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have you ever had something random
happen in your life that is so
incredible it gives you goosebumps you
cannot explain it but you know this is
not just a coincidence
This was meant to happen well what if I
told you
you could learn
how to encounter more of these right
time at the right place type of moments
in your life we're gonna talk about the
topic of synchronicity today what
synchronicity is and how to create more
synchronicity in your life and you want
to stick around for this because there
is more than meets the eye in this
conversation
foreign hey it's your friend Mel and
welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast
have you ever had something random
happen in your life
that is so incredible
it gives you goosebumps you cannot
explain it but you know this is not just
a coincidence This was meant to happen
like that moment when you're thinking
about somebody and then suddenly they
call you or text you
strange
or have you ever found a 20 bill in a
parking lot and you needed it because
you forgot your wallet at home
or how about this one I love it when
this happens you sit down next to a
stranger on a train or an airplane
and you end up discovering some magical
connection holy cow they work at the
company where you're about to interview
for your dream job I mean
talk about meant to be
or you move into a brand new apartment
and you look out the window and there's
like a bazillion hummingbirds and you
know this is the right apartment for you
because your grandmother died several
years ago and she always said she was
going to come back as a hummingbird and
there she is as a sign Goosebumps
or how about a moment I had a moment
like this once where I was in a
children's hospital with our son Oakley
he was six days old
and he was about to be wheeled into
emergency surgery
and I looked up and there on the wall
was a Winnie the Pooh mural
my husband's name is Christopher Robbins
I got goosebumps and I knew he'd be okay
or maybe you've had a goosebump moment
that was really profound
and you come back to it over and over
again
like the time you were too sick to go to
that party which meant you weren't in
that car that crashed on the way home
what I'm talking about are moments that
feel like they were meant to happen
you might not be able to explain them
but you just know it was meant to be
it gives you Goosebumps it's like a
little wink from the universe or God or
whatever you believe in that there is in
fact this positive force that has your
back
well what if I told you you could learn
how to encounter more of these right
time at the right place type of moments
in your life
in fact my guest today believes that
every human being yes you has a
superpower
and that superpower is that you can
learn how to create more magic more
moments that give you goosebumps in fact
there's a word for these moments that
can't be explained synchronicity
we're going to talk about the topic of
synchronicity today
what synchronicity is and how to create
more synchronicity in your life and you
want to stick around for this because
there is more than meets the eye in this
conversation this is the intersection of
psychology quantum physics and
spirituality in fact this year's Nobel
Prize for physics was awarded to three
physicists for their work in researching
how particles that are light years apart
still influence one another
and our expert today is going to
convince you that you thinking about a
friend is what influences your friend to
call you out of the blue
you can learn to have your internal
thoughts influence your external reality
and we're going to be bringing simple
takeaways and the science to prove it to
you
I am so excited to introduce you to Dr
Tom Myers who is an expert on
synchronicity his entire PhD
dissertation was on the subject of
synchronicity he's been a professor and
researcher for years and today he is
going to teach you everything that you
need to know Dr Myers is going to break
this topic down step by step so that you
not only understand it but more
importantly you can start to tap into
the power and magic of synchronicity in
your life because he believes and knows
that everybody including you has this
superpower and today he's going to teach
you how to tap into it
Dr Myers thank you so much for being
here great nice to be here Mel so can we
just start with the basics I realize you
got a PhD in this but I want to start at
the kindergarten level
what is synchronicity yes synchronicity
is that point where you have a holy crap
holy moment right like how the heck
could this have ever happened this is
happening to me there are how do I meet
someone on the other side of the world
who just happens to be my neighbor and
we're at the same place at the rate at
the same time
and
probably never in a lifetime could I
have ever made this happen again or not
me made this happen but it has happened
again and so it is a moment where you
step back like wait a minute what just
happened how am I here at this place at
this time when this is happening
in in a way that is coming together and
it's communicating a way that wow it's
beyond me I it's it's created Goosebumps
it's created this feeling of
wow there's something out there what I
