(cards rustling)
- Is Santa Claus alive or dead?
- Stop it, it doesn't say that.
(both laughing)
He better be alive.
- When you think of me,
what's the first memory that comes to mind, and why?
- I think you'll know the first memory that comes to mind.
I was six years old, on my sixth birthday, and.
(both laughing)
And you took me, I've thought about it today, actually.
You took me to Disneyland,
just you and me, for my 6th birthday.
- I took you outta school.
- You took me outta school.
I was, kindergarten, I was then.
I think this is our second daddy-daughter date
49 years later.
(Donald laughing)
But you took me to Disneyland,
and I got to pick whatever rides
that we wanted to go on.
And I got to pick any flower I wanted for mom.
And I picked a red rose.
And then we went to our car.
- And?
(Donald laughing)
- And you'd locked the keys in the car.
- Right.
- And we waited there forever.
(both laughing)
- And sort of that 50 years.
- For the security guard who came up
and you just asked him, you said, I think,
I can only remember part of it.
You said, "Do you just have a hanger?
"Can I just have a hanger?"
And I remember the guy saying,
"I'm not supposed to help people break into cars."
'Cause he's a security guard, which would make sense.
But he either broke into it for us
and got the keys or gave you the hanger.
- Gave me the hanger.
- Yes. - Yes.
- That was a very fun day.
I had a really fun day.
- And how many, that was 44 years ago.
- No dad, it was 49 years ago.
49. - No, no.
Coz how old were you?
- I was six, I'm 55 now.
- You are?
- Yeah, seriously. - Oh, my God!
Where'd all those years go?
- I was kind of upset that you hadn't asked me
to go anywhere since.
- Right, I don't like to rush things.
(Kelli laughing)
You have two brothers and a sister,
and they're still waiting for their turn, so.
You know how that goes. - They should.
(Donald laughing) They should.
Okay, okay, I'm gonna go mine, okay?
Ready?
Oh, wait.
- That's good.
Put the card that way. - Yeah, thank you.
- Don't read it upside down.
- Me to closest the feel you do when?
When do you feel the closest to me?
(Donald exhaling)
- That's difficult.
Hopefully, I feel the closest to you all the time.
Because we speak of family and it's always family.
And the closest to one child other than another child,
there is no difference.
The most I was impressed with you, First Communion.
- You felt closest to me at First Communion?
- Yeah.
Because I felt I'm the father of that young lady.
And I have to take care of her now.
And up until that time, you were a little brat
running around the house,
but at that time, you became serious.
And it was serious to me at that time too.
It's always serious (mumbles) time.
Other times, when you got married.
I was losing a daughter, we danced.
And why somebody dances
when they lose a daughter was beyond me.
(both laughing) I have no idea.
You would think there'd be-- - I thought you'd be doing
a lot of dancing if you lost me, so.
Okay, your turn.
- How do you love me?
- Let me count the ways.
How do I love you?
It's really funny.
'Cause I'm 55, you're 90,
and
you still want to like make sure
that you're doing well
in your mom and dad's eyes, right?
You're still like looking for that approval.
And I think how I love you
is by
doing things that I learned from you all.
And I love you through my actions with others.
It's not something I think of.
It's just, I love to be with you.
I love to spend time with you.
I love when we go to the beach and have drinks.
I love when we watch, you know,
some stupid show at your house.
I love when you guys come over and watch the sunset
or have (mumbles)
or come to a Super Bowl party or we go do things.
I don't know.
- I think that expresses everything,
I mean, how do you-- - I just love,
I love to be with you and I hope that
when we're together you feel the love that I have.
- Absolutely.
- What are you hesitant to tell me?
I have something in my eye.
- I don't think there's anything I'm hesitant to tell you.
I tell you...
There's a lot of things I don't know if you need to know.
And I don't know if I'm hiding anything.
- Are you hiding something?
- Not that I know of. - Okay.
