10 Things SUCCESSFUL Men NEVER Say [0:00:00]
[Music] So, there’s a local commercial property
in my area. About ten years ago, they spent over a million dollars building this beautiful
building. It just sold for $350,000. I looked at this building I considered, but I really
couldn’t justify what I would use it for. But, I had a friend that went in and he made
this offer. It was on the market for just over $500,000. He came in at about $350,000.
You may say a little ball offer. Here’s the thing, the seller jumped on it. Why they
were paying taxes, they didn’t want to deal with the roof and some of the issues after
ten years. Yeah. Let’s just say that my friend got
an amazing deal. How did he get it? Because he simply had the courage the audacity to
ask the question. You see, successful people, they don’t say,
“Oh, I know they’re going to say no.” They’re not mind readers. They know that
if you have the courage, if you’ve got the cojones to go in there and simply ask the
question. Guys, how many times in your life are you
self-sabotaging yourself? You’ve been talking to that girl for nine months and you just
haven’t asked the question because you already know what she’s going -- she’s beautiful,
she’s going to say no, she’s probably got a boyfriend.
Why do you set up all these barriers? Just simply ask that question because guess what?
The worst thing she’s going to say is no. She’s not going to make fun of you with
all of her friends. And even if she did, how does that affect you? You at least put yourself
out there, you asked that question and you could live with those results.
And that’s the thing, guys, is you’ve got to have that strength, that courage to
ask the question because that’s how things are going to come your way.
The next thing you’re not going to hear a successful person say, “It’s not fair.”
And the people you hear saying this oftentimes may have been looked over for a promotion.
They didn’t get hired and they thought they should have because they had better qualifications
than the person that knew the hiring manager. Here’s the thing, life is not fair. And
any of you guys that worked on a farm, you know life isn’t fair. Point being is this
is just nature. This is just simply the way things are. We want things and I think as
a society over the last thousand years, we’ve actually gotten a lot better. We’re still
not even close to perfect. But, yeah, things are not fair in the society and they’re
never going to be with human beings are born with naturally different talents.
There’s just different things in life. When you look across the board, some people are
born naturally with more height, so guess what? They stand a much better chance of playing
professional basketball. If you’re born you’re 5’2”, 5’3”, 5’4” as a
man, you could argue, you know that’s not fair. There are so many things that are against
me, I’m going to give up. Or you can say, you know what? I am going
to find what is to my advantage, how can I leverage this. I’m going to work harder,
I’m going to study harder, I’m going to own the business because they’re not going
to be able to discriminate against me, because you know why? I’m going to own the darn
thing, I’m going to be the guy in charge. And that type of drive, I mean you look at
the old tree that grows the strongest. It’s not the one that is in the shade it’s being
fairly treat, it’s the one that’s out there in the open that’s having to deal
with the rain, the elements, the sun, the winter. And it’s out it gets stronger because
of the obstacles and the hardship it has to overcome.
You should be thankful for all the things that are thrown at you. Don’t ask to be
you know for life to be easy, ask for the strength to overcome the obstacles in your
way. Next up, successful guys they don’t say
yes or maybe when they mean no. Seriously, they just say no to people and no is their
default answer. They’re busy people, they’ve got a lot on their plate and they are just
very hesitant to give somebody a yes. Now, they don’t maybe say no to everything,
but they do say, you know what? I can’t take that on right now or I can’t give you
a decision. Follow up with me in a week, in two weeks. That’s better than a maybe.
But, really vast majority of time they realize that they can only take so many things on.
And it’s better for you to be absolute with your word. You don’t want to be a flake.
You want to be that guy that says yes and then never follows through.
And, believe me, this is tough because as you start to have success, as you start to
do better, as you start to be known as that guy that’s out there making things happen,
people approach you. And you have to start saying no, not because you don’t want to
do it, but simply you can’t do it because you’ve already got everything scheduled
out and you’re going to have to start making the decision.
