you're receiving his compliments,
you're receiving his praise.
I can't tell you how many women I dated.
I would try to say, wow,
you look beautiful, you look gorgeous.
And oh no, I'm just not feeling my best today.
And oh, these pants really are just not
the right fit for me and,
like they like completely dust off the compliments
and that actually rejects the very thing
that I'm trying to give her.
But a woman who can receive,
not only does that put her in this beautiful, amplified,
radiant feminine state, but it also demonstrates worthiness.
It demonstrates this like confidence.
It demonstrates, oh,
this is a woman who really owns her own value
in a healthy way, and that is attractive.
This next one comes in from Gail Rosenberg.
Gail, thank you for sharing this idea.
This idea is brilliant
and it's all about slowing things down.
You want to amplify feminine energy,
just practice slowing things down.
Here's what Gail says.
Gail says, "Deliberately slowing it down
really helps me, Mat.
Whatever I might be doing,
occupying the present by observing it
in almost a meditative way,
instead of rushing through tasks,
thinking about what comes next,
I stay with the present task in an unhurried way.
This is a brilliant practice, not only for feminine energy,
but I really believe in in unleashing more joy in life,
really relishing the moment.
I was attending a talk recently
and the speaker had a great line where he said,
"Hurry is the enemy of intimacy."
Think about that for a moment.
"Hurry is the enemy of intimacy."
When you're in the morning
and the two of you are making breakfast and you're like,
okay I gotta go grab my bag,
make my coffee, get this and this.
All right, bye, honey.
You guys run out of the room.
It's like you're hurrying off to work
and there's a whole moment being able to be created
with presence and we missed it.
Or be thinking, you know,
sometimes I'll be cooking with my wife, making dinner,
and I will literally be thinking
about what I have to do after I put the kids down
and what I'm gonna do the next day.
And while my body isn't hurried,
my mind is hurried in that moment
and it's trying to like get ahead of the moment
and get ahead of the day.
And my wife was turning to me.
She's like, "Are you here right now?
Like, where are you?"
Hurry is the enemy of intimacy.
And so if you wanna create more closeness,
and you wanna create more connectedness, slow it down.
And when you slow it down with yourself,
you have access to be able to choose
which energy you wanna draw from,
giving you access to, if you choose to,
draw from that beautiful feminine energy
that is already within you.
This next tip is all about taking care of yourself
and it's by lornapemit.
And she writes this, "This is wonderful.
I find that when I truly put myself first
and take good care of myself,
my feminine energy comes out a lot more.
I wear more dresses and a bit more makeup,
and he loves it too, and so do I.
Thank you."
The reason I love this so much
is because when we're drained, it can be very,
very difficult to be at our best
and to be able to harness whatever energy we want,
whether it be masculine or feminine.
And it's so easy.
What I have found,
especially for people who are heart-centered,
especially for people who care about others,
to put other people first.
Like my wife, we've had many conversations about this
where she will make food for everybody else in the morning
except for herself, and then she'll get code red.
She'll get like the hunger monster going on
and get irritable and get short.
And I'm like, honey, you don't have to make my food.
I'm okay if I eat last.
My main joy in the morning is our connection.
And so if you are happy and you're more connected,
that's really my priority, what I would love.
So go ahead and eat food first, yourself.
And it's just her programming
from the way she was raised and how her mom is,
and the whole thing makes it really tough
for her to make this move of putting herself first.
But when she does, when she goes to the gym,
or she gets a massage, or she gets a pedicure or a manicure,
whatever it is that she's feeling like fills her cup,
man, that feminine energy is just radiating
and she's happy and she's present,
and it's just way more amplified
and it is a really attractive state to be in.
So think about for yourself,
what are the areas where you could put yourself first?
It doesn't mean you have to put somebody else
in a position where they don't get their needs met.
Of course they will,
but what are the ways in which you could put yourself first
and really fill your own cup
in the effort of amplifying that feminine energy?
And one last idea for you, and this comes from Heather Bell,
and this is all about moving into your body
and moving your body.
Remember, masculine energy is very cognitive energy.
We all have both masculine and feminine energy.
Masculine is cognitive energy, it's vision-driven energy.
Feminine energy is present energy,
it's body-centered, heart-centered energy.
And so here's what Heather writes,
"For me, to amplify my feminine energy,
I get into my body and move it,
even if it's walking stairs, down the street,
on the dance floor, doing exercise, whatever it is,
it is the energy of being present and owning it,
really feeling my body as it moves."
And what I love about this nuance, Heather,
is when she first said move it, I pictured her dancing,
being in her body and dancing.
And then when she talks about walking down the street
or even walking upstairs,
it's a great demonstration of, no,
you don't have to be dancing to feel your body,
just drawing your awareness down into your body
as you're walking down the street,
or walking upstairs, or sitting in your chair.
Just moving that energy into your body helps you amplify
that feminine energy.
So these are some brilliant ideas
from this incredible community to serve you
in how do you amplify that feminine energy
to become even more of a magnet
or ignite even more attraction
with that masculine man in your life?
So my question for you is, you take these,
you apply them to your life.
What ideas haven't been shared yet
that you have found really serve you
in amplifying that feminine energy?
Go ahead and post those in the comments section below,
and know this, I appreciate you.
I'm holding the vision of your amazing love life.
Thanks for watching and I'll see you soon.
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