- Do you think I would be a good father to your child?
(both laughing) Now I'm sad.
(relaxing music)
- Hello. - Hi.
- [Interviewer] Who are you two
and how do you know each other?
- I'm Jasmine, and this is my boyfriend, Darien.
- I'm Sarah. - I'm Danny.
- We used to kind of date.
- [Interviewer] How long have you been married?
- It's 10 years now.
- [Interviewer] Have you had a pregnancy scare?
- We've had many a pregnancy scare.
- I didn't, he did.
- I had a very vivid dream that she was pregnant,
and I woke up in a panic.
- [Interviewer] Do you remember the sex
that led to that scare?
- Back then, we did have a lot.
- I think I do remember, though,
because it was the first time that I officially had switched
and ran out of the specific birth control.
- Okay.
- We knew it was gonna be the last time we hung out,
'cause I told him I wanted to be in a relationship
and he didn't want that, and I got an IUD
towards the end of when we were seeing each other,
and so then we had unprotected sex for the first time.
It was in the car. (laughs) - Oh god, yeah.
- We had sex three times. Mm, you know?
And we didn't ever think to change the condom,
which was kind of stupid thinking back now.
He would just kind of take a little break, you know,
and I didn't think about the fact that he's got to get
small and big and small and big, you know, so.
- When I had pulled it out after I cummed I had looked at it
and I only seen half of the condom at first.
I was like, Jasmine, the condom broke.
My heart was thumping.
I was like, I'm not ready to be a father.
I'm only a junior or senior in high school.
- [Narrator] Why didn't you make Imani
wear a condom or pull out?
- Why didn't I?
- I know why he doesn't wear condoms, but.
- Well. - Why don't you wear condoms?
(both laughing)
- It doesn't feel as great,
but there was such a low likelihood that I understood
of her ever conceiving or having a child.
- Because I have a lot of different issues skeletal-wise,
with my organs and so forth, and even with my uterus,
things aren't exactly in place the way they should be.
- Two weeks after we had not spoken at all,
Danny called me, and I was really upset, right?
'Cause I really liked him,
I was ready to be in a relationship with him,
and then he's like, "Hey, this is really random,
but I had a dream that you were pregnant.
Can I please Venmo you to take a pregnancy test?"
I knew for a fact that I was not pregnant.
I told you I had an IUD. - But it was fresh!
- And then I took one and sent a picture
and I was like, "I'm not pregnant."
And then he didn't pay me back.
He was just like, "Okay, sweet."
And then that was the last I heard from him,
and then I talked to him like five months later,
and then you paid me back.
- I went in for the pregnancy test,
and like a minute after I handed my urine in,
she comes walking in, she's like, "Oh, you're pregnant."
My face was like, what?
- We ended up getting pregnant.
It was a pretty definite, like,
we're not having a kid from both of us.
We were both pretty mutual on that.
- [Interviewer] Who did you tell?
- I didn't tell anybody, me myself.
- I only told my grandmother,
and she was actually the one
who took me to go to the clinic.
- Did he go with you? - No.
- I was not allowed to. - No.
He hadn't met my grandma yet,
so I didn't want him to just get in the car
and be like, "I knocked your granddaughter up,
let's go get rid of it," you know?
It was really bad.
- I did want to be there, though, and she knew that.
- I didn't want you to meet her like that.
We were already so embarrassed.
- I was really scared and, you know,
I just didn't want to be seen as one of those kids
just fucking up in high school, you know,
having kids in high school and stuff.
- Do you remember how you reacted?
- I said, "What are you gonna do?"
You know, at the time, I didn't know what was gonna happen.
You know, 'cause in my mind,
it's really up to her to decide.
- But you were scared. - But I was scared, yeah.
I was scared 'cause I was young.
I wasn't, like, rolling in dough.
- Did you discuss keeping?
- I did.
My biggest fear, though, even like I said to him,
is I didn't want it to be like me.
And when I say that,
it has nothing to do with, oh, like a dwarf or anything,
it's, I didn't want it to have all of the problems
that associate, like, could have some type of disability
that I just, it's like finding someone to go through pain
and then you can't do anything to help them with pain.
It tormented my mom, so part of me was like,
I don't know if I'm strong enough to handle that.
- Do you think I would be a good father to your child?
(both laugh) - Now I'm sad.
- I don't think right now you're in a place
where you would like- - Yeah.
- Do you think I would be a good mother?
- Oh my gosh, yes, dude.
You have the biggest heart.
- The fact is, it was like a 25 to 35% chance
of being able to carry a full term pregnancy,
and my body did in fact reject,
but I still had the actual sac, the fluids, everything,
so the sac is going to keep growing and growing and growing,
but there's not an actual baby in there,
and I'm like, that's horrible, but I could do the pill
that allows you to essentially abort.
- I did the pill.
I had to do it all at home, at my grandma's house.
It was literally the worst experience of my life.
I just had to sit in the tub,
and my grandma had to turn the shower on,
and she just held my hand,
and I was just bleeding and I was just crying.
- It was so humiliating, because you're so vulnerable.
I mean, you're basically losing everything
that was in, you know, your uterus,
and it's painful, and part of me was heartbroken.
A lot of hormones go through that weekend
in that cleansing, I guess I'm gonna call it.
- I'm sorry you had to go through all that alone.
- I wasn't alone. I had, like, a grandma.
They're like the best cooks and comforters, you know?
I was good afterward.
- It made me kind of sad that I couldn't be there and stuff.
It really just kind of made me feel useless
when I was hearing about the things
that you were going through.
- I didn't know that. He's never told me that before.
- I guess it was frustrating for me
because you didn't trust that I knew my body
and knew what I put into my body.
- That's an interesting take, I haven't thought about that.
I'm sorry that I...
What? - You don't have to apologize.
- No, I mean, that's a good point.
I didn't even think about that.
I mean, I guess that came off really entitled
for me to reach out after a period of time
and be like, you're gonna do this for me,
and I'm not gonna even pay you back.
- Yeah. - You know?
- Yeah. - So I'm sorry about that.
- Thank you. - Pretty selfish.
Very selfish. - Thanks.
- [Interviewer] Did you have sex after that?
- I didn't see him for like four or five months,
and then we saw each other again yesterday,
and that was the first time since that.
- [Interviewer] Did you two have sex yesterday?
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- [Interviewer] Did he cum inside of you?
- Yes. - Yeah, I did.
When in Rome, you know?
- [Interviewer] Do you think there's a possibility
she's pregnant right now?
- No, but I thought about it. - Did you?
- This is crazy. Yeah, I did.
I don't want to do this again,
but I'm genuinely a little bit thinking about it, you know?
- [Interviewer] Thank you for sharing your story.
I really appreciate it.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
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