find fascinating about your research and
the workshops you teach around the world
on synchronicity is that you believe
that absolutely every human being
there are now 8 billion of us that we
have a superpower and that we can tap
into those holy moments more in our
life yeah one of the things that I find
fascinating about this because this
could easily be dismissed oh that's a
holy moment oh that's woo-woo I'm
not listening to this is that there's
hard science
about synchronicity
that in your research Carl Jung started
looking into synchronous cities way back
in the day then physicists got involved
I find it fascinating that last year the
Nobel Prize in physics people was given
to somebody who studied quantum
entanglement which is basically about
synchronicity and how particles light
years away can impact one another that
there are these connections that we
can't see you're basically teaching
people around the world
that you using principles of physics and
synchronicity which has been research
for almost a century
that you can teach yourself how to get
intentional about
your thoughts and your hopes and your
dreams
and once you start to get intentional
about your thoughts and your hopes and
your dreams you can train yourself to
start to spot signs in the outside world
that match your internal thoughts hopes
and dreams yeah whoa so yeah and I'm not
a physicist you know my focus is on the
psychological side I had to have the
physical the physics aspect to explain
it as Carl Jung needed to have that
before he went forth with his his theory
my focus is how do we tap into how do we
become aware
of the synchronicities and these events
and these things coming together in time
how do we how do we become aware of that
and how do we take advantage of that
helps to confirm
we're on the right path
super cool so Tom what are the three
ways that you know you're having a holy
this is synchronicity moment yeah
well it's it things come up from out of
the blue okay it's as as Jung called it
a causal meaning it was nothing that you
put into action okay so an example of
hey I'm gonna you know call my buddy and
I or I text him and they get back to me
like oh my gosh like you got back well
dude you just sent me a message I'm
counting right but if I am now thinking
in a causally it comes out of the blue I
am thinking about my friend and just as
I'm thinking about my friend I look down
at my phone and there's his text or he
calls me or I run into him in the
grocery store it's like whoa that is
that that's a holy crap moment right got
it
second part of of synchronicity it's
meaningful it has an impactful meaning
to you
it may not be to anyone else but
personally this circumstance this coming
together in time is Meaningful got it
okay and it's at the right time it's
like I needed this today this is the
exact information that has come to me
today in this moment in this second this
is exactly what I needed got it so it's
a holy cow moment if it's out of the
blue
it has meaning that creates the holy
and then the timing is like kind of
crazy so Dr Myers can you tell me the
difference between a coincidence and a
synchronicity yeah so I think a
coincidence can be a one-off happen
chance yeah coincidence I just ran into
this person okay great
but did it have a feeling of something
deeper meaningful almost a a spiritual
feel to it like how in the heck this
have ever happened at this right place
at the right time so a coincidence you
can explain away but a synchronicity has
something more magical that you can't
put your finger yeah here's here's an
example of a coincidence okay okay
so I'm mowing my lawn
and lo and behold a blue balloon
just happens to float down and land on
me okay okay so I'm thinking okay what's
the meaning of this what is this about
is there something there is there a
synchronicity moment that I'm going to
be able you know I thought it was weird
you know to be a way out in the country
and this blue balloon happen chance just
kind of flowed over and land on me right
but I thought about it thought about it
it's like no it was just a freaky
coincidence it's probably a birthday
party down the road and it blew over and
it landed on me I I can't read into this
any more than that that's it it's a
coincidence okay can I ask you a
question though yes but if you were the
kind of person whose father loved blue
balloons
and that blue balloon had incredible
meaning for you
and maybe it was even like your dad's
birthday today if that had happened and
the blue balloon came down landed on you
on your dad's birthday he's died it was
his favorite color he loved balloons
that could be a synchronization
absolutely all of a sudden there's a
sign okay because these events have all
come together in time the birthday with
dad's death loves blue it means
something to me got it so it's more like
that it elicits some sort of Wonder or
Goosebumps or sense that this is
happening for a reason there's a message
in this got it do you have an example in
your own life of another synchronicity
moment yeah um
probably my very existence and I'll
explain it it's a synchronicity moment
okay okay so let's go back to 1990 91
and in my former life I was a ski racing
coach so in the summer time we would go
to Europe and we would train on the
glaciers
