so in this video we're gonna be talking about how smokey glow was wrong about
Taylor Nicole Dean and it's morality Monday so we're gonna be talking about
how moral and ethical debates can kind of make you look like a hypocrite but
Before we jump into the video I got messages for two people out there so
great news Taylor Nicole Dean I just realized today that she unblocked me on
Twitter so Taylor if you watch this just know that this video is made out of love
it's for education and my DMS are always open so feel free to shoot me a message
the second message is for everybody else out there I am not in the business of
people liking me I am in the business of saving lives what's up everybody this is
Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the
solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health
addiction recovery and what I like to do is take different topics going on in the
YouTube community and try to see what we can learn from people's successes as
well as their mistakes so if you're any of that stuff make sure you subscribe
and ring that notification bell so yes this is not an attack on Taylor Nicole
Dean smoky glow I don't even hate her but there will be
some critiques of her in this video but anyways like I said my channel is to
learn from the mistakes and the successes of people so I do want to say
that I am very very proud of Taylor Nicole Dean and actually made a few
videos about some of her sobriety successes I will link one of the recent
videos down in the comments below and in the description if you want to go check
it out alright anyways let's jump into the story for those of you who haven't
been following my channel or you aren't fully caught up to date alright so yeah
Taylor Nicole Dean she got out of her second rehab stay this year and when she
was in treatment she ended up meeting a guy now when Taylor broke up with Gianni
sins like it was awesome like I I made a video about that as well there's a lot
there are a lot of people who relapse because they don't get out of
the toxic relationships especially when you have two people who are using so I
was super proud of her but she jumped in started hooking up
with a guy in treatment so I made a video talking about rehab relationship
so rehab romances right those of you who don't know me I am clean and sober for
over seven years like Taylor Nicole Dean my drug of choice was opioids started
with alcohol but I also worked in addiction treatment center for a little
over three years and I'm currently at school right now getting my certified
alcohol and drug counselor license all right so I like I said I use examples
from the YouTube community to try to educate and teach people everybody who's
watching this stuff go on well anyways when I made that video there was a lot
of backlash alright I got a lot of nasty comments I might put some up on the
screen right here but anyways Taylor and I we kind of had a back and
forth over on Twitter and speaking of mistakes learn for mine I said some
really dumb stuff and I actually reached out to Taylor about that um but anyways
after that not only was I getting a bunch of comments but people started
making videos alright so smoky glow is somebody who
made a video about me and she got tens of thousands of views I think last time
I checked I had over 60,000 views alright smokey glows she is also someone
in long-term recovery and she's going to school to help people I believe she said
social work but you can correct me if I'm wrong so anyways like I said in my
video I discussed why it's a bad idea to hook up with people in rehab or why is
even worse of an idea to get into relationships with them so after I got a
ton of nasty comments smoky glow made her video tended a cold Dean posted this
on Instagram which has since been deleted I actually got the screenshot
from a channel call I think it's called whatever I'll link her video down below
anyways Taylor said he was a cool dude until he got angry and threatened to
kill himself on two separate occasions just because I said I needed time and
space to improve myself and also manipulated me in several different ways
just because I needed to work on myself I
spent 24 hours away from my phone and he threatened to post my nudes due to it
and threatened me on Twitter too so goodbye
you were super kind and loving and Rehab and hope you get back to that state but
you're clearly unhealthy and manipulating me when I'm trying to
recover from abuse ain't cool so I got a blast all right so let's make it
perfectly clear like this this is terrible and it's awful what happened to
Taylor Nicole Dean like nobody should be threatened like that alright especially
right after getting out of an abusive relationship but here's a thing here's
the thing like I hate being right like I hate in instances like this being
right about something when it leads to the suffering of somebody else like I
don't get my rocks off to this like I was constantly teaching people in
treatment like about not getting in relationships not hooking up in
treatment for these reasons like I would rather I would much rather people just
listen and learn from my mistakes other people's mistakes
than trying it on their own like just to kind of put it in perspective of how I
don't get joy from being right about these things like I have a ten-year-old
son right and I remember when he was younger and we would go to the pool in
the summer and he'd be running around the pool I'd be like Dylan stop running
around the pool he got a slip-and-fall stop running around the pool you're
gonna slip in the fall and then you would slip fall bust his butt and start
crying like I didn't run up to him and say told you so
