From Chris. Hi Tripp. My name is Chris. I'm a new listener to the podcast and already love it.
You may have gone over this in a previous episode that I just haven't got to. But
here goes and I'll try to keep this short. I'm a recent college graduate who is having a difficult
time finding steady work. I've been doing everything in my power to get a full time job,
or even a part time job, applying for hundreds of jobs, networking,
improving my resume, etc. It hasn't been a smooth road since graduating with my bachelor's degree
in May 2021. What advice would you give to a guy in my situation when it comes to approaching,
talking to, and dating women? Because we all know not having a job can be a real turnoff
for the women being approached and may hinder a guy's confidence, at least for me personally.
I must also add that I'm an average looking guy, 5'7, works out, stays in shape,
and has a good social life. Thanks Tripp. Chris. This question has been answered and asked and in
a different way. But I haven't gone over this in a while so I'm happy to talk about this because
it's a little bit more specific, which I like that. Alright, so here's my thought... if you
are a postgraduate or maybe let's say you're 30 years old and you got fired and you're like, wow,
now I don't have a job or I'm looking or you're in between jobs and you're thinking, should I
be going out and dating, should I not be dating? Here's the thing... your priority right now 110%,
it should be finding a job. This goes for you, Chris – your priority should be finding a job,
finding work, you need to pay the bills, you need to survive. If you don't have a job,
then we're talking about a hard time was survival. So we need to get surviving going. We need to get
the job, pay for the things, have the type of life that we want and lifestyle that we want.
But more importantly, we need to have a place to call home and that has to do with making money,
which again has to do with getting a job. Obvious things. You definitely want to be doing that. Now,
even though I'm saying that's priority, there's only so much time in the day that
you could be applying for jobs and looking for jobs. So if there is time left over, which I'm
assuming that there is... I remember when I was 22 years old when I was applying for jobs,
I wasn't out of work for that long. I was working in the entertainment industry, I was able to get
a job fairly quick, it was a part time job. But you have time on your hands because there's only
so much you could do and it sounds like you're doing everything. So with the time leftover,
yes, definitely be filling it with working out and being healthy. That's going to help your mood
overall and your moods very important. Because if you have a bad mood and you're not doing
the things healthy for your body and your brain, that's not going to be good. But then there might
be more time over. After that, I would say I think it's okay to go and do approaches and talk to
women. Because women are not going to necessarily judge you that fast, first of all. If you're able
to pull the attraction triggers and flirt with them and be a very charismatic and confident guy,
they will be more understanding than you think. They don't necessarily reject you
that fast because you don't have a job right now. If you're looking for a job and there's
a reason why you're in between jobs, first of all, for you, you're a post grad, so you're gonna
have a pretty good excuse, like you just graduated so it's not that bad. So if you're able to go out
and approach women and get a woman attracted before she even knows that you're unemployed,
then understand that you're going to be okay for a while. It's just like the long term thing. If
you're trying to get a girlfriend, you don't have any money, well, you're not going to be able to
pay for things. You're not going to go to dinners and entertainment and do all that stuff. In the
short term, you'll be able to hook up with some girls and do all that. But my big most important
answer here, thanks for bearing with me as I get through this, but the most important thing is
you should be going out and approaching women anyways because it's practice. It's like if they
end up rejecting you because they find out that you don't have a job or you're in between jobs,
whatever. Let's stay outcome independent and let's go and approach and talk to women
anyways because it's going to be practice. I don't like the idea of saving it. Like, oh,
let's save it. Like what? Like you approach a bunch of women and those are women that maybe
you could have approached when you did have a job? That doesn't make sense. That's not very logical.
There's so many women around and there's so many people that you can swipe on. There's so
many women that you can go out and approach. And who knows, those women eventually might
end up getting into relationships with other people. So let's not save the approaches. This
is a skill that needs to be worked on now. So you can look at this as a skill, which it is, go out,
practice this stuff so it's not like okay, now I have the job. Now I can go out. It's like,
well, you spent a lot of that time, that free time that you had practicing this. So imagine
you're doing all the things now. You're being efficient with your time, you're in winner's
mentality, you're doing the things that need to be done to schedule everything out. You're working
out, you're applying for jobs, you're going, you're meeting girls, and then you eventually
end up getting a job, which you probably will. Chances are, you will probably get a job. You're
putting a lot of time into it, it sounds like, so you will get the job. Imagine now you have
the job and you're not starting from scratch with women. Now you're ahead of the game because you've
been practicing, flirting, approaching, talking to women, building confidence, all that good stuff.
And now you're meeting women. It's like boom, you already have the job and you're already far
ahead in the process of the skill set. So that's really big here, Chris. Think about that. And for
all of you out there, same thing. So TLDR too long didn't read or TLDA too long didn't....
no listen... TLDL too long didn't listen. A priority is obviously getting the job, put the
most effort into that now. But yes, you can still go out and be meeting women simultaneously.