You probably have heard this term a lot chemistry. How do you build chemistry? You have chemistry
with someone, there's chemistry there. What does this all mean? How does it all happen?
And how do you actually find someone that you can build chemistry with? Chemistry, this unspeakable
feeling that's almost hard to define. Because it just is that feeling that you have with someone
that things are just feeling really good, it just feels really good when you're around them. Now,
maybe you've never felt that before. That's probably because you just haven't dated enough
women. But what happens after you date enough women is that you find someone that you do
have that chemistry with, that good feeling where things just flow naturally. That's one of my first
thoughts of chemistry. Chemistry is when you can sit down with someone, and boom, four hours go by
and it felt like it was five minutes. Like where did all the time go just because you guys had such
an easy time connecting. The exact opposite of boredom, when you're having fun, time flies, when
you're bored, time slows down. This chemistry is usually there because there's an ease of flow. And
I'll say plus, there is some sort of attraction involved. It's like you're attracted to her,
usually on some sort of physical level. And also, she's exhibiting some sort of feminine traits
that allow you to be attracted to her. You're exhibiting some masculine traits that allow her to
be attracted to you. And then boom, you guys are flowing and things just seem really smooth. Now,
why do we think that this is happening? My theory is that chemistry is usually built on two people
who just see the world in the same way. In fact, that's what I felt every time I've ever thought
that I had chemistry with a woman. And of course, that can fade over time. But in those moments that
I thought, hey, I'm feeling some chemistry right here. It's just that you two feel like
you're speaking the same language, not literally. But you're talking about the same things in a way
that you have similar opinions or thoughts. Or maybe you guys have a similar sense of humor.
It's not necessarily agreeing on everything. But you guys are just laughing at the same things,
you guys see the world in that unique way that you see it, because everyone has that little unique
way of looking at the world. Maybe it's common opinions, maybe it's some common interests, maybe
it's a common enthusiasm behind some sort of value that you guys both share, whatever that may be.
That allows for chemistry to develop. Let's look at the exact opposite of chemistry for a
second. You ever go on a date with a woman before and things just like didn't flow?
You didn't seem to get each other, they looked at the world in a different way.
You didn't seem to have that good flow of conversation, and maybe you were talking
and then she stopped and then she was acting kind of weird. And then you didn't know what was going
on. And she was being awkward, which made you feel awkward, and things just weren't connecting
like they should be. That's like the opposite of chemistry. Which brings me to the big point that
you probably want to learn. Well, how do you build that chemistry with someone? How do you actually
manipulate the scenario to get that to happen? Unfortunately, I don't really believe you can
truly manipulate that. I think that you can in a sense make it so she feels chemistry for you.
You can maybe mirror her body language or mirror the things that she's saying and all those things.
But it's not real chemistry, because you're just making some of those things up, and you're truly
manipulating it. I don't really think that there's any way to create chemistry between two people,
it's just something that exists. And the way that you're going to be able to find a person
to make chemistry actually exist with is always coming down to getting a lot of volume. I talk
about volume quite a bit here on the channel, at least I have for the past few years, because I
truly believe that in order to find a girl that is a great fit for you that has that chemistry,
you just need to be going on a lot of dates. But of course you might feel chemistry for a woman,
you might kind of feel it a little bit there. But she doesn't. Well, that's gonna happen.
Maybe it's because she just doesn't feel like she's connecting with you or because she's not
attracted to you. So the thing that we can change or manipulate in the sense is the way that we come
off in terms of our attractiveness level. We can do that. That gives us more opportunities with
more women. What do we do? We create volume, we give ourselves lots of opportunities by
approaching lots of women, by swiping a lot on online dating, we increase the options by
making ourselves the most attractive versions of ourselves, on our outer qualities, on our inner
qualities. And then that's gonna give us more opportunities with the volume that we're actually
creating. Then from that, you can find someone who you're like, boom, I connect with this girl. Now,
you gotta be careful here. Because sometimes we might look for chemistry way too fast. I've
worked with guys in the Tripp Advice coaching program where they've said to me, it's like,
I don't know, there's not that chemistry there. And I'm like well, you've only been on one or two
dates with her. I don't believe that chemistry has to be instant. And there's some proof behind this,
by the way. In the Indian culture, there's a lot of matchmaking. Indians will get matched
with someone who's supposed to be a good fit. Forgive me, I don't know too much about the
process. But what I do know is that the success rate and the marriages of matchmaking is huge.
That's interesting, right? Because what if they don't have chemistry, turns out over time,
chemistry is built. Now. That's a far extreme example, I know that's not going to be the
case for you, I wouldn't expect you to wait more than five or six dates. And even that's pushing
a little bit to find that chemistry. But at least by two, three, or four, you should know. What I'm
trying to say to you here is if you're not feeling that chemistry, in the first date of one and two,
give it a little bit of chance. Now, I'm not saying if you're unattracted to her,
give her a chance. Well, that's a whole different story. If you're not attracted to her nothing's
going to fix that you might want to move on. But if you're attracted to her, you think she's cool.
There's something there, but if you're just not sure there's that connection between you two,
give it a little bit more time to really see. Sometimes people need time to open up and be
comfortable. Some people aren't really comfortable on the first or second date. That can be you,
that can be her, and so that uncomfortableness so to speak might have allowed the chemistry to brew,
whereas now you're on maybe a third or fourth date. You've seen them a few times,
the anxiety has gone down a little bit and now chemistry has a chance. Give it more of a chance,
just in case to see if it's there. It doesn't need to be a knock out of the park on the very
first meeting. Write a comment down below. I want to know from you. Have you ever had a time where
there wasn't instant chemistry but after a little bit, you found that there was more chemistry,
there was more of a connection because you gave it a chance? Let's hear your stories down below.
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