no like I would rather not be white I would rather him not slip and fall and
bust his butt on the ground while running around the pool you know what I
mean like another example of this is Trisha Paytas and Jason Nash as many of
you know Trisha Paytas got very mad at me when I was making videos about how
this is what an unhealthy relationship looks like like I didn't want to be
right about that all right I wish that they would have gone to you know couples
therapy and things would have worked out because all of you have seen the fallout
between Trisha and Jason yeah that's awesome I would much rather
that that didn't happen or that that relationship didn't happen in the first
place you know what I mean but when it comes to Taylor Nicole Dean I'll say
this okay because when I say you learn from successes and mistakes I mean my
own - I made just about every mistake you can in the book when it comes to the
first year two years hell I'm seven years sober and still make mistakes but
the one thing Taylor Nicole did right was not pick up all right that's what I
told people I what I'm teaching people in treatment or other newcomers I'm like
listen don't take my advice I do not care but here's the thing just
don't pick up no matter what but like the thing is - and I think a great video
that a lot of you guys should watch is tenon Nicole Dean sharing her experience
being in treatment like and she talks about you know what the counselors were
telling them to do and not to do and the rules and everything like that like I
want to make it very clear like something I would teach my clients all
the time was like I don't get a bonus for every person who doesn't get in a
relationship I don't get a bonus for every person who doesn't hook up and
Rehab like the only reason I say this is because I care and want to see people
succeed and I've seen far too many people fail because they're hooking up
in treatment right like whenever we're getting help like from a therapist or in
treatment like we have to ask ourselves like what's their motive like why
they're saying this like I had to learn that when I first got sober and I had a
sponsor and people giving me suggestions like they weren't just saying it for fun
there was a reason why they were saying it but one of the primary reasons we
tell people this is because things often aren't going to work well when you meet
people in early recovery like you have to remember a rehab an addiction
treatment center it is a mental health facility when people like me first get
sober we are still very mentally unstable and what you saw from Taylor
Nicole Dean's post was that that man was very unstable still right like we don't
just get rid of the drugs and alcohol and all of a sudden were fine you know
what I mean this is typically why we don't date your first year of recovery
now like I said smoky glow made a video about me and my original video is about
Taylor Nicole Dean right but here's the issue okay as many of you know I've been
diving really deep into moral philosophy and moral psychology I think it is a
terrible idea to get into a debate about ethics and morality and things like that
like those type of debates like I don't like those I like going off of facts
statistics and things like that like even if somebody has an opinion like
where is that coming from and something that you see is when people are debating
from a stance of morality and ethics like it's so subjective that they're
arguing from a place of emotion and they often can look very hypocritical and
here's what I mean by that since Taylor Nicole Dean got sober and got out of
treatment she has been doing her best to help her audience and anybody out there
who might be struggling with addiction trying to educate them trying to share
her experience like you guys like it is so difficult to come out there and share
your story of addiction publicly and Taylor Nicole Dean has a massive
audience but Taylor Nicole Dean does only have four I think she's coming up
on five months sober but smoky glow did not have a problem with that so I just
want you to compare the two you have Taylor Nicole Dean with three four
months sober making videos about addiction recovery giving advice to her
fans and she has an audience of one point seven nine million subscribers
meanwhile I'm over here and I have 80,000 subscribers so again going back
to debating from a place of morality and ethics and how it makes you look
hypocritical you won't find one video on smoky glows Channel saying that she
disagrees with Taylor Nicole Dean giving people addiction recovery advice right
because from the place where she's coming from
she believes that people who are license should not be saying things like
this or giving anybody advice and she calls it quote unquote dangerous but if
that was truly her moral compass she would be making videos about Taylor
Nicole Dean as well and why she hasn't I don't know but from my perspective and I
might be totally wrong around about this smokey glow if you want to reach out and
correct me but it seems like because a lot of us do this when we dislike
somebody we form our opinions based off that and the problem is is that it often
lasts lacks logic and rationale but I've had a lot of requests lately to make
videos about the advice Taylor Nicole Dean is making so make sure you're
subscribed because tomorrow I will be discussing that but just so you know I
am so glad Taylor Nicole Dean is discussing this um
I just want to clarify a couple things that that she said just from my own
experience and education and everything like that but I've had a ton of requests
specifically was her talking about 15% of people having the addiction gene and