ski you know setting courses and
training our athletes
in um in the in the glaciers of
Switzerland okay I'm I meet this other
coach from Massachusetts I'm in Vermont
we start writing up the t-bar and we
become friends we're talking oh this is
great you know let's work together on
some stuff you know tell me about your
you know your life and your parents and
goes oh yeah my mom lives in New York
and you know my dad unfortunately was
killed in a
a glider accident a sail playing glider
accident right very rare
I say wait a minute I know this story I
will finish so all of a sudden did this
happen was this the accident that
happened in Warren Vermont
and the poor guy was like ah yeah I
never even heard that story before how
my dad died so I kind of like oops kind
of explained a little bit there
it's like how do you know this
well just happens my father and his
father were best friends what yeah
my dad was a skeet Patrol
it's no Ridge in Turin New York and his
dad Roger was a ski instructor
and they were best buddies right
so here we are skiing in Switzerland
together
my dad and his dad are best friends
skiing together in the in the late 50s
right well this is like mine blue oh my
God how can this happen right
gets better
it gets better and Roger introduced
my dad to my mom who was visiting right
so I think oh my God like without Roger
making that introduction I probably
wouldn't be sitting here in this life
form as we're today wow I have a crazy
story like that so when I was a
sophomore at Dartmouth
I had been in a relationship for over a
year with this amazing amazing guy
his name is Howie
and just absolutely loved him I I really
regret that he met me when I was a
complete disaster so again thank you
Howie for all your forgiveness I had not
yet discovered like that I had trauma
and I was uh not diagnosed with anxiety
yet and so he got the worst of Mel
schneiberger which was my maiden name
but anyway
in the
um winter of that year his dad died very
tragically
and because
his father had died very tragically
there was a bunch of issues financially
and it came into question whether or not
how and his sister were going to be able
to stay in college
and I'll never forget
um that summer we were walking across
campus Because sophomore year at
Dartmouth everybody stays on campus for
sophomore summer
and somebody came running out to meet us
and said uh how the dean wants to talk
to you
and it turns out that an anonymous
benefactor
had come forward and was paying his
tuition and housing and his sister's
tuition and housing
so fast forward
um that would have been
1988. fast forward it's now probably
1995.
how and I broke up uh going totally
different directions I meet my now
husband Christopher Robbins and
um his best friend is visiting from town
his best friend is visiting and so his
best friend is named raymie and
um he's now Kendall's Godfather just
incredible friend of ours and he invites
us
to come out to his parents house
in Princeton New Jersey for the weekend
and so we're sitting there at raymie's
parents house and I'm meeting my
husband's like one of his best friends
from high school and
um we're talking and oh you went to
Dartmouth oh do you know how and I'm
like do I know him I freaking dated him
for and so all of a sudden raymie's mom
nudges the dad and says I think you
should tell her
it was raymie's parents
who had been
the
Anonymous donors because raymie's father
and House Father
had worked together at Bristol-Myers
Squibb when they both lived in
Evansville Indiana
and so all the stars came and I started
obviously sobbing and so did they and
you know that was this incredible
just Divine moment in my life
it's powerful mm-hmm
that's a
story that you have it's just I mean you
know again this
as you said the Divine that Divine peace
there is
something something there there's
there's a huge universe that
communicates through people and through
relationships and through sign symbols
dreams that that is communicating to us
and it has this feeling of oh my gosh
we're
connected to it so
coincidence
absolutely not yeah yeah it's meant to
be there yeah so I'm a big believer in
seeing signs
Professor Myers in your research on
synchronicity can you give us examples
of signs that people can use around
synchronicity yeah so they're you know
things that speak to us that have an
emotional pull okay like we talked about
you know it could be numbers okay seeing
11 11 or seeing the threes that can
communicate to us that at that moment an
emotional time when you need the answer
it can come to you so examples too of
you know seeing a heart when you're
feeling down you know all of a sudden
you see a heart in the sky in the in the
clouds
that changes your perspective I'm
feeling this is communicating to me this
is what I need right now I don't know
how many times I've done in my research
that I gotta find this article where is
it what is it and all of a sudden pop
it's there right or
a lyric you have a certain emotion of
being happy or you have this anger or
whatever that might be at that moment on
the radio or you know in your speaker it
plays this lyric that you need to hear
that that is changing the perspective
that's what I needed at that point
how can that happen in the world where
things come together in time it's that
