- In this video, I will share with you five tips
on how you can make him more romantic with you.
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So without further ado,
how to get a guy to be more romantic with you
tip number one.
And for tip number one,
the question is is he not a romantic type
or is he just not romantic with you?
And this happens a lot,
especially in the relationships
where things are not going well.
So let's say you've been together for a while
and maybe you behaved in some low value ways, as I say.
In other words,
in the unattractive ways
that are unattractive to a man,
and he started to lose interest in you.
And because he started to lose interest,
he started to take you for granted.
He's not pursuing you anymore.
He's not chasing you anymore.
And when you confront him about it,
he says, "Oh, I'm just not a romantic type of guy.
"I would never do that.
"I don't buy flowers.
"I don't do this.
"I don't do that."
Which the truth usually is he does not do it to you
because he doesn't feel like it,
because he doesn't feel like he wants to pursue you.
He doesn't feel like he wants to charm you.
Why?
Because you turned him off
by behaving perhaps in an unattractive way,
whether you've been needy, clingy, controlling,
wearing your heart on the sleeve too much
or pursuing him, et cetera, et cetera.
So if you feel like this is the case
and he's not charming you,
then it makes sense, right?
But he's not gonna tell you that,
"I'm not charming you because I lost interest in you."
He's gonna give you an excuse instead
because maybe he's being somewhat nice
and don't wanna hurt your feelings, right?
So in this case,
what I would recommend is reflect back on your own behaviors
and start to improve yourself.
Start to change yourself
into becoming the best version of yourself
as a woman in a relationship with a man.
Learn the differences between men and women,
how to compliment each other.
What's attractive to your man, etcetera, et cetera.
And start to kinda work on yourself
and rewire yourself,
in a way like rewire your brain.
And once you start to apply these behaviors,
and once you'll start to become this high value woman
and behave in more attractive way,
you'll start to see him step by step
being more romantic to you,
pursuing you again.
Why?
Because his attraction towards you will start to increase
and automatically he'll feel more like giving,
he'll feel more like charming you,
he'll feel more like making you happy.
And number two would be if you are friends first, right?
So a lot of times,
we have a guy friend that we feel he's just a friend, right?
And he might feel the same way about you
because for men,
sometimes attraction towards you comes later as well,
believe it or not.
So once he gets to know you
and you behave
in a bit sassy, charming, high value, fun way,
he might actually start to fall for your personality.
And as he's falling for your personality,
he'll start to see you more beautiful as well.
So perhaps because you started your relationship as friends
and he didn't see you that way in the beginning,
he was not behaving with you in a romantic way
as he didn't see you like that girl, right?
But as your relationship as friends is developing
and he starts to slowly fall for you,
you will start to see him
doing some little romantic gestures towards you.
Perhaps he picked up a flower from the field, right?
Perhaps he invited you to some kinda event.
Perhaps he just took that bill and paid for that dinner
out of the blue
after you guys been splitting it 50, 50 for a year
because you were just friends.
So slowly if he starts to fall for you as a friend,
he will start to make these romantic gestures
towards you first
to see how will you behave with him?
Will you respond to that?
So if you're friends with a guy
and you're seeing a hint of romance,
just take it slow,
be patient and let him continue.
Number three, he could be playing a game
of this tough, hard guy, right?
And he might be falling for pickup artist crap
where it says be rude to her or don't be romantic with her.
So what he might do,
he might ask you on dates
and he might be treating you a bit more
like a mate kind of thing.
However, when he sees
that this type of strategy is not working with you
and you're not being easy,
you're taking your time,
you're being patient and he's getting to know you,
and while he's getting to know you,
he's liking you more,
this is when he might start to change his strategy
and start to apply the charming romantic ways to get to you.
Number four, this is an interesting one.
So let's say he asked you out and he's being very cool,
not really that romantic.
Maybe dropped you one compliment
through the whole night, right?
And it was a bit casual, right?
And he is kinda, he's texting you, et cetera, et cetera.
The messages don't have that much emojis,
and you're kind of giving him the same back, right?
And he continues this way
until he realizes that you have your options opened
and he finds out that you're dating other guys as well.
And then, boom, the next day,
he shows up, flowers,
he tells you nice stuff,
he's pouring down the compliments on you,
et cetera, et cetera.
So sometimes guys get romantic
because they see that there is a competition.
Therefore they make that extra work, extra effort.
I personally don't like this type at all
because it kinda means
that whenever you want him to be romantic to you
and make some kinda effort,
you always kinda have to bring in some competition
or be unavailable or make him jealous.
Also it's a bit unhealthy.
It's a bit too toxic in my opinion.
So if this is the case,
I personally would look at it as a turnoff
and somebody that I wouldn't really date long term.
Number five, a guy might start
to behave more romantic with you
when he sees that you change how you are with him
when he is let's say giving you compliment
or is sweeping you off your feet, right?
So usually what happens,
if on the date the guy is kinda bantering
and being jokey and et cetera, et cetera,
and the girl let's say is high value
and she's just responding to that
and she's being kinda mate type as well,
like a friend as well, right?
So she's just bantering back.
And then he drops you a compliment
or he does something a bit more sweet
and your whole energy shifts
and you just automatically become softer in response
because when the guy is charming you,
this is a very masculine quality
and he's now treating you as a lady,
therefore you automatically respond
in a softer, kinder, more feminine manner.
And he'll start to be more romantic with you
because he will see the softer side of you,
which he will like if he's a masculine man.
So these were my five tips, signs
on how to get the romantic side out of a guy.
And now let's give a bonus one.
If you are in the dating stages,
and let's say he is pursuing you,
so he's doing things by the actions.
So maybe texting you every day,
calling you, et cetera,
showing up, asking you out, confirming.
But he's being hard,
the texts are dry,
you will not get any emojis.
They're kinda official.
Then he shows up on those dates,
he's treating you like a mate.
He's treating you like another guy.
You end up kinda bantering a lot,
but after the date,
you don't feel swept off your feet.
You don't feel like feminine when you leave the date.
You leave the date and you kinda feel masculine,
it was weird.
So because he's making all the actions
and he's doing the right thing without being romantic,
I would say give it a little bit more time
because he could just be following some random dude
who's telling men to treat women in a way
that show that the actions that you're into her
but don't give her romance
or she will start to pursue you, et cetera, et cetera.
And yes, these steps work with some women,
women that kinda want what they cannot have.
But these women are usually not feminine women.
These women are usually masculine women.
So these steps work with masculine women.
If a woman is feminine,
she's just gonna be like I can't do this.
It's like there's a big part that's missing.
It just doesn't click.
You don't feel right.
You go on a date and you're like, yeah, no.
Anyway, this guy might change his strategy after a while.
However, if you've been kinda talking, dating
for like a month,
or depending how much time
you actually want to invest into this,
and you feel like nothing is changing,
I would just say just let it go.
Because the truth is, ladies,
we date people in order to see are they right for us?
We should not date people with the intention of, okay,
this is a guy and I'm single
and I really want to get married.
And he seems okay,
maybe I can change him in the future.
Don't do that.
A lot of times, you cannot change him.
People don't change.
And if you go on the dates and it doesn't feel right,
date someone else.
On a date with someone else.
And if there is no one available,
be patient and have faith
that the right guy will come along.
What is the point to go on that date
just for the sake that it's a man
if you go home feeling, what was that?
So ladies, this were my five tips
on how to get a guy to be more romantic with you.
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