everything like that so I'll clear that up tomorrow now something else
smoky glow was mad about was I made a video titled please stop enabling Taylor
Nicole Dean and what that was talking about was when Taylor Nicole Dean and I
had a back and forth on Twitter and like I said I was wrong in that situation but
I said you know no treatment professional no sponsor would say it's
good to date and early recovery and Taylor Nicole Dean said that they they
said it was okay oh my god first off if somebody newly in recovery like I don't
know if you knew this or not but drug addicts don't like being told what they
should do okay like again like I mentioned in the video
yesterday like do you think do you think any Serpas doctor counselor caseworker
anybody in their right mind would say huh yeah yeah Taylor Nicole dude I think
it's a great idea for you to meet somebody in rehab and start hooking up
with them that's gonna work out phenomenally and the fact is she is
lying to you okay like I hate to say that but to put out
there that her her doctors and everybody thinks this is okay is a blatant lie
because nobody who works in this field would ever say that in a million years
okay right and like I said a lot of us are still not in a right state of mind
in early recovery but she then came out with this clip but this is when I
started swapping my addiction for men because now I'm so much emotionally
vulnerable and I'm in this horrible place and I don't have the drug to help
me so I started seeking it out men doing a lot of things I wasn't supposed to be
allowed to do with men on campus and they were kind of picking up on it staff
they didn't have proof that anything was going on but relationships aren't
allowed in rehab and so they put me on a behavioral contract so yes Taylor Nicole
Dean at that time was lying to justify her actions and what she was doing
so I admire smoky blow for being in school right now and being in recovery
and learning about helping other people but like like I said I have seven years
sober three years working in a massive drug and alcohol treatment center
working with thousands of people like it's important that we know when we
shouldn't be enabling people and call them out when they might be lying to us
especially when it's a life-or-death situation so in my opinion I think one
of my biggest problems is my delivery all right I come from this this type of
tough love place but like I said like even though I'm here to kind of like
entertain and make these videos engaging and talk about some subjects that not
many people are talking about like I'm not in the business of people liking me
I'm in the business of saving lives so in this video with a quick story to kind
of wrap up the moral of this video when I first got sober and this is one of the
reasons I apologized to Taylor Nicole D because I came off like these guys who I
hate it when I first got sober there were so
the men and women and 12-step meetings wait here's a sobriety and that came off
like dicks alright they would just say stuff I would just get so hurt and so
offended because they shouldn't talk to me like that they should talk to me like
this dah dah dah dah dah right but as I
continue to stay sober and I kept seeing these same people and they had years of
recovery I started to sit there and say okay I don't like the way that they're
delivering their message but they're right like these guys have pointed out
every single time someone is going to relapse they've said things where it
seems like they know me better than I know myself even though they've never
talked to me so what I'm getting at is like we can't if we want to learn if we
want to grow we need to realize that some people are gonna come across with a
message we don't like how they said it but well we have to ask ourselves is are
they right are they correct you know what I mean like there are many people
who saved my life and when they were saving my life I absolutely hated them
right when I was working in treatment I had so many people so many people who
hated my guts in treatment and a month later once they left they'd call me back
and say Chris right now I understand why you were tough on us
you know what I mean so I just want you guys to kind of think about that and try
not to you know lose the message because of who's delivering that message or how
they're delivering it try to get to the root of it right you could take that
advice or leave it but I'm letting you know right now it helped save my life
but I want to end this video with a question for all of you too for those of
you especially who disliked me like now that you know that I've been right about
different situations has that changed your opinion right I'm just really
curious about it I'm always trying to work on my presentation and make it a
little bit more rel well-rounded like I've been used to working in
addiction treatment for so long that I'm trying to get used to you too but I do
want to kind of know the balance that all of you guys see with you know being
right and having that kind of experience in just the way the message is delivered
because I know for me personally I didn't I didn't really benefit from
people kind of like calling me and giving me this really soft message you
know what I mean so just let me know down in the comments below all right but
anyways like I said there will be a new video coming out tomorrow I will discuss
the aspect of Taylor Nicole Dean giving advice because there are some hate
videos going on I just want to clear that up because I don't think what she's
doing is wrong and I want to discuss it tomorrow all right anyways that's all I
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