synchronous moment where you know again
synchronous you know the the synchronous
side and the Chrono side of time coming
together at the right place when I need
it so what about animals because I often
hear people say you know my mom said
she'd come to me as a butterfly I I see
a red-tailed hawk that flies around our
property up here and I often think that
it's either Chris's dad or you know like
my grandmother is that also an example
of it but it's got to have the meaning
attached yeah you gotta have that
meaning of of you know again is it an
animal or spirit animal if you will
right that that is that person embodied
in that in that animal and they're
communicating to me you know what are
the benefits of bringing this sort of
synchronicity feeling into your life I
think it's confirming I mean it is like
to have this these signs and these
messages of synchronicity happening at
that right place at that right time it's
confirming your value is confirming that
you are on the right path so how does
every human being
on the planet have this superpower of
synchronicity awareness what is that
yeah so think about it this way is that
we are all connected that in all human
beings are connected somehow all matters
in life again physical human nature is
connected okay so let me see if I can
give you back with an example what
you're talking about
have you ever gone into I don't know
like a store or a cafe
and the there's a person that's in a
really bad mood in front of you in line
and their negative mood and the tone of
voice
sends waves like you can feel the
negative energetic wave from a person
like that and when that wave of
negativity hits you
the particles in your body literally
shift and are impacted by that wave is
that what you're saying it's a good it's
a nice way to say that yeah okay so we
are entangled with each other we are
connected with each other okay and
someone who's giving off these negative
it's a vibration you're giving this off
we're picking picking that up okay among
other signals okay and you and
physicists that study this at a like
subatomic level you are saying that it
goes even deeper than that because I
think we can all wrap our brains around
the fact that other people's energy and
moods and their positive or negative
Vibes completely can impact you but
you're actually saying something even
more powerful which is
you can impact somebody halfway around
the world that there are connections
between you and what you're thinking and
what somebody else halfway around the
world might do yeah give me an example
so in a lot of my workshops I've done
with synchronicity yes
I will Begin by saying okay find someone
you don't know sitting next to you
someone you do not know and I'm going to
give you I'm timing this three minutes
three minutes and find a deep connection
that you both share can you give us a
specific example from one of your
workshops
um I was in Nice France doing a workshop
two very analytical Engineers okay
sitting next to each other of course
they sat there with their arms folded
like synchronously what is this stuff
okay give you three minutes find a
connection
they both figured out and learned that
they had taught at the same university
University of Montana
a year apart they both
work for the same people and they were
in the same office what yeah wow well I
think if that happened to me you'd have
that you'd immediately think to yourself
well that's this has happened for a
reason so are those moments where you
say this is happening for a reason is
that an example of a synchronicity
awareness yeah now why does this matter
what is the importance of anybody
tapping into this sort of magical power
of feeling
the Goosebumps and the meaning in these
synchronicity moments yeah
yeah it's it's back to that superpower
that we can tap into this okay
understand that that the world is
connected so first beginning with what
are your thoughts and what are your
dreams and what are your your visions
putting it out there like put you say
putting it out there in the universe
and then notice the connections that
start to happen what I'm now getting for
the first time about synchronicity
is that synchronicity
the way I've always experienced it in my
life is like this kind of magical moment
okay where you're right you're thinking
about a friend or somebody that you love
and they all of a sudden call you out of
the blue and you get goosebumps or I
have another moment that I think about a
lot where we had a very very close
friend die very tragically
and it was just absolutely horrible he
was like he was a super close friend of
ours and he was basically like our
daughter's second father she was he was
the best he was the father of her best
friend at the time and a year
to the date of his death
at the exact time
that he died
I was driving from a soccer match where
our daughters had been playing and he
and my husband had been their soccer
coaches and had been pouring rain
and so we pull into the town and as I
Come Around the Corner the town that we
all lived in and the the rain suddenly
stops and the Skies part
and there's a church steeple right there
and there is a double
rainbow the biggest brightest double
rainbow I have ever seen and I look at
the time
and it was like five 27.
