If your parents force you to marry
somebody whom you don’t like.
What sort of attitude will
you have in that marriage?
From the first day itself
the tragedy has started.
So your attitude must always be
of joy whenever you do something.
You know, for a good
business success, location,
location, and location right?
In a humorous way, they say we
need three things - location,
location, and location.
Spiritual success and even success
in a relationship, and success in
marriage also depends on your attitude.
Ninety-five percent of success
in real life is on attitude.
Let me give one example.
There is a student, papa
says, “Do this MPC, means
maths, physics, and chemistry.
You cannot do otherwise.
You cannot take other subjects, only
MPC.” But the child does not like maths.
What to do?
Parents force such a child and
(the child) ends up with less marks
because they do not like mathematics.
There is already a
negative bias about it.
The attitude is different.
Suppose your parents say, “You
must meditate, you must meditate,
otherwise you are not a good person”,
and you are forced to meditate.
What sort of meditation would that be?
The third worst example that I can
give is if your parents force you to
marry somebody whom you don't like.
What sort of attitude will
you have in that marriage?
From the first day itself
the tragedy has started.
So your attitude must always be
of joy, whenever we do something.
I will give you another example.
Afghanistan, for example, when these
guys are there, the tribal people, if
they like a girl in another village, and
if the girl’s father says, “I cannot let
my daughter marry you”, what will he do?
He will go with twelve
horsemen and abduct that girl
and marry her in the mosque.
In real love what a boy would do is
fall at her feet, go on his knees.
knees, and beg her with
half-a-dozen roses or a dozen
roses and a beautiful diamond ring.
And he will say, “Would you marry
me, please?” And another category is
to drag her hair and say, “ Oh you
bloody so-and-so, you better marry
me.” So in all these situations,
the attitude is different.
Imagine you are dating a girlfriend
or a boyfriend who usually goes
first to the theatre for a movie.
You told your girlfriend, “Okay, we
are going to see a movie, 3 to 6.”
Boy would be there at 2 O’clock,
one hour ahead of time.
And he would not be sleeping also
all night and say, “Kal movie
dekhna hai, kal movie dekhna
hai" And he will start preparing.
He will shave properly, you
know, perfume and all that.
He will ask his mother also, “Am
I dressing properly?” and he will
go so nervous at the theatre.
Girl?
Maje me aati hai,
just two minutes before 3 O’clock.
Imagine for that one hour, that
fellow is walking left and right,
left and right, torturing himself.
It is like an endless
one hour, never-ending.
Impatience, restlessness
and he sweats like hell.
“Vo kab Aayegi?
Maybe she doesn’t like me.”
All this goes through his mind.
When we are worshipping,
what should be our attitude?
And whom are we inviting?
You are inviting divinity in our heart,
inviting the Lord Himself in our hearts.
What should be our attitude?
I do not say that we
should sleep at night.
But with a prayerful heart, we can go
to sleep and promise that, “As soon
as I wake up, my Lord, in the morning,
you know, we will be together.” The
Lord becomes impatient now, not you.
The Lord waits for such hearts.
And when you meditate properly,
your condition, your spiritual
state, will emerge on its own
because you are longing for it.
You are longing for the Lord, you
are longing for your beloved God,
and that God is something better
than a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Nothing wrong with, you
know, having a friend.
But always remember, what
is more important in lIfe?
Later on, when you do get married,
both become each other’s Lord.
No one is a Lord, both become each
other’s Lord, beloved to each other.
That is a different story,
altogether, you see.
But attitude will either
make you or Break you.