Hi there this is Clay with relationshipinnergame.com.
And today I want to talk about, why it is important to practice the advanced relational
skills that we talk about some of the other videos inside the program, with your friends
and family first.
So you are probably watching this video because you are going through a breakup and you are
interested in getting back together with your ex, right? and it makes sense that you would
want to, you know, have a good communication and, and have good, you know, rapport and
stuff like that so that you can get back together with your ex.
That absolutely makes sense.
However, simply focusing on the act of what you say or what you do with your ex is kind
of, it's a little bit myopic.
It's a little bit shortsighted, it's a little bit narrow in terms of its view.
And what you, what I'm going to recommend that you do is you actually practice these
skills with your friends and family and coworkers and people you meet on the street.
People we meet through your day to day life.
On a daily basis, okay, I'm going to recommend that you do that there so that you can really
build these skills because these really are skills.
They're not like some sort of secret technique that you do or it's like a skill.
It's not like some, some like weird like Voodoo trick that you do it really is like a skill
that you have to build up over time and the more that you do it, the better that skill
becomes and the more that you do it in like low risk situations, like with your best friend
or your brother or something like that, the easier it's going to be in the high stake
situations.
Like when you're talking to your ex or something like that.
So that is why I really want you to practice these things with the people around you.
Okay?
You know?
Yes, I understand that you just want to know what to say, what to do to get your ex to
open up to you, but you have to not just say the right things.
You can just make the right noises to your ex in order to get them to come back, right?
You have to actually take action and demonstrate that you are a new person.
Okay.
And, and just, you know, going through the relational skills and I'm like, okay, cool.
I, I read about that one, I've watched the video on that on.
Cool.
That's nice.
I'm just going to go and do X right now.
Like you know that that's probably not going to get you the best results because you haven't
fully integrated that.
You haven't really practiced that and hone that to the point where it's second nature
to you and because of that you're probably likely to get less than optimal results.
You still might get some decent results, but they're probably going to be less than optimal
results.
So that's why we, we recommend that you practice these in low stakes situations first, just
so you can get a good handle on these.
And so those skills will be there automatically for you when you need them.
When you go into talk to your ex, when your ex is like trying to start some argument with
you, when you're actually pulling away from you, when your ex, they never want to be with
you again.
When your ex says that they're in a new rebound relationship, all of that stuff, like if you
have this stuff down solid before you even walk into that situation, you're going to
do so much better.
The situations and outcomes are going to be so much stronger and so much better than if
you just be like, okay, cool.
There's my ex right there.
Let me just read it.
Okay, cool.
I'm going to say this.
Go around and say it didn't work.
I don't know why.
Like it's going to be.
It's going to be so much better.
Right.
It's like the difference between like if you were going to sign up to run a marathon, okay.
You know, it's like 26 miles of running, right?
It, it doesn't matter if you have the right shoes and the right shorts and the right hydration
pack and all that stuff.
Right.
That's like the equivalent of trying to just know the right lines to say the right thing.
Well, I guess that's a, that's all the equipment.
You know, that that all doesn't matter at all if you just have not been training, if
you just have not been training at all in the gym, if, if you have like zero endurance,
if your muscles are weak, if you're like overweight, all that stuff, it is not going to matter
what is going to matter more than any of that stuff is whether or not you've been training,
whether they're not even putting in the time to actually improve your endurance, your strength,
your nutrition, all that stuff.
Right?
That is the stuff that is going to, you know, really carry you across the finish line.
You know?
Yeah.
Little things like the right shoes, the right shorts, the right, you know, sports, electrolyte
drinks or whatever.
You know, they might be beneficial.
They might give you like a little bump, but it's just going to be a little bump.
Like I want you to focus on like the 80 percent the thing that's gonna get you the 80 percent
of the results.
Okay?
And that is going to be putting in the time and effort to actually in the marathon case,
you know, have the body of a person who can run a marathon.
In the case of getting back together with your ex, it's going to be, have the skills
to connect with them on an emotional level, not just being able to say the right thing,
not being able to send the right Ninja text message, not being able to have the right
grand romantic gesture.
But when you can have the right relational skills getting back together, we'll absolutely
be so much easier.
Okay?
So that is why I really recommend you practice these things with your friends, with your
family, through coworkers, with other people in your life on a daily basis to really get
that down.
Because I want you to be able to cross the finish line in the marathon of getting your
ex back.
I don't want you to be collapsing on the ground panting, out of breath, getting your ass kicked,
you know, 100 meters out of the gate because you did not do any training.
So please put in the time to cultivate these skills and I promise you will help you so
much more than if you just neglected them or if you just looked for Ninja tricks or
if you just, you know, we're trying to clean to some sort of crutch or something.
So please put in the time to practice these skills if you'd like to learn more about how
we can help you save your relationship, get back together with your action.
All that stuff.
Please head on over to relationshipinnergame.com and sign up there.
We'll, we'll get in touch with you and we can start talking to you, but, you know, yeah,
the best way to get some help is to go to a relationshipinnergame.com.
Thank you.
Okay.