everyone is buzzing about this New York Times article that talks about women in
college
and how they are bypassing serious relationships
and they're taking part in the hookup culture now a lot of
our writers like Amanda Marcotte would argue well yeah
DUP wise a surprising news but for a lot of people it is surprising because
there's always been this misconception about how
guys wanna play the feel so you have a good time
so women are a little different they want a serious relationship from the
get-go
not the women at Penn in fact sixty women were interviewed for this New York
Times piece
I and the majority of them said that they are in favor
have been part of the hookup culture because they just don't have time for
relationships and nobody got time for that
now you know that I love you receive is very that I went to yes
or gay now you know times have changed the first day
because when I would depend there where 1962 right exactly a camera I
sure almost cool right but no in nineties that's the thing
I went at the worst possible time in ninety city while we were gone way
90s every two hours ago yellow flower called for whatever I
yeah you know exactly how it looks Bay
and a flower or whatever et cetera it when I went and honestly this
uses as well damn 88 to 92 okay of
the hookup culture there was no such thing as hook-up culture
it I remember ever a girl literally told me
I only I kiss you now
if you promise to go out with me like it like we have to be dating
otherwise I don't wanna hook up up for christ sake why don't know we'll let
soak up first and we'll see where it leads right
so it know coca with that doesn't mean people then how come back and of course
people walked upright
but is there different mine said definitely solicited
see what people are doing now in Graham project will comment on how used to be
alright so I was actually go to the first graphic the fuck top five reasons
for choosing how goes overseas relationships of course number one is
because these women want to focus on studying in grades their ambitious
there are more opportunities for women in the job market in in the field so
they're deciding you know what
will focus on serious relationships when we're in our late twenties early
thirties
next one not buying it you're ridiculous ok ill talk about what lol torrent
me time for meeting sports practiced in organizations are internship so
extracurriculars while they're in college
a lot all these extracurriculars take a significant amount of time
so these women are like sure
I'm interested in the site's not interested in the truth really buying it
only 28 percent
out what flexibility to travel in out of the US for their career which I think is
important because a lot of people do have to travel were in this
global economy now so they're saying that if they don't want to date people
because
if you're in a military thing then you gonna be reluctant to go to Timbuktu
exactly right exact now bind Ibiza based on testimony from these women it's not
like
these are assumptions that the New York Times made and Jainism
I just under 7 I'm not buying their what they said they want to
assume that someone better will come along okay so
I mean it's actually a really good point because usually when you're in college
you haven't really found your identity at you know you're still growing you're
still learning you want to experience things you want to figure out who you
really are
if you start dating someone in your late teens I could see your 1918 whatever
you're dating someone you're gonna change significantly
once you enter your 30 rights are well guess you're there I see as a really
solid reason I believe I'm on that
at the same time though like this cuz you date someone this media said you're
automatically precluded from dating anyone else
you not signing a marriage contract calm down right
saw I'm halfway by that when am I not merciful there anyway others
that though the real reason her and the last one is they don't plan to marry
until their late 20's early 30's so why get serious with a guy anyway
why not just have friends with benefits and do with guys like
at you know guys like to do anyway I'm guys would much rather hook up so why
renaming meaning we have a winner okay so
the last statement again I but a little bit isn't right but
the culture is changed and guy is expectations have changed
I like would back when I went to this
who coincidently the one they did this giant story on I haven't gone to school
back when I want the school's
I'm guys did not have the power right women have the power to do I get a attic
wore them you to convince them he had to go on dates sometimes multiple dates
before he could even begin to hook up right and this is how was
now for whatever reason guy seemed to have the power
and so they're like eyes wanna hook up and so I think that a lot of women
and look keep bring on the hatred of a brand is it gonna say if
but I think a lot of women have convinced themselves
no I just wanna hook up to no it's not that I'm just following what the guy
said
I just woke up yeah I think guys wouldn't be able to lose this so-called
power and I like how you call power unless girls were willing to have sex
outside a relationship anyway so in essence women changed their standards
