Hey there, this is clay with relationshipinnergame.com and today I want to talk about what you can
do if you literally cannot think of anything to say to your ex or to text them or to email
them or whatever.
And a lot of times people will have this problem, you know, a lot of times people will have
this problem and they'll go looking for like, what do I say to my ex?
Or like what are some like secret scripts that I can send to my ex to or whatever.
And really this is a problem when it comes to actually empathy because when you literally
cannot think of anything to send to your ex and you go out looking for sort of canned
things to say to them.
What that is really indicative of is that you don't have a solid base of empathy because
when you can really imagine what your ex is going to, what their life is like, what their
day to day interactions are, where they are emotionally.
Then you will automatically start to feel curiosity towards them.
What it is that their life is like today.
What, what it was like waking up for them today, what they had for breakfast or lunch
today, what, what, how they felt when they got to work, how the project they're working
on is going, you know, what it is they thought when you sent, when you send them this funny
picture or whatever, you know, there are all kinds of things that you can start to think
of when you can connect with better empathy.
Okay.
When you have better empathy towards, not, not just your ex but towards other people
in general, but also as well with your ex of course.
and so when you literally cannot think of what to say to your ex in order to get a conversation
starters and something like that, it really means that you can benefit from a stronger
sense of empathy rather than from finding a script or finding a canned routine or something
like that to send to them.
Because there will come a point in time where you just run out of lines to say whether there
just no more lines to say, right.
Where it's like, oh well, you know, you asked me this question and my secret script of lines.
It just doesn't tell me what, how to respond to that.
Like there's gonna come a point where that happens and you're going to need to develop
the ability in order to not be screwed when that happens, you're going to need to develop
the ability to feel into a situation and know exactly what to say at that point.
Know exactly how to respond, how to really put yourself in your access point of view
so that you can see their life and start to become curious about their life from that
point of view.
Okay.
And I know this might be hard for some people, especially if you're not accustomed to this
might be hard for some people to like really imagine what they're going to be going through
to really connect with them as like a, a human being.
And I'm not saying this as like, Oh, you know, don't treat your ex like a sex object.
I'm talking about like a lot of times people don't see their exes as a human being.
They see them as like somebody up on a pedestal.
They see them as like the person who decides their happiness or not the person who is like
the most beautiful person in the world or all that, but they forget their ex is a human
being, a living, breathing human being, just like them who has fears, desires, anxieties,
dreams, hopes, things that make them angry.
Things I make them frustrated.
Things that make them smile.
All those things and when you can stay connected with that human part of them, that is where
you can have unlimited amounts of curiosity and come with unlimited things that you can
say to them to get things going.
So when you literally cannot think of something to say to your ex, what I would like you to
do is instead of, you know, going scouring for some like secret Ninja text message or
something like that, I would like for you to instead work on deepening your empathy
and deepening your ability to see your ex as a human being, just like you who is having
a human experience in life.
So if, if you'd like some help with that, if you'd like us to give you some advice and
help with your relationship, please head on over to relationshipinnergame.com and sign
up there so that we can start helping you today.
Thank you.