10 UNCOMMON Habits GUARANTEED To Trigger Massive Success
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Common sense is not so common. Now, you probably have heard that quote before, but what you
may not know is it was penned by a famous French philosopher in the 17th century. His
name was Voltaire. Now, believe it or not, I randomly ran into
Voltaire while exploring Paris. And, yes, I know the guy has been dead 250 years. But,
basically I see this amazing building, The Pantheon. I didn’t even know about this
thing. I’m like, “You know what? I want to see
these things.” So, I go into this building. I’m just exploring checking this out, they
got some really cool exhibits and lo and behold there is the grave of Voltaire.
Now, as a student of philosophy, I knew who this guy was and I was dumbstruck that I randomly
stumbled upon his resting spot and I’m the only person down there. And I spent a good
ten minutes just in awe of where I was. But, here is the deal. That magic moment was totally
random. Now, my point here, gents, is the same thing
can be said about success in life. It’s random and it’s all about luck. And a lot
of people believe that, that successful people are just lucky. And, yes, luck a.k.a. randomness
is a factor. That being said, your habits, the consistent
small actions that you take every day without thinking about it, those are a much bigger
factor than randomness or luck. [Music]
Habit number one. Take the time to think about where you’re going in life and how you want
to define your own success. Now, gents, I’ve heard back from thousands
of you guys over the years and consistently one of the biggest regrets I hear is that
somebody was living somebody else’s dream. They saw a wall, something they thought they
wanted to achieve. They put up that ladder, they spent all this time and energy climbing
that ladder to get to the top of the wall to realize, hey, I actually don’t want to
be here. I’m on the wrong wall. Gents, this point applies to everything – your
career, your relationships. What defines success? Because if you’re going after what makes
another man happy, you are never going to be satisfied.
Yeah, you may see everybody around you getting brand new cars and brand new houses, but is
that something you want? Seriously, maybe you want to just be out traveling
the world. Maybe it’s something that you don’t want to be a doctor like your parents
want you to be. I know that’s what my parents wanted me to be and I started actually going
down the med school route. And I realized this isn’t what I want.
Have the courage to define what success is to you and then take steps in that direction
to achieve it. This next habit, I call the double DP. The
deep deep Pareto Principle. Now, most of us have heard of the Pareto Principle that 20%
of our efforts yield us 80% of our results. Now, this concept has been around for hundreds
of years and it’s shown itself to be true in a wide variety of different situations.
So, what’s interesting about this is you can go deeper. Let’s look at that 20% and
focus on the 20% of the 20%, the 4% that yields you the 64% return. And even deeper than that,
the 1% that yields you the 50% return. Think about that, gents. If you’re taking a quiz
and if four of those questions account for 64% of your grade.
Now, I don’t know about you, but any logical person here would say, you know what? I’ve
got to get that one question right. And those other three, I’m going to work really hard
to get those right and I’m going to spend the majority of my time on those.
Because those questions, those things that you need to be working on in your life, they
are going to account for pretty much all of your happiness, all of your success, all of
your ability to get the things done that you want in this limited time you’ve got on
this planet. Now, this leads to the next point, which is
how do you identify what really matters? Well, gents, let me introduce you to the Priority
Matrix. Simply take a sheet of paper and a pen and divide it into four parts.
Across the top, you’ve got urgent and non-urgent. From top to bottom, you’re going to put
important and then less important. So now, you’ve got four different quadrants and
you’re going to drop everything that needs to get done on this piece of paper.
Now, most people want to drop everything in important and urgent, but you can’t do that.
You can only put one thing in important and urgent because you can only focus in on one
thing. Over on important non-urgent, guess what? You can put two things there.
Now, you may be saying, “I got fifty things to do.” Okay, put it down in non-important
and urgent. Not important, not urgent. That’s where you put everything else. Because what
I’m forcing you to do here is to realize you simply focus in on what truly matters.
You’re going to be amazed at what you’re able to accomplish.
And you’ll also be amazed of those things that seem urgent, but are actually not important
how they kind of just fall away. Now, some of you guys are saying, “Come
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the next habit you need to pick up. Drop being a control freak and instead find people that
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with Titan and their expert advisors and, boom, all of a sudden I’m in the black and
I’m having returns like I’ve never seen before.”
