i get that some people don't want to get
involved in external problems but
sometimes you've just got to step in and
help
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so the dude in the black truck at the
top of the screen is just pulled in to
pump some gas a normal day for him you
can see at the very bottom left of the
screen there's a red suv that this
couple has pulled into and they have a
strong history of abuse so this woman
said that the guy who's running towards
her right now then uh was kicking and
punching her in the car so she jumps out
and tries to go get help from this guy
pumping yes and says help me help me i
you know i need help this guy's trying
to steal me now she's a very small human
so then uh her abuser here she tries to
actually crawl under the guy's truck and
the guy who's getting gas is just
standing there doing nothing while the
guy is gonna actually grab her and pull
her out from under the pickup truck here
and on the initial news stories in all
this they said that they thought that
she was a teenager because she's so
small she's actually 30 or 31 years old
he is going to pick her up and put her
on her his shoulder while she screams
for help in a
gas station here that there are a bunch
of people several people did end up
calling 9-1-1 on this so he is then
going to take her and stuff her into the
red car in the bottom left notice again
we've got like five cars in the parking
lot here bunches of people going on
including our dude who was pumping gas
who is just continuing to pump his gas
then what we're gonna see i'm just gonna
let it play again what's happening here
well he has stuffed this woman who has
been screaming for help back into the
car and is then eventually going to take
off our dude getting gas who she tried
to climb under his truck and asked him
personally and individually for help
gets back in his truck and drives off
police did not be was not able to
contact this guy because he just drove
off and didn't even call
about significant 911 out of this one
all right before we get to the lessons i
got a question for you out of this one
what would you have done you see this
happening real time how do you think you
would have responded let me know in the
comments and let's think about a couple
of options first thing i want to say
about this one is if you are in an
abusive relationship please get out do
whatever it takes to get out of that
relationship before it gets to the place
where you are in acute crisis and being
physically abused and statistics say
that the average abuse victim has to be
abused multiple times physically even
put in the hospital multiple times
before they'll get out please use the
resources available don't let yourself
become another statistic and get out of
there because in cases like this what we
see no one's coming to save you
unfortunately now let's think about uh
what our situation is here from the
perspective of the bystander first so
this guy just got out and is simply
trying to
pump gas and it's just a regular day for
him okay well but now all of a sudden
things are coming his way this woman is
running up towards him and screaming to
him for help with a guy running up
behind her first things first you've got
to think through what you're going to do
in this kind of situation ahead of time
because if you don't think about it
ahead of time now you're trying to make
a plan on the fly i generally say
getting involved in domestic disputes is
highly dangerous and so you should be
careful about it number two getting
involved in third party encounters is
dangerous so you want to be cautious
about it but number three
some things are so shocking to the
conscience of humanity that you have to
step in and help in my opinion
and if you have attitude skills and plan
to protect yourself then this is the
kind of situation that you say okay look
she's screaming for help asking for help
i've got to help this person now that
doesn't mean that you step in there and
point a gun at the guy or anything like
that but it does say hey man you gotta
leave her alone uh i'm you know police
are on the way to figure out what is
happening here and at the very least
offering that and having your tools on
your person your skill set on your
person to protect yourself if either of
them turn on you we do see in domestic
situations when we do step in sometimes
that it's the partner the one who
initially asks for help that ends up
turning on us so you got to watch those
kinds of things but i just don't think
you can
in good conscience here let this guy
drag this small human out from under
your truck while she screams for help
and then put her over his shoulder and
do that i don't know how this guy slept
with himself at night and looks himself
in the mirror and and you know brushes
his teeth every day because i don't
think i could do that now that being
said this is not a case here for a a
firearm i don't think
initially i think far better here to
have an oc spray something like that and
if this guy won't back off bless the
deserving with the hot sauce or whatever
and and again
now at some point we might ask the
question wait a minute he is just
carrying her off could i use a firearm
at this point i think at this point now
we're talking about a kidnapping taking
an adult without you know their consent
and putting them in a car that's a
kidnapping and so yeah you probably
could at least draw it and point it uh
or draw it and if they're issuing
commands
now for the ladies recognize here you're
a small human you need technique she is
not going to be able to overpower this
guy is able to just grab a hold of her
technique is what matters here and just
kicking and screaming is not going to do
it you've got to know how to inflict
pain and injury if you were going to
stop this kind of thing and i also think
for all the ladies no one's coming to
save you you've got to expect this level
of crazy bystander effect and inability
for anyone else to step in which i think
is absolutely morally repugnant but
you've got to expect this and how do you
answer that problem by having your own
attitude skills and plan to protect
yourself so certainly we would hope you
would get out of this relationship
before it ever got to this kind of
situation but if it does you've got to
have the forthrightness and the
willingness to do bodily harm to someone
else if you have to in order to protect
yourself and keep yourself from being
kicked and punched and abused and
kidnapped because nobody else is going
to thankfully good police work they
found both these people the man is
facing several felony charges for what
he did here
and the woman is safe so i'm grateful
for that but we better learn these
lessons as we seek to cover our asp
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