- I'm pretty open guy, so it's...
What you see is what you get.
And, may not be pretty, but that's what it's gonna be.
So, if you have a question and you wanna, I'll tell you.
If not, I'll tell you it's none of your business.
Be very, very simple.
- Okay. - Yeah, that's.
What else can you ask for?
- Nothing. - You know.
- Thanks for giving me straight shit.
- And (laughs) you'll get honest.
And you may not like the answers that I gave.
- There's been a lot of answers I didn't like,
yeah. - But those are the answers
and those are, the way I'd feel about that situation,
so. - Okay.
(cards rustling)
- If this were to be our last conversation.
- Oh jeez.
- What's one thing you'd never want me to forget?
If this were to be our last conversation,
what's the one thing you'd never want me to forget?
It's not our last conversation,
it's okay. - I know, but still.
That
I think
you've made
prints on me, in my heart
that will never go away.
And that you've been such
an amazing person to everyone.
I heard people call you god once.
(Donald laughs) (mumbles) That's a god.
And they didn't mean like, no offense,
but they didn't mean like in like statuous,
like, "Your dad's a god."
I'm sure you are, but, they meant like, you're so amazing.
And
I think just that I'm thankful
that my daughter carries you in her heart.
And I think
that will go on past my daughter.
That you'll be there in generations and generations to come.
And that I'll always take care of mama.
That's it, you answer that question now.
(both laugh)
You made me to this.
- That was pretty sick,
that was-- - No, no.
Oh, yeah, if this was our last conversation,
what's the one thing you wouldn't want me to forget.
I'm not getting you to get out of this one.
- Well, I think I should.
- No, I think you shouldn't.
- Just on age alone,
I should, oh, okay. - No, you don't get a pass,
dude.
- Okay, well, I wouldn't pass it.
- No.
- Probably.
It's something that is way out of (mumbles) on this.
- Okay.
- But I think about it still.
When I came home from work (clears throat)
to have two little girls come running up the hall,
"Daddy, daddy, daddy's home,"
would be a great thing to remember me by,
because I'm gone, but I'll still be home.
And not only the girls, I had two boys.
- Yeah (mumbles). - And it was different.
But, the girls are exceptional that,
boys don't come out and jump up and sit on your lap.
Girls come back and sit on your knee and tell you their day,
and the boys say, "I don't know.
"I didn't learn anything today."
You know, "What'd you do at school?"
"Nothing."
And that's the far you got.
With the girls, and you particularly,
will have a story, tell you what they did today.
Sometimes I'm not too sure if that story was accurate.
But at four or five years old,
you know, who you get what you can.
So I think that would do it for me.
- Okay.
- But I think that was kinda sneaky passing that over.
- They said we could do that.
(Donald laughing)
I took advantage of my opportunity.
- Rules are rules.
- What makes us family?
- Oh, God.
You know, I guess you going to get in real deep here.
But without doing that, picking one word, laughter.
- Yeah.
- It's always laughter in our house.
- Yeah. - You know,
there was laughter when four kids were there,
there's laughter with just the two of us.
And we laugh over silly things.
Things that other people might be hurt by,
and we laugh at it.
We can call each other names and laugh about it, you know.
You got a big brother and a little brother,
how did we get boys on a bookends and girls in the middle,
you know?
I don't know.
So one word, laughter.
- I think you're right.
I think even when we were all in that little tiny house.
- Yes.
- There was a lot of us in that little tiny house.
- More people than it should have been,
but we were there. - Many more.
But it was, I can't remember a day when there wasn't a ton
of laughter in the house.
- It has to be.
- It has to be fun.
- Yes.
- What's the point if it's not fun?
- Right, right.
And, if you're looking for one word, that's it kid.
- Oh, yeah.
High five motherfucker.
We're done.
- Done. - We're done.
- And, let's see.
How come I got a F?
That's what I-- - No.
(both laughing) You're done.
(cards rustling)