and it was the exact time of his death
and I had to pull the car over I
actually pulled the car over I had to
take a breath because it just took my
breath away and I knew it was Fred I
knew he was there and I
took my camera out I took a photo of the
moment and that that that was one of
those moments for me where there was
this incredible
meaning to that moment because of course
I had been thinking about him all day
yeah everybody had because it had been
the year anniversary you're saying that
synchronicity awareness goes beyond just
recognizing those moments when they
happen that you can teach yourself how
to create more of them yeah
for real exactly yep yep
and and so I'm thinking about this story
and dissecting every little piece of it
because the synchronicity of symbols
signs and symbols of the rainbows the
time again at the exact time that
feeling that you had you took the
picture to remember that so it's it's
the fact that we've been coming from a
soccer match with our daughters like
just incredible so you see the story and
things start to fall together in time
it's communicating something to you that
is very powerful now how do you take
that forward so people that look at how
powerful that feels Beyond like it just
makes me when I have a a synchronicity
moment
it is almost like reassuring that
there's magic or something larger
happening than just the mundane
day-to-day that we all get sucked into
yeah is this related
in some way to being able to trust your
gut yeah how so
throughout my research I continually got
this message from people
and it is so true you just it just feels
right okay
how do you start
to
tap into
this power inside of us
to take our internal life
and have it now match what our external
experiences I want to become better at
the synchronicity awareness I want this
in my life and so I'm a real like
believer in the power of this I've
experienced it and what I'm on a mission
though is to demystify these things and
the research so that even somebody
that's analytical because I find that a
lot of people who get stuck myself
included
tend to get very right about how stuck
they are and very analytical about their
stuckness we're going to take a short
break and when we come back Dr Myers is
going to help us tap into synchronicity
so let's go there because I think we all
buy the fact that we're energetically
connected and there there are these
incredible links between us between our
thoughts and the things that we want to
see come true in the world and we have
to be willing to see them but if we've
proven that point
that you have the ability
to find these really meaningful
Connections in your life and that you
have the ability to turn synchronicity
into a tool so you experience more Goose
moments and so that your internal world
starts to get reflected in the world
that you see around you how do you start
to tap into this like what's step number
one
so in the really cool thing is once you
start down this path and once you start
to to see synchronicity it becomes
abundant it's it's around you at every
every point you can see it everywhere so
how do you so here are the tools and
here are some some actionable items
again it's quieting the mind just as we
did just to begin to see these
connections
notice patterns so in my research
a lot of folks talk about
synchronicity comes in threes or fours
or five but there's a pattern there is
an interconnecting event that links to
one another so is one tool in those
moments to go this is happening for a
reason and actually claim that something
magical is starting to happen you it
sounds like a huge part of this Dr Myers
is being willing
to label these moments
as this is happening for a reason
that there's this
courage or this confidence that you need
to start to cultivate
that you know that life is happening for
you
and I like to say there are signs all
around you if you're awake enough to see
them and those signs get bigger and
brighter and louder
if you start calling them out and
thanking them like we recently moved
here to Southern Vermont and you know
I'm this this podcast I've launched in
partnership with Stitcher and um sxm
media they do all the ad sales for it
and so I was in New York and I met
um Lizzy who's one of the executives at
sxm media and she's freaking amazing and
we're like we literally look alike and
we just hit it off immediately she's
like so where do you live
and I tell her she's like oh my God my
best friend just moved there
from Palm Springs and now he and his
husband are like great friends of ours
and so for me
that's a synchronicity moment it's not a
coincidence that they moved here I meant
to know these two I meant to know Josh
and David and so are Chris right now at
this moment in my life there's a reason
yes but but I think the magic is in
calling it out and being willing to
believe that there's a reason
yeah that's that's kind of what I'm
getting from this that if you're
to tap into this power you have to be
open that the power exists and you got
to be brave enough
to call it when it's happening
because that's where the magic comes in
is in noticing the Goosebumps calling
out the connection believing that there
is this Force for good that is trying to
guide you in the right direction and you
got to wake your ass up and start to pay
attention to it and trust it and trust
it yeah that there is and this is the
spiritual connection and again all you
think about well this is how prayers can
be answered this is how things in the
spiritual world and the universe and the
larger universe The Source or you know
your higher self well I think for for
people people that don't believe in a
higher power
not only do you have the physics but I
think when it comes to Common Sense
you've experienced moments in your life
where your life is aligned
with your values your purpose the right
energy things get into a flow State you
have experience moments like that in
your life and you've also experienced