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The next uncommon habit I’m going to recommend, play a sport, engage in an activity that is
painful, that you can downright get hurt in. Why? Because that is life, life is full of
pain and suffering. And if you don’t learn to be able to deal
whenever life hits you up side the face and knocks you down because it will, then you
are going to be in for rude awakening when it hits you. All of a sudden, you’re 30,
you’re 40 and you just weren’t prepared. You get prepared for taking a punch by getting
punched. And I’m not saying you got to pick up boxing. I am saying though find something
that’s a bit unforgiving. Something that whenever you make a mistake, you’re going
to get smacked you’re going to get knock down.
People that played sports like football, played, you know, soccer, you – you know what it’s
like to get knock down to get beat up and to put in all your effort and put – give
your heart and soul and lose. And you realize, you know, there’s a lot more to life than
just winning all the time. It’s how you play the game.
Guys, I’d love to hear from you down in the comments. What sports do you recommend?
But you guys, many of you guys have gone through this and you know that this has shaped you.
And I can’t stress enough having that habit and staying, you know, maybe you can’t play
football all the time, but you can find maybe a way to coach. You can find a way to be involved.
Go out running. I was distance runner and, you know, that’s painful sometimes past
a few miles, going a little bit faster. That’s the stuff I’m talking about.
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The next uncommon habit and I learned this in the Marine Corps is 15 minutes is on time.
If you are not 15 minutes early, you are late. Now, this isn’t going to apply to everyone,
not everywhere and I know some of you guys have maybe it’s 10 minutes. But, I would
say there is nothing wrong with always being the person that has the reputation for showing
up early. Because you’re going to make that sales
call. The guy said he’s only got five minutes. You show up 15, maybe even 30 minutes early,
guess what? Appointment before canceled, all of a sudden, he’s got a lot more time.
That gives you all this time to talk about and pitch your idea, which you didn’t expect
to have. Those unexpected, those lucky, those – we talked earlier about luck – luck
doesn’t exist in my opinion. It’s preparation meeting opportunity. That’s luck. And if
you are prepared, the opportunities occasionally will open up and all of a sudden, you just
being there, you being present. Yes, you’ve been auditioning for this role,
but guess what? The other actors, they didn’t think to show up early and the guy has to
go somewhere and you were there, you all of a sudden, you got your five minutes. He’s
like, you know what? You are perfect. Maybe you’re not perfect, but you’re good enough
and we’re going to go with you. You get your shot. That, gentlemen, is how you make
things happen, you show up. Now, this next habit may sound impossible,
but you can do it. Slow down time. Have you ever noticed that you’re having a great
time, she’s absolutely beautiful, all of a sudden, that three hours went by. Hey, I
mean, yeah, you’re with a beautiful woman, time flies.
Other times, yeah, it is going to a crawl when you’re a kid trying to take a nap.
Point being is that you need to have time especially in the morning in which time goes
by slow. Highly recommend that you find a way to wake up just 30 minutes early, sit
and enjoy coffee, sit out there and watch the world move.
And this is an amazing experience and a lot of people say meditation. I’m all about
meditation. But, let’s take it simple because most of you guys aren’t meditating. So,
simply just take 15 minutes, 5 minutes. There’s a tradition over in Ukraine. Before
you go in a journey, before you leave, everyone sits for one minute. And we just sit and we,
[sigh], we have this moment to think and to just say, wow, what a great trip, whatever
is going on in your head. Taking the time to actually open up your mind.
And I’m not saying spend 30 minutes on the phone. I’m talking 30 minutes doing nothing,
but just simply having an open mind, thinking, maybe having a light conversation with a friend
with someone that matters to you. This right here is going to just set your
day for success when you slow down time at the beginning to think, again, about where
you’re going and what you want to do. Now, this next point I stole from the book,
The Four Agreements, and that is the ability to see the light within every person. And
it’s difficult sometimes especially if you’re in New York, in a big city like Mumbai, people
are stepping. [0:10:04]
And I read you guys’ comments, you talk about how it’s hard to be a nice guy when
everyone around you is fighting and pushing and it’s like, hey, every man for himself.
