We now have your blueprint on what you like and what you want. We are going to
come back to this. Now, we got to create a little bit of a different list. We're
going to go to the away values. These are the things that you're like, "Uh-oh. I
definitely do not want that in my life. I'll do everything in my power to move
away." So, with the green pen, we're going to go ahead and make a list for you of some
of the words that you're like, "Okay, I'll do everything in my power to move away
from these bad boys." What do you got? Who's going to hit 3 or 4. -Apathetic.
-Okay. We got apathy. -What else you got? -Regret and then failure. -Regret.
Failure. Let's put one more up there.
-Mediocrity. -Mediocrity. Alright. Now, you're about to see something very different in
the human psyche. These are the things that he does not want to experience. And
I want you to remember with this positive core values that did he make
his rules hard or easy to achieve? She made it super hard. Let's see what
happens with these. What has to happen for you to feel apathetic? -If I...
When I grew up, I was homeless for a long time and we never had a car as a child.
And I remember people would drive past us as we were carrying groceries. My
mother and I and our family. And I... For some reason felt like rich people didn't
care about the poor. And people that had cars or rich people. And I do not...
I never cried about this before. I don't ever want to forget the poor.
So, apathy. And for you to feel apathetic, what has to happen? You feel
apathetic when what? What's the rule? -If I see someone suffering and I
can... I don't do something. -If I don't help someone in need.
What's another rule for feeling apathy?
-I mean, I feel bad for small things not stopping when someone has their flashing
lights on. Or you know, I'll feel bad for that. I'll feel bad for not being able to
to take care of my mother who's still very poor. -Taking care of my mother.
Someone else is doing something with their car lights? For just a moment let's
talk about regret. In order for you to feel regret, what has to happen?
-I feel regret about almost everything. -I know. I just wanted to rules. Like what
has to happen. Like, do you have to see an aunt stepped off or the doors left ajar
or like the lights were left on. Like what...?
-I guess it's becoming pretty clear that I'm a perfectionist. I mean, I feel
regret over overall it's almost like I search for things to feel bad. -Search for
things to feel bad about. -I mean, I didn't read my scriptures yesterday or some
some dumb. Some dumb thing. Even if I think it's dumb. It's weird because what
I can when I say out loud it seems so simple. But then like, I can't even
convince myself. Do you know what I mean? It's... Even though maybe I know it's
dumb in my brain, I still feel bad about it. I can't even explain it. -You feel
horrible even about an idea. What are you starting to notice about his rules on
his away values? Are they easy or hard to achieve? How easy? He wakes up and
breathes and something has gone wrong and he's feeling regret and apathetic.
How many of you are seen what's happening here?
You guys have beautiful things that you value and you've made it impossible to
get to them regularly. You have things that you're terrified of and you sneeze
and you experience it. What does that set you up for life?
Mediocrity, failure, sadness, despair. And I get that we're out there trying. And by
the way, I know that we have a lot of achievers in this group. I know we got
people who have done amazing things. We're not here to acknowledge what's
working for you. We're all doing this work because again, you come into my
world say, "Kris, like you did, help me do my next real estate deal." And my advice
is get your hiney to my event because I know what's really going to go down.