- What do you do when your ex is giving you mixed signals?
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different scenarios on when lady's exes are giving them
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So ladies, without further ado, let's start
with situation number one.
So this lovely lady saying,
hello, my ex reacted with emojis on my post.
I didn't react to it.
The next day he removed his reactions.
What do you think?
This is his first time showing up
after two months of no contact.
So he was basically hoping that you're going
to respond to it and then you didn't respond to it.
He got insecure, he probably felt a little bit like,
you know, and he removed it.
So in your case, I would say don't do anything,
don't reach out to him.
Let him come to you because it's your ex
and if you're actually planning or thinking
or hoping to get back with him,
you need to let the guy take the lead.
You just have to let the guy take the lead and pursue you.
Even if he's insecure to do so,
you have to stay patient, have self control,
and let him come after you and lead.
If he is interested in you, don't do anything,
pretend that you didn't even see that
and in no time when he gets over what he just did,
he will get in contact with you again
so just stay patient.
Why you should not chase a man, please watch
my video right here.
Situation number two.
I don't post any pics on social media after breakup
because I took a break from it for two months.
Will he think I didn't move on?
I cut all ties too.
You know ladies, what,
the worst thing, I'm gonna tell you what is the worst thing
to do when you break up with somebody.
The worst thing to do is to victimize yourself
and show to the world how you feel, how,
how upset you are, how devastated you are
on the social media.
This is the worst thing to do after the breakup
because no guy finds a woman who
victimizes herself and who cannot live
without him attractive.
Guys love a woman who is in control of her life,
who values and respects herself, who does not
want to be with somebody who doesn't want to be with her,
who knows her value.
So a woman who knows her value, she's not going to put out
herself blaming the guy, victimizing herself,
crying all over social media, right?
If you're putting out there how hurt you are,
this is what will turn him off.
If you are just removing yourself and just
not doing anything,
he can assume whatever he wants to assume.
You cannot control what he thinks or what he assumes
and if his assumptions does not have proof,
well then, it's just assumptions
and he will know that it's just assumptions.
Same as like, after the breakup a lot of girls post,
put a lot of happy pictures, oh I'm so happy
I'm with my friends, I'm so happy I'm eating this cake,
I'm so happy I went out dancing,
I'm so happy looking at the moon and the stars,
you know, a lot of people do this after the breakup
trying to provoke a man that I'm totally okay
and I'm living this fulfilling life without you.
This type of stuff works only when you're
young and immature and when the guy's young and immature
because if you actually were in love,
if he knows that you had feelings for him
and you're uploading this type of stuff on social media,
he knows it's an act that you're putting out for him.
So, you know, it's still better, I suppose
than crying all over social media but it's still
an immature way to behave.
The best way to behave on social media after the breakup
is just to be normal, as you always are.
Just don't share your personal life out there.
Our personal life is the best when it's kept private.
What's between you and him should always stay
between you and him
and, yeah, and the answer to your question,
let him assume whatever he wants to assume.
If he really starts to wonder how are you
and what are you up to?
He will reach out to you and will ask himself.
Situation number three.
Hi, broken up with my boyfriend due to some
misunderstanding, okay so you broke up with your guy
because of misunderstanding so probably,
it sounds to me like you,
assumed the worst and lost emotional control
or perhaps accused him of something that he hasn't done
cause you assumed the worst.
I'm assuming that, okay.
I asked him whether to continue this relationship
or not, he didn't show any sign.
Okay, so he kinda didn't want to pursue you
at the time being.
I don't know why but maybe if you broke up with the guy
over misunderstanding then it's technically not his fault
so if something is not his fault then you're kind of
trying to get him to chase you.
It's just, it's not how it's done.
It's gonna backfire cause he's not in the process
of chasing you because you messed up
by misunderstanding or assuming the worst.
I know I did low value behavior listening to my mom
but if he doesn't want me then why he wants me
to be his friend?
Oh so he said let's be friends, okay,
then you say cool yeah.
Why he becomes insecure when I talk to a guy
with whom he was insecure before?
And why he starts questioning me whether I will
move on or not?
I told him it will take time to me to move on,
by saying this he got certainty.
Now this lady's mentioning certainty
because I do talk about it a lot on my channel
that certainty, safety, and security
is not a man's love need, it's a woman's love need.
Okay, a man's love need is go for goals,
go for dreams, give him a little bit of uncertainty,
being a challenge, so she's saying
I gave him quite a bit of certainty.
I guess so then he went cold because he got safety
and security so he's like, oh I got her.
So he went cold cause there is no need to chase her now.
Then I was in contact with him as a friend.
Oh, so you were pursuing him as a friend,
that's why he went a bit cold cause he still saw
through your actions that you like him.
During no contact, why he reached out at my place
on Eid to wish my parents and return my gifts
and why during no contact he came on my cousin's birthday,
started staring at me if he does not want to be with me?
It's been two weeks, he didn't reach out yet.
He's playing power games or will he never
going to come back?
Okay so it shows through his actions,
we can see that he's showing interest.
So he is turning at the places uninvited
to kind of stalk you.
The only way a guy would do that if he is into you, right?
So it sounds to me that, through this whole situation,
what just happened, he got a bit turned off but,
guys you need to think about it like this.
When something bad happens in the relationship,
all the feelings and the whole relationship
is not going to fall apart over that one bad thing
if you build something good together, right.
If something bad happens, you take,
what happens is there's a few steps back, right,
that happens in a relationship.
The whole thing doesn't crash.
All the feelings and emotions don't go away
just because of that bad thing, right?
So there was a misunderstanding, he got a bit turned off,
he doesn't want to pursue you at this time being,
however, he is still into you, the big picture,
he's still into you but he doesn't want to pursue you.
Right, so he is showing up at the places,
checking in on you, checking what you are up to,
what you're doing, right, so through his actions
we can see that he is still into you.
What I would recommend you to do is,
live your life, do your thing, don't text him,
don't chase him like, just do your thing right.
Let him, and let him get in touch with you,
step by step, let him stalk you, let him show up,
and let him slowly make those moves toward you.
Your goal right now is just to be patient
and let him slowly come to you.
Also another thing I would like to add if,
you guys broke up or you broke up with him
over misunderstanding, then technically it's not his fault.
If it's not his fault, he's not gonna,
it's very unlikely that he will come after you,
pursuing you full on cause it's not his fault, right?
But he still wants you so,
when he's coming at you slowly,
you kinda have to, because I don't know what
your relationship is like, but you kind of have to look
at the picture, at the big picture itself
and at that situation and then see
is the right thing for you to do just kinda,
when he's slowly pursuing you, to get back together
and start things fresh like nothing happened
and continue being high value.
Or when you broke up with him,
you broke up over some big misunderstanding
and it was definitely his fault,
in which case when he is coming after you,
you tell him that,
because of what has happened, let's just see how it goes
and take things slow.
Right, so there, for the ladies who are actually,
the exes is coming back and he really,
just bad things happened and you want him back,
don't just jump on him when he's coming back.
Tell him that, let's take things slow
as that is the logical thing to do because
if you're just gonna get that bad ex back,
hoping that you're just gonna magically be good together,
this is not gonna happen so you want to check,
is that person right for you or it's not worth
the emotional investment.
So, when the ex comes back and if he was not
an angel, take things slow and see how he's behaving
and then decide, is it worth pursuing
this relationship or not?
Okay, so ladies, these were my three situations
when guys, when exes give you mixed signals.
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