I mean, these are the people you do not need in your life.
I'm gonna talk about that in this video,
you do not wanna miss this,
because you do not need these people in your life.
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Here we go with the 5 most toxic kinds of people.
They just never are happy,
Have you noticed that this person
goes from relationship to relationship and
they always seem to have the same kinds of complaints
about whoever it is that they're with?
I mean, the same boyfriend, the same job, the same whatever,
they're constantly complaining, they're always a victim,
never can get anything right.
By the way, these complainers are usually covert narcissists and
they're usually passive-aggressive.
If you wanna know more about covert passive-aggressive narcissists,
I have a whole video on that,
you can definitely check it out.
I even have a whole video on covert narcissism in relationships,
you can definitely check that out
because I actually had a whole situation on that myself.
I think that covert narcissists are the worst ones,
because they're like the stealthiest ones.
But these are the complainers and
these are people that are so toxic because they're constantly unhappy,
like nothing anyone ever does is good enough.
I mean, you go out to a restaurant with them, they're unhappy,
I've been there, like, I've had people like this in my family;
where everybody in the whole table,
the whole party ends up having to get up and leave
because they weren't happy with something that happened.
This is not a good thing.
You leave this person after being with them for a couple of hours and
you just don't even feel good.
You've been with these people before, right?
You wanna get up from being with people after a few hours, feel good,
you wanna feel lighter, you wanna feel happy,
that's what you wanna think, that's what you wanna feel.
I remember somebody was talking about somebody and
they were like,
when he walked into the room, he felt happier and
when he left the room, he felt sad.
Like, that's what you wanna feel,
that is not a person that when they came into the room,
they were like moaning the whole time, no.
So the complainer, you don't need that person in your life.
That's a toxic person.
The next type of a toxic person you don't need in your life.
Like, no matter what you say,
they got it either better than you, or worse than you.
You've been around this person,
like, you got a cold, oh, I got a cold,
it is like, I got sore throat and I got a fever and
oh, okay, yeah, I just said I had a cold,
they gotta be sicker than you,
they gotta be worse, way sicker than you.
You're just like, “Oh, I just thought I had a cold”, nevermind.
Or you say “I'm excited about this opportunity I have” or something,
they're excited about their opportunity and whatever.
It's like, okay, great.
I mean, recently, I was telling somebody I hadn't seen in few years,
they asked me what I was up to and I was telling them,
that I was doing this stuff on YouTube now or whatever,
because they were asking me what I was up to and
they had to go and tell me, that they knew somebody else
that was also on YouTube and
had way more subscribers and I was like, oh, that's great.
There's just these people that always have to be competitive no matter what,
even if it's the smallest thing.
You just can't have a normal relationship with somebody like that,
because you constantly feel that whatever it is
that you're going to say is going to be either one up,
it's not even just from themselves,
it's somebody that they know or something else.
It's just not comfortable,
you just can't even have a comfortable conversation,
because they think that you're competing with them
even if you're not.
That's uncomfortable because they're having this competition and
I know for myself, I'm thinking to myself,
who's competing? I'm not.
But they think that you are and
it's not fun, it's toxic, and it just makes it,
again, you wanna be where you've left that person,
you spent time, your time, which is precious, life is short,
and you feel better.
This is a person who's constantly judging everything you're doing,
not only that you're doing, what everybody else is doing too.
“This person is not good enough” or “That person is doing this”,
or everything is being judged all the time.
I mean, even if they're judging something that's going on,
the news or in television,
or they're kind of constantly always,
it's almost like they're looking down their spectacles,
or down their glasses.
What's going on??
This is a person who's definitely very insecure about themselves,
so they want to bring themselves up.
Again, a very narcissistic thing to do,
probably a very covert narcissistic thing to do.
Oftentimes, it's a passive- aggressive type of move,
“Oh, you've lost weight, you've got ways to go,
but you look better than you did”,
that kind of thing, who needs that?
If somebody is constantly backstabbing people,
especially people that you know that that other person
thinks that that person is their friend,
that person is a 100% backstabbing you.
Because if you think that they're your friend and
then they're backstabbing somebody else
that they think is your friend to you,
that's not good.
You don't wanna do that, and that's really what that is,
is a flying monkey situation, that smear campaign situation,
that's a very, very narcissistic thing to do.
Narcissists like to divide people,
they like to make people be pitted against each other,
because that's how they make sure people aren't aligned.
They wanna make sure that people aren't ganging up on them,
so they divide people.
I do have a whole video by the way,
on how to shut down a narcissist’s smear campaign,
something that you might wanna check out
if you are a victim of a narcissist’s smear campaign.
If you do have that situation and you wanna shut them down.
It's time to shut them down.
Now we come to the most toxic type of person,
I saved the best for last, of course.
The most toxic type of person,
the one that definitely nobody needs,
because this is the one who's out of integrity and
without integrity, nothing works.
So, this is the one that no one needs and
so if you see this, this is massive red flag,
this is the flag you see and you just run away.
This is the one where you go,
“No, no, thank you, I'll keep to myself”.
You don't need liars in your life.
Remember how Maya Angelou said,
“When people show you who they are, believe them the first time”.
If somebody is a liar, they're a liar and it can't go well.
They were having a hard time,
they didn't mean it, especially if it's a major lie.
I mean, you really can't explain those kinds of things away,
don't allow liars in your life,
don't allow people in your life who aren’t going to have integrity,
who don't have enough respect for you to tell you the truth,
who don't have enough respect for your time to tell you the truth,
because that wastes your time, your energy.
Liars are the worst, the most toxic.
Those are the most toxic types of people,
you don't need these people in your life,
you need to shut them down,
cut them out, go goodbye and
there's enough good people in the world,
people who are compassionate,
who have empathy, who have integrity,
when you raise your standards,
you don't get your goals, you get your standards,
when you raise your standards, then you get good people in your life.
So if you are getting ready to negotiate with anyone,
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Remember today's a great day to start negotiating your best life,
they only win, if you give in and
there's no reason to do that,
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I’m sending you so much light, so much love and
I will see you in the next video.