I think that the best way to be confident in any situation, whether it be with a woman, whether it
be at a party, whether it be when you're doing a big speech in front of a lot of people...
one of the best ways (I'll go through a few today) but one of the things,
I think that's important is the mindset of going into any of these situations.
I think one of the biggest reasons why we're not confident in any situation in particular, is
strictly because we are so much in our own heads and in our own ego,
that we automatically assume, subconsciously, that everyone else has it figured out.
Do you relate to this? Press the like button, even write a comment down below if this is relatable
to you. This is something that I've gone through. And I feel like a lot of people are going through
this as well, when it comes to something of lack of confidence. We just assume that other people
always know what they're doing. And we don't know ourselves what we're doing. We see a pretty girl,
we assume yeah, she's pretty, she's got it all together. She's the one who's harshly judging
us. You're speaking in front of a room full of people, a meeting or something at work,
and you're seeing them and they're looking at you and it's like, all eyes on you. It's
all about you. Maybe you're giving a toast at a wedding, maybe you're at a party and you're
walking around and see other people there and you just kind of assume that because they're talking
and everyone's having a good time that they have it all figured out. And that everyone's got it all
figured out but you. Do you relate to this? The reality is that this is not true one bit. You,
me, the thousands of people who are going to watch this video, the millions of people in your city,
we're all going through the same thing. And I think that that mindset
is crucial when you're walking into any of these situations. Everyone has some sort of self-esteem
issue. We all lack confidence in some way. And we're all thinking the same thing, that everybody
has this whole thing figured out whatever it may be, or maybe even life in general. That's
one of the biggest things I think about when it comes to confidence. Taking that new mindset,
which is going to be "okay, I'm not the only one here that doesn't have this figured out. There's
other people too that are still self conscious in some ways." You would take that mindset,
I don't know about you, but instantly, boom, that makes me feel a little bit more comfortable.
And therefore just a little bit more confident that you don't have to be perfect
at every single thing that you do in any situation that you do do. You don't have to be that way.
Because we're all sharing that same struggle. When we walk into a situation, we feel like okay,
I better have this figured out because everyone else does. That's completely false. Now,
I'm generally speaking here. I'm sure that there are many people out there that are
super confident in every single thing that they do. But either way, we know in general, that a
lot of people are going through the same crap that you are. Don't assume that everyone has it figured
out. The second thing is this, confidence... I stated this in a previous video too. Confidence
will always come from the ability to be competent in the thing that you want to be competent in.
This second level after the mindset that I just gave you, the second level of confidence is all
geared towards you becoming competent at whatever it is that you want to become competent in.
And this idea helps you build self-esteem. How is self-esteem built? It's through two things. One,
keeping the promises that you make to yourself and two, your peer group, the people that you surround
yourself in. If you surround yourself by a bunch of losers who are going nowhere in their life, and
they're not doing anything to challenge themselves or grow, you're probably going to stick with those
people and not grow as well. But most importantly, keeping the promises that you make to yourself.
What does this mean? This means that when you say you're going to go to the gym this
week three times, you go to the gym three times. When you say, I'm going to go approach that girl,
or you want to approach that girl, you go and approach that girl. When you say, you know what,
I want to study for this test and just study as best as I can to get the best grade I can,
you follow through and you do that. You keep the promises that you make to yourself. And here's the
secret. You don't have to have this high barrier of entry. You can have a lower barrier of entry,
which means that you can do small things that are easier to accomplish, which then
make sure that you accomplish them, which then build your self-esteem, and then build your
confidence. Did you follow that there? We're going to create small little goals that we can
accomplish that can make us feel better about what we're doing because it's not about the outcome.
If you fail, like, if you say you're gonna go approach three women and they all reject you,
you're still gonna feel good about yourself. You went out and you approached three women. You
studied for that test, you gave it your best shot. You went to the gym, maybe they weren't the best
workouts, but you went and you know where there's areas to improve, but you're keeping the promises
that you're making to yourself. And that's what you need to do. That's going to help you become
more confident and build self-esteem. But also, it's going to get you better at the thing that
you want to do, which is ultimately going to make you more confident. Before I finish this video,
and I have a few more things to say, I do have something free for you. It's called
Instantly Confident and it's a video that's going to teach you how to build confidence and go deeper
into this topic. It's completely free, you'll get on my email list. The link is down below for you
to get that and what's cool is you'll be on my email list. I send out emails every week with a
bunch of great information. In written form versus a video like this. Stuff that I don't always talk
about here on the YouTube channel as well. Go grab that. But what I want you to do is this week, I
want you to make one small promise to yourself and then accomplish whatever it is that you promised
yourself to do. Make it small, lower barrier of entry so you can go and do that thing. And you're
gonna see your self-esteem and confidence go up a little bit. It's a guarantee. Even if whatever
you're trying to accomplish, let's say approaching women doesn't work out to the outcome that you
desired, it's still gonna make you feel good. I want you to write down below. What is one thing,
one small thing you're going to do this week? It's going to give us all ideas of what to do.
Also when you write it down, it's that much more likely you're actually going to do it because
of commitment and consistency. You say that you're going to do something, more likely you're going to
do it because you said it or wrote it down here on this video. This is gonna help you
become more confident as a person and then you can start walking in any situation that you want
to be and feel more confident in yourself. I hope that helps. Get Instantly Confident for
free down in the description to dive deeper in this topic and I'll see you on the next video.