and they realized you know what I don't need to be in this type is in a
relationship right now I'm young I wanna have fun
so I have sex who cares some people might think I'm a slut
of course there's a double standard but society is changing and I'm to do what I
really well that's where this is not just a reason why
you know is the guys in college no longer have to do like the
according and all that other stuff because women
in college wanna have sex too it's not just something that's exclusive to me I
actually agree with ninety percent of what you're saying
%uh I think use a personal side us there's a change it would on this stupid
thing anymore we call them a slow so they sleep around
I mean obviously it exists to some degree right but it's Wayne thank God
rate
so that's a huge part of it two women also wanna have sex
ok all hopes up costing you before they were shamed into like
but you should only have after the 17th day where is now it's like who gives a
shit gonna have sex the guy have sex with a great
I think it's a great change rate but
if you telling me but if on top of that so I agree with everything you say but a
fun time for that you tell me
that women are not likely to catch feelings
after a while I don't agree with that also okay so let's address that for
psych and
I agree with you on that point I think that if you have a so-called hookup
buddy as a woman and I think for some men it's true too but more so for women
if you have a hookup buddy that you'll go to any time here
looking for a little risky business hmm you will develop feelings for that
person
there was one are women profiled in this article who said that she would
purposely
pick a hookup buddy the she couldn't stand like someone that she didn't get
along with she hated his personality but she loved the sex right
so we're I am why didn't I go to that bad
you so many people who hated me would have been perfect yeah
so maybe in that scenario it could work but if you generally get along with that
person
you enjoy their intimate company of course you could definitely develop
feelings for the yaa
so like two men cash for some time time of course they do look we're all human
beings right and we're structured
biologically engineered to catch some degree feelings right
a look I don't care what anybody says ever
Lake a woman hack if she is pregnant
i'm talking about this Homo sapiens who we are
you know we want to spread your seed woman get money is my seat as possible
that's also reality
school ahead little weird when I know I know it's how I needed some feed you
if they don't discuss feels like a sissy okay
that's an absolute biological reality that we're both going to do that right
but at the same time a woman past the have some help
yet while pregnant and after the pregnancy
it anyth it if I love the idea that evolution would forget
to give them the imperative to request that help
from a partner like our group I forgot that woman wonders of life is pregnant
and incredibly vulnerable
right that's not what happens so that's why women are a little more likely
to catch feelings yes okay so that's not going to change no matter what the
society or culture is if you ask me well I mean
it might not change like for instance monogamy
is a societal expectation graydon it's not in our biology to be monogamous
40 life no way you're absolutely right so so society will tell us one thing and
that our biology will tells another and that's when you have infidelity and
sexual misconduct and all that other stuff
%uh in this case biology might tell a woman like
find a mate stays say with that guy have to raise our kids ball all that's our
biology but at the same time
now society is changing now society saying look you have financial
independence
you have the ability to that's true create your own life do what you want to
do
do what makes you happy so it's interesting that there's like a
conflicting
message with nature versus nurture in look I want every inch is a nuance think
a lot of these things are true rate I'm big blue tongue in cheek in the
beginning about
you know how know it's just a guy serve it's not just that
right but I do believe the guys have from
magical way to say like just hook up and then we'll leaving the never see me
again
or just come see me for sex periodically I mean it's
a win win win win win for guys I don't know how they got the message you a
simple bless their hearts
you know I feel good for them okay ok are leaving a little unfair to guys
though because
yeah okay so there's a generalization that all guys just wanna have sex in
their never looking for anything deeper than that but I'm sure there are guys
out there that do want something deeper than I've never about
emotional connection I guess the room
when Hill I
various mo what is it now I'm a cereal but I miss it is absolutely true and
that's what I've done throughout my life
of course you wanna cuddle at times to into a every campy stone-cold
I O love you too are ruined all my speaker
okay of but but so I i get that it's in a bit so balance about once a is
geyser enjoy the hookup just as a hook up without
any other expectations et cetera a little more
when women do not affect women also enjoy from time to time now is a
wonderful thing
god bless have added aus