MONTH
MONTH WHILE ENCOURAGING EVERYONE, EVEN THOUGH 65 OR
OLDER, TO SAFELY GET OUTSIDE.
>>> DATING HAS EVOLVED SO MUCH
IN THE LAST FEW YEARS THAT IT
FEELS LIKE ESPECIALLY IN THE
LAST FEW MONTHS THANKS TO THE
COVID-19 PANDEMIC.
COVID-19 PANDEMIC. NOW PEOPLE AREN'T JUST MEETING
ON APPS, BUT THEY ARE DOING
VIRTUAL DATES.
VIRTUAL DATES. NOW THAT RESTRICTIONS ARE
EASING, A LOT OF US WILL TAKE
THOSE CONNECTIONS OFF-LINE.
TODAY WE WANTED TO BRING IN A
LICENSED RELATIONSHIP
LICENSED RELATIONSHIP THERAPIST, A MODERN LOVE
COUNSELING IN DENVER.
GOOD MORNING.
GOOD MORNING. >> GOOD MORNING.
THANKS FOR HAVING ME.
>> THIS IS INTERESTING.
CNBC RECENTLY CLAIMED THE
PANDEMIC COULD CHANGE DATING
FOREVER.
FOREVER.
FOREVER. THEY ARE SAYING THERE ARE SOME
UPSIDES LIKE THE COST AND THERE
ARE SOME DOWNSIDES AS WELL,
LIKE NOT ACTUALLY
FEELING THE VIBES. HOW DO YOU
THINK THINGS WILL CHANGE?
>> WELL, I THINK THAT,
OBVIOUSLY, THINGS HAVE CHANGED.
OBVIOUSLY, YOU KNOW, THERE IS A
BIG IMPACT IN EVERYONE'S LIFE,
AND I THINK INCLUDING SINGLES,
BUT I THINK THERE IS KIND OF
TWO DIFFERENT TYPES OF DATERS,
AND THE ONE SIDE, THERE ARE
SOME SINGLES LOOKING TO HAVE FUN
.
.
. I
. I DON'T
. I DON'T THINK A LOT HAS CHANGED.
THEY ARE STILL MEETING UP.
YOU KNOW, THEY ARE STILL KIND OF
HABITUALLY TALKING TO PEOPLE
AND I DON'T THINK A TON HAS
CHANGED EXCEPT FOR THE FACT
THAT THEY CAN'T NECESSARILY GO
OUT IN A BUT THEY ARE STILL
BEING CREATIVE AND FINDING WAYS
TO CONNECT.
TO CONNECT. I THINK THERE IS A WHOLE OTHER
SET OF DATERS THAT ARE REALLY
LOOKING FOR THEIR PERSON AND A
GENUINE CONNECTION, SO I THINK
THAT WITH THAT, THOSE PEOPLE IN
PARTICULAR ARE STRUGGLING IN
SOME SENSES BUT ALSO KIND OF
RELIEVED THAT THE PRESSURE IS
OFF THAT THEY GET TO MAYBE BE A
LITTLE MORE AUTHENTIC, EVEN
THOUGH IT'S THROUGH A VIRTUAL
SCREEN OR TEXT. THEY CAN JUST
KIND OF BE MORE THEMSELVES AND
KIND OF SEE, YOU KNOW, HOW
THINGS ARE IN TERMS OF AN
EMOTIONAL CONNECTION FIRST.
I THINK THAT THAT IS ACTUALLY A
GOOD SHIFT.
GOOD SHIFT. >> THAT'S SO INTERESTING
BECAUSE YOU ARE KIND OF FORCED.
IT TAKES AWAY THE PHYSICAL SIDE
OF IT.
OF IT.
OF IT. YOU CAN CONNECT ONLINE. DO YOU
THINK SOME OF THE APPS HAVE MADE
CHANGES, DO YOU THINK THAT WILL
STAY?
STAY?
STAY? I
STAY? I DON'T KNOW THEY NECESSARILY
NEED TO MAKE IT VIRTUAL ON THE
APPS AS WELL.
YOU'VE GOT FACE TIME.
>> I THINK IT'S PROBABLY TRYING
TO UPDATE THEIR APPS SO THAT
THEY CAN BE APPEALING TO CERTAIN
PEOPLE. OBVIOUSLY, THERE IS
MONEY INVOLVED.
MONEY INVOLVED. I THINK THAT MAY BE IT'S
PROBABLY GOING TO STAY.
I DON'T SEE WHY IT WOULD LEAVE.
I THINK IT HAS A CODED
PROTECTION, BUT PEOPLE CAN FEEL
MORE CONFIDENT BEING THEMSELVES
.
.
. >>
. >> WEWE
. >> WEWE HAVE THE FIRST DATE
ONLINE BUT THEN THERE IS THE
FIRST DATE IN PERSON.
WHAT DO YOU HAVE FOR
RECOMMENDATIONS FOR FIRST DATES
AS WE ARE IN THIS UNCERTAIN TIME
QUESTION MIKE.
QUESTION MIKE. >> AWKWARDNESS IS PROBABLY
GOING TO BE A PIECE TO THIS
REGARDLESS, BECAUSE WE ARE
HUMAN AND IT'S KIND OF WEIRD
AND NEW.
AND NEW.
AND NEW. I THINK THAT'S OKAY. KIND OF
UNDERSTANDING AND HAVING
EXPECTATIONS OF IT BEING
AWKWARD IS OKAY.
BUT I TRY TO HELP MY CLIENTS
WHO HAVE REACHED THE MINDSET OF
BEING ANXIOUS AND WORRIED TO
ACTUALLY BEING
ACTUALLY BEING EXCITED. I
EXCITED. I THINK WHAT A LOT OF PEOPLE
DON'T KNOW IS PHYSIOLOGICALLY
OUR BODIES RESPOND TO ANXIETY
AND RESPOND TO THIS THE EXACT
SAME WAY.
SAME WAY.
SAME WAY. BEFORE YOU GO INTO THE FIRST
DATE IN PERSON AND YOU'RE LIKE,
I'M SO NERVOUS, YOU KNOW, YOUR
MIND STARTS
MIND STARTS ATTACKING THAT FEELING AND
STARTS AUTOMATICALLY PUTTING A
STORY TO IT THAT IS NEGATIVE.
I'M AFRAID HE'S NOT GOING TO
LIKE ME, I'M AFRAID SHE'S NOT
INTERESTED BUT WHAT IF WE DON'T
HAVE THE SAME CHEMISTRY?
THAT LEADS TO CHEMISTRY THAT
MAKES THE FIRST DATE AWKWARD. I
THINK IF YOU CAN ACKNOWLEDGE,
BUT THEN GOING INTO IT, CHANGE
THE MINDSET TO WHAT WE CAN BE
EXCITED ABOUT. I
THINK THAT KIND OF HELPS
ALLEVIATE SOME OF THE PRESSURE
AND HELP YOU BE A LITTLE BIT
MORE YOURSELF.
MORE YOURSELF. >> ABSENTLY.
>> ABSENTLY. CHANGING THAT NERVOUS ENERGY
INTO EXCITED ENERGY. I
THINK A LOT OF PEOPLE WILL BE
EXCITED TO