hey there this is clay with relationship inner game.com now this week I'm
actually getting ready to move so you may notice that my hair isn't all styled
like it often is and my clothes are they're okay but they're not like super
ultra nice or anything and maybe it echoes a little bit more in here than
normal normal but that's mostly because again I am moving this week and you know
that we're in the process of boxing things up if I could turn this camera
around you'd see that this place looks like an earthquake came through here or
something but nonetheless we're still making videos so anyway this week we are
going to be talking about what it means when your ex says that the two of you
might be able to get back together down the road in the future okay and this can
be kind of a bit of a mixed message for a lot of people because you know what
does it mean why is your ex saying hey maybe we'll get back together someday
but definitely not today like down the road maybe like what does that even mean
and what it means is basically this it means that your ex likes you they do
they like you they're attracted to you they think you're great in some respects
but but there's still something in the way blocking them from wanting to be
like that's it let's get back together there's something in the way and what is
that thing in most cases it is an emotional block of some sort right and
we generally call this reactance in our little newsletter over at relationship
inner game.com and in these videos and on the podcast and in the books and in
the online courses and all that stuff we call this reactance okay generally
they're a little bit hesitant about the idea of getting back together with you
because there are some unresolved emotions some negative feelings some
residual bad feelings still there from the break-up from what happens during
the breakup and what happened before the breakup and we're having after the
breakup from all those things okay and you'd still need
to clear those out but your ex is able to see a future with you it's just that
right now they're not really willing to step into it because of those emotional
things okay and so what you want to do at this stage is to basically clear out
those emotions right so you want to do is you want to focus on the emotional
connection you want to focus on bonding with them composure inspiring devotion
all of these things that we talked about in or what we call advanced relational
skills so that you can connect with them bond with them all of that stuff right
and basically clear out that emotional block that's stopping your ex from
really being excited about stepping into that future together with you okay
so I hope this is explained a little bit about what this whole you know maybe we
can get back together in the future things someday really means and I hope
it kind of gives you a little bit more of a better understanding about what you
can do and what you should be focusing on moving forward now obviously I can't
explain all of the advanced relational skills stuff here in this video so you
can go back and look through some of our older videos or you can go ahead and
sign up for our email newsletter over at relationship inner game.com or we can
send you more information about what it takes to get back together with your ex
we can give you strategies advice all that stuff over at relationship inner
game.com so head over there and sign up for our email newsletter and we'll talk
to you next time and next week I will hopefully be in a new location and have
a bit more time to you know be a little bit more camera presentable so until
then take care this has been clay