If you’re a nice guy on an airplane, yes, I understand, you’ll probably be one of
the last guys off the airplane. But, here’s the thing. Look around and just
enjoy and just be amazed at the people that are around us. Yes, I get it, a lot of people
are angry, a lot of people are frustrated, a lot of people are scared with what’s going
on in the world. But, when you take a second, you just simply
look at like, wow, all of these people have a unique story, they’ve got something going
on. What are the reasons why this person is so frustrated? And then you start to just
recognize other people that aren’t frustrated, that are simply enjoying life, especially
a lot of our, you know, grandparents, a lot of the people a little bit older, who simply
realize, you know, they don’t got much time left and I’m going to enjoy every moment.
You start to be aware, you start to breathe smell the air. And that is the thing, when
you start to see the light and you realize every person has light within. Some are a
little bit dimmer than others, but some are just glowing. And that right there just makes
you – it’s gratitude. It’s simply taking the time to realize,
hey, I am happy to be here. It makes you feel good, guys. I know I’m getting a little
bit, you know, woo-woo here. But, this stuff is real, so, yeah, let’s go to the next
point. The next uncommon habit is to throw the ego
out the window and to realize that you are an eternal student. And if you do this, you’re
going to stay young and you’re also not going to be upset.
Here’s the thing. Life goes in cycles and when you’re on top, guess where you’re
going to go next? You’re going to go down. I mean, if you’re on the very top, you’ve
got to go down to get to the next peak. That’s how it works when you’re climbing mountains,
right? That’s the way it works in life. If you’re starting over in an industry,
yes, I get it, you were a captain. We see this a lot in the military. Lieutenant colonel
gets out and he used to commanding over a thousand men and having this thing go. And
he starting over in the civilian world and he thinks people are going to call him sir.
He thinks that he’s going over the big ego, he is going to fail.
This happens to so many people that go from one position in life and think they can just
automatically carry it over. Now, you can when you start over. You will move much quicker
especially if you stick down that ego if you are the student because you’re going to
see things, you’ve got experience. And you could go higher than you ever went previously.
The key is to keep that ego in check. As Ryan Holiday said, ego is the enemy, and I hundred
percent agree. If you are not eternally learning, eventually you’re going to trip up, you’re
going to fail. You’re not even going to see it coming and you’re going to have people
run right by you. So, always remember stuff that ego and be the eternal student.
The next habit that’s going to guarantee you success, quit looking for the easy path.
Understand those challenges, those obstacles that are in your way, that is the path. That
is the way that you need to go. And ask for instead the strength to be able
to bust your way through it, to be able to go over that obstacle, under that obstacle.
Maybe it gets more actually go around the obstacles. But, understand that you’ve got
to bust through that because that’s what’s stopping everybody else. And that’s the
reason most people do not achieve success. All these habits I’m talking about, they
seem simple, right? Getting back to, you know, common sense is just isn’t common. This
stuff is out there. This has been talked about for thousands of years, but so few men actually
take the time to apply it. I don’t ask for this life and with my kids,
this is something I’m really working hard because the society the world out there is
trying to say, hey, give your kids a better life. No! I’m trying to prepare my kids
for the challenges they’re going to face in life.
I don’t want to give my kids a better life. I want to prepare them better for life than
what I was. And that’s what I think a parent should go for and that’s what I think for
you, what you want to take a step back and say how can I better equip myself? What tools
can I work on? I am always trying to be open to different
ideas and it’s tough. I fail a lot of the times just like you guys. But know that you
have this day. You can pick yourself up and that you can continue to work on those problems.
And when you accomplished this, there’s no feeling like that. And that, gentlemen,
for me is just one of the things I put success in my life. I look at where I started and
where I’m going and what I’ve been able to achieve and that right there, yeah, you
can’t put a price on it. All right, gents. So, what video to watch
next? How about this one, the skills that every man needs to know? I talked about habits
in this video, but in this one, I break out skills. Don’t worry, there are no repeats.
It’s a great video, a lot of you guys said so in the comments. And it’s one that I
think if you’ve got kids, if you, you know, just a young man, you definitely need to check
out this video. If you’re an older guy, this is one that probably passed on to a lot
of younger guys as well. [0:14:26] End of audio