And another powerful thing, when you start saying no, you start opening yourself up to
actually taking on better opportunities because you’re free at that time and the opportunities
you do have on your plate the things you’re working on now, you can give more fully your
attention. This is the way it’s always been done, successful
people never say that. In fact, they realize that within chaos is opportunity. So many
people with what’s going on in the world right now, they’re just saying, “Oh, my
gosh, like, what happened to this world?” What I’m saying and I know a lot of my other
friends are business owners, what we’re all saying is, wow, look at all of the opportunity.
Because with all these on people, with all these change, with things just being uncertain,
many people most people are going to default to fear.
They’re going to default into this analysis paralysis and they’re going to be sitting
back waiting for life to happen to them. Versus, if you have the courage to go out there and
start going after things, look at the new opportunity and they go out and they jump
on that. [0:05:10]
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could I have done to make this video better? What did you like? What did you not like?
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is in future videos, I may take your comment, I may take the information you put down there
and use it. So, let me know, I want to hear from you down below.
Now, some of you guys are probably saying, “Antonio, I can’t do that.” And I hate
to say it, but that right there is the next one. Successful people don’t say that they
can’t. They realize that anything is possible. Seriously, going to the moon, if you would
have told people 200 years ago, that’s not practical, there’s no way that human beings
are ever going to go to the moon, but we did it. And how did we do it? Because all of a
sudden, you had men out there, you had women that said I’m not going to accept that I
can’t. They are going to find a way. And I’m not saying that you can always find
a way yourself, but you can maybe explain, okay, I don’t know how to figure out that
algorithm and how to do that, but I do know how to do this. Or maybe we can go find somebody
who can, we can partner with them. The thing is whether or not you believe you
can do something or you can’t, Henry Ford said, “You’re probably right.” And that’s
the limitation, you don’t want to be around people that are going to tell you, oh, that’s
not practical. Because here is the thing, whenever you stick
with practical goals, whenever you try to just keep everything in line with, hey, what
you think you can do, you’re never going to push yourself beyond. You’re never going
to go out there and see what your limit is. Anyone that’s ever ran a marathon, you know
even if you didn’t finish that marathon, you at least know what your limit is. You
hit that 20-mile, 22-mile mark and you failed, you had to stop or did you? You kept walking.
You actually completed that marathon, but you realized I got to train harder. I just
couldn’t get past the wall. That’s why they call it the wall, because
when you hit it, you realize what your body what you’re truly capable of and you say,
you know what? Did I give everything? Or can I go back and train more and be able to overcome
it? So, people that say they can’t – they
can’t do something, to me, it’s a lack of creativity. It’s a lack of actually looking
at all the options, looking at everyone that’s around you and, yeah, I just – I Just hate
that word to be honest. And there’s a word I hate even more than
I can’t and that is I’m waiting. So, successful people don’t say that they’re waiting
on something. And if they do, they always have that I gave this person a deadline and
once they hand it to me, then you know we’ll move forward.
But, if you just say, oh, no, yeah, I sent it over there and I’m just waiting to hear
back from them. I absolutely hate this because to me, this is something who knows what time
frame. Understand that if you don’t set a time frame on something, there is no priority,
there’s – there’s no drive, there’s no reason that this is going to get done quickly.
And if anyone that’s ever managed a project knows a project can go on for as long as people
put it to the side procrastinate, it’s not their top priority. I’ve seen projects that
should take one day go on for a month, and why? Because people are going back and forth
on email. If you want to be successful, don’t say you’re waiting on things. Set deadlines
and hold people to their deadlines. And better yet, run a sprint, which is simply
you working in the same proximity with someone else to make things happen. Find a way to
actually help that person to say, hey, is there something I can do to make this go faster.
But, gentlemen, just don’t fall into the trap of saying I’m waiting.
Next up on the list, “It’s not my fault.” And I know there’s tons of craziness going
on out there, but if you always say it’s not my fault and you try to put the blame
on others on the current situation, on all these other things that are outside of your
control, what is in your control? Basically, you are giving away the power.
I’m not saying that you got to take the blame for everything, but I am saying if you
can say, you know what? There was a bit probably it was in my control, I could have saved more,
I could have done this more, did I really need to have all – multiple vehicles, did
I really need to be stretching myself at this point.