moments in your life where there's
tremendous resistance and friction and
frustration and everything feels like a
grind and like you're just hat it's
harder than it needs and you're just one
of our daughters is in a job like that
right now where she just oh it just
and so you can also think about this in
terms of alignment like when your life
is out of alignment you can feel it and
you can feel that you're surrounded by
the wrong person or excuse me you can
feel that you're surrounded by the wrong
people or you're in the wrong
relationship or at the wrong job and
then there are those moments where
things are aligned
with who you are as a person and what
that tells me when somebody's in
alignment in their decisions and their
actions is that they
are honestly like kind of tapped into
this synchronicity because what they're
feeling on the inside is matching The
Experience on the outside and so I think
whether you come at this from physics or
common sense or you come at it from
spirituality there is no denying that we
have all experienced these moments that
you can't quite explain these moments
where you know there is something magic
that is existing here
yeah something crazy like even even on
this podcast
we hired our executive producer Andrea
and it wasn't until she came on and she
had been you know producing massive
shows for like Gayle King and and uh
Andy Cohen and had been at serious for a
very long time super experienced woman
that
we realized oh my God we worked together
15 years ago
we literally when she got her first job
in radio I had this tiny little Collins
show
and she worked on it and now here we are
15 years later
launching this together and she's
running the whole thing
and so to me that was a synchronicity
moment
because there is something that is meant
to be happening happening and for me
personally when I tap into that belief
that faith if you will whether it's a
higher power or energy or alignment or
physics
that makes me more confident yeah it's
like creating your own mile markers on
the path of life
the every single time I see one of those
I'm like okay I get it I'm on the right
path so do you think synchronicity
moments
are
there because they are
lighting the path and signaling what
direction you should head in it's almost
like a reward from the universe or from
the future you that you're on the right
path yeah and if you just go through a
thing let's just just a coincidence no
no no no it's probably it's not going to
bring you on that path if you start to
think oh my gosh these are meaningful
these synchronistic
events these people things that are
coming at the right place again coming
together in time at the right place at
the right time it is as you say a
guidepost for you know where
intuitively where you should go and now
I know people are going to go well how
do I do this one of the best places to
start
is by
adding a simple Habit to your morning
routine
or your evening routine which is to
write down five things that you want
they can be small they can be big
anything so let me see if I can get the
three steps to developing synchronicity
as a superpower in your life number one
you have to supercharge your attention
about what you want and if you don't
know what you want start writing five
dreams down every damn day and if you
want help with that go to melrobbins.com
stream big we've got a sheet that
thousands of you have already downloaded
that'll walk you through how to do this
make this a practice because this all
begins with what's inside your mind
inside your heart and so you gotta get
serious
about putting your attention on what you
want instead of bitching about the
things that you don't have or the way
that things are so super powering your
attention is Step number one
for developing synchronicity in your
life correct yep yep okay great so step
number two Professor Myers if I'm
getting this
is opening up your heart
to those moments where now that you have
supercharged your attention and said I
want that damn Gucci handbag I don't
care that it's sold out I don't care
that this or I want friends I need more
friends in my life I'm lonely so you
supercharge your attention to what you
want and then you got to be open
to the in the beginning coincidences
that you could easily be like
that's the way that my phone listens to
me and it's serving up ads or oh that
person's just reaching out because they
want something you got to get rid of
your negative filter on what's happening
around you and you got to wake the hell
up and realize that all around you Dr
Myers is here to profess people he has
researchers all around you are magical
connections and it's connected to what
you want inside you and the second is in
the emotion that comes with that you you
feel yes feel it yes and so you gotta
start to get positive
and intentional about calling out these
signs that life is trying to help you
that things are going in the right
direction you gotta grab one little
thing and use it as like a little toe
hold to hold on to and then when you
call out that sign you got to walk
toward it yeah
yeah is that right yeah you know I never
realized that this is how I live my life
like I think what I've learned in this
conversation is that synchronicity is
something that I've been tapping into
for a very long time and there are
periods in my life where I wasn't
tapping into it and I was completely out
of alignment and it was full of friction
and self-destruction and then there have
been periods where I've allowed myself
to say what I want or at least say what
wasn't working
and
I allowed myself to start to believe in
the signs that would be presented and
having done a tremendous amount of
research about the reticular activity
system and the filter in our brains and
how you can change your mind and how
your mind can help you
I really hope that as you're listening
to this conversation yes you I'm talking
to you
that you will open your heart and your
mind to this because it's very real I