Yeah, maybe I’m out of work right now, but is there something I can sell? Maybe this
is the right time to start a business that, yes, is not going to make money for me immediately,
but I can figure out. Maybe I need to get into sales because I was pretty good at that
a decade ago and I know if I get into this and I could help somebody sell, then all of
a sudden I can get paid quickly. There are opportunities, but when you say
it’s not your fault, when you say it’s not me to blame, all of a sudden, you give
away your power. And I want you to take some of that power back, so that you can go out
there and make a positive change in your life. Next up, stop saying that you’re going to
try. Do or do not, I think Yoda said that. But, I’m going to steal a word from my good
friend, John Soforic over at the Wealthy Gardener. He talks about the sacred effort. And the
sacred effort is when you give everything that you’ve got and you make it happen.
Seriously, guys, we think that we’re giving a sacred effort at work maybe in our job search,
maybe out there looking to, you know, to run our business, but are you really? If somebody
put a gun to your head and say, “Hey, could you put in more hours? Could you do more?”
[0:10:03] If you are powerless to say, “I did everything
I could. I gave every single waking hour to this mission and you just got to pull the
trigger.” If that’s your answer, then you gave your sacred effort. But, I think
most of us, me included, we’re going to say, well, maybe I did spend a little, you
know, an hour on YouTube, you know, just paddling around. Maybe I did spend 30 minutes just,
you know, in bed longer than I needed to. Maybe I did waste that time, you know, whatever
it was. Here’s the thing, very rarely, very rarely
do we ever give the sacred effort. But, if you could give the sacred effort to things
that matter in your life, all of a sudden you would be able to achieve the impossible.
Another excuse a lot of us use is that I don’t have enough time. I know I have used this
one. But, if you read the biographies of successful men you look throughout history, we’ve all
have the same amount of time, really, 24 hours a day.
How is it that Thomas Edison, that Bill Gates that Henry Ford that Usain Bolt was able to
achieve what they were able to achieve? Now, I’m going to Usain Bolt who had just write
his biography, My Son and I. And I realized I wasn’t making time, I wasn’t prioritizing
him and taking him up in the mornings to the school to run sprints.
And, that’s the thing is that you need to make it a priority. What is truly important,
I’ve talked about the priority matrix, guys. Build out a priority matrix. Every morning
ask yourself what is the important thing that if I get this done, it’s urgent and it’s
important and this is going to be the big win in the day.
I know for me, it has now become the 90 minutes I spend with my son working on his sprints
because he wants to be faster. He wants to break the school record on the 40 and he was
close. But, the thing is I realized I wasn’t making that a priority. I have the time, I
was wasting it doing other things, yes, on my phone checking out Facebook, yaddi yaddi
yadda. You know what it comes down to it? My kids,
my family, my wife. I don’t want to just pay them lip service, I want to give them
my time and my devotion. And so, I realized, you know what? Yeah, it’s the middle of
my morning, one of the most important parts of my day, but I need to give it to the most
important people, so we started putting that in there.
Gentlemen, what is your priority? Don’t say that you don’t have time. Be honest
with your kids, be honest with your wife, you’re not a priority. Yeah, you don’t
want to say that. And when you have to say that, all of a sudden you realize that you’re
giving priority to maybe that meeting that why is your boss running that meeting for
90, 120 minutes? Ask him, is there a way to shorten this down, so that I can get more
work done, so that we accomplish mission. You know what? I don’t know too many bosses
that are going to say, you know what? Let’s find a way to do that because you’re – because
I want it, because you’re going to make him look better. And that’s what you want
to do, find a way where you can cut it because I used to have really long meetings. Make
the priority the priority. The next thing you’re never going to hear
successful people say, I’ve never failed. Here’s the thing. If you put yourself out
there, you are going to fall, you are going to slip down, you are going to deal with failure.
How to overcome failure? Gentlemen, I want you to check out this video right here. I
made this video awhile back. It didn’t get crazy views. I thought it was a great video
talking about how to overcome failure, how to build resiliency. This really isn’t talked
about, but this is one of the most powerful secrets to success, being able to pick yourself
back up. So, guys, go check out this video, it is a
solid video. And let me know what you think down in the comments.
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