mean they wouldn't be given the Nobel
Prize to somebody doing quantum
entanglement if two particles a light
year away could not like impact one
another and I want you to realize the
power of your thoughts and you to
realize that the world is trying to help
you that you are meant to live in
alignment that synchronicity is not only
possible it's something that you're
wired to do
and you can start today and I also
realized something else Dr Myers and
it's this you know I wrote about this
thing that I've done for years that I
didn't realize is an example of training
yourself for synchronicity
and the assignment's very simple today
when you're done listening to this
podcast I want you to look around you
and I want you to find the symbol of a
heart
and I want you to find it in nature just
naturally occurring somewhere it could
be the shape of a cloud it could be on
the top of your coffee last night I
noticed somebody tagged me online and
she was writing Peloton and as she's
riding Peloton she looked up and in
front of her beyond the screen was a
bookcase and up on the bookcase was a
vase
and
somehow coming through the window the
sunlight had made the perfect shape of a
heart on that vase
and she called it out
and so when you look around today
whether it's a leaf or a spot my dog has
I realized after we got our puppy he has
a spot
on his nose that is a heart and I'm like
if that's not synchronicity like that
like this is the dog that's meant for me
and when you see the heart
I want you to just for a second
open your mind and your heart to this
kind of cheesy notion that will change
your life
and
tell yourself that that heart was placed
there for you to find
because when you allow yourself to kind
of
experience life
as a gigantic scavenger hunt
that every day there are Clues all
around you
clues that tell you were on the right
path or the wrong path clues that are
there to help you
feel more confident and full of faith
that you're heading in the right
direction that things are going to get
better that you're meant for more when
you can turn your life into a giant
scavenger hunt it is the most incredible
thing in the world and looking for
hearts
or seeing Angel numbers or any other
sign that might make you feel a little
empowered this isn't some cheesy thing
to do
not only is there Neuroscience around
how you're reprogramming the filter in
your brain when you intentionally fire
up your awareness and you look for signs
but I think something really really
important is happening too
seeing signs looking for meaning and
synchronicities it provides guard rails
and these guard rails they keep you
going
they make you feel less alone and right
now you may feel really alone but I want
you to know you're not
you can use this heart exercise as a way
to start to see synchronicity we're
dealing with an epidemic of loneliness
and it's impacting everybody
so whether you're flying high right now
and you need to look for signs and
synchronicities in order to land the
biggest deal of your life
or you need to look for signs and
synchronicities just to make it through
another day
this can help
the truth is synchronicity signs it can
help you believe again
in fact as we were just wrapping up the
recording of this episode an email came
in I kid you not at 4 14. and I just
happened to glance at it as we were
literally about to go okay episodes done
on synchronicities and I said everybody
wait a minute wait a minute
Eliza who's a listener to this podcast
wrote in to the website for the form for
the podcast
and here's what it said
I don't want anything Mel I just want
you to know
that I was literally on the verge of
ending my life
and then I met you
my new friend
you're the one human on the planet right
now who is able to keep me on this Earth
and you don't even know me
thank you
also
I finally found one heart
I've been looking for days
it's a piece of coral
and I love you for telling me to look
for hearts again
I don't want anything
just to say thank you for saving my life
this email to me
was synchronicity
it came in at exactly the right time
it has extraordinary meaning for me
because something felt missing from the
episode
and what was missing was
this synchronicity
something profound to show you
that these simple things that I'm
telling you work actually do
that sometimes all you need is to see a
piece of coral in the shape of a heart
and tell yourself that it was put there
for you to remind you
that yes you are loved
and yes you have a life that is worth
living
and yes you have the strength and the
courage
to get through whatever it is that
you're facing
and that the synchronicities and the
signs are all around you that you have a
big and beautiful life
that is waiting for you
oh
so Eliza thank you
and keep looking for hearts because now
that you have found one piece of coral
that reticular activating system in your
brain that filter that helps you spot
synchronicities guess what you just
programmed it today
and now it's going to help you see even
more
thank you for taking the time to write
in
and God I just love this because what it
shows is that when you tap into the
science of synchronicity
you're not only training your brain for
miracles
you're actually bringing a tool into
your life that is an act of self-love
self-support self-confidence
self-resilience talk about a superpower
amazing
and I can't wait to hear all the other
stories of synchronicity that come
rolling through so please go to
melrobbins.com and on the topic Forum
share your stories about synchronicity
tell us about the hearts that you're
seeing or better yet post a photo of
yourself with one and tag us so we can
repost you and cheer you forward and one
more thing I want to say thank you to Dr
Myers thank you for being with us and to
you I want to say
get out there and go find some rocks
get out there and be looking for some
hearts
I got goosebumps oh my gosh
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