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. >>> JUST CURIOUS, DO YOU LIKE
YOUR COWORKERS?
YOUR COWORKERS? UNFORTUNATELY, NOT ALL OF US
CAN SAY YES.
BUT WE ALL DO HAVE TO FIND A
WAY TO WORK TOGETHER TO REACH
OUR COMMON GOALS.
SOMETIMES THAT IS EASIER SAID
THAN DO.
THAN DO.
THAN DO. SO HOW DO WE NAVIGATE?
THAT'S A GREAT QUESTION.
WE THOUGHT WE WOULD DIVE INTO
THIS IN "REAL TALK."
HERE TO DISCUSS IT IS EMMY
AWARD WINNING MAKEUP ARTIST
AND OUR DEAR FRIEND NYSSA
GREEN, RENEE BLEDSOE AND
EXCUSE ME, THE NEWLY NAMED
PROGRAM DIRECTOR OF --
>> YES!!!
>> YES!!!
>> YES!!! >> JOYCE LITTEL.
>> WHOO!!
>> WHOO!!
>> WHOO!! [ APPLAUSE ]
>> YOU MISSED THE COMMERCIAL
BREAK TALK BECAUSE SHE IS LIKE
THIS IS A TOUGH ONE FOR ME
NOW.
NOW.
NOW. WE
NOW. WE ARE GOING TO GET TO THAT
BECAUSE NOW YOU'RE A BOSS.
>> I'M A BOSS LADY.
>> BUT YOU WERE FRIENDS FIRST.
LET'S TALK.
LET'S TALK. EXPERTS SAY IF YOU WANT TO BE
SUCCESSFUL IN YOUR CAREER YOU
HAVE TO HAVE STRONG WORKING
RELATIONSHIPS.
RELATIONSHIPS. CAN EVERYONE AT LEAST AGREE TO
THAT?
THAT?
THAT? >>
THAT? >> ABSOLUTELY.
>> ABSOLUTELY. >> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT. >> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> ESPECIALLY IN FIELDS THAT
WE'RE ALL IN.
WEDDINGS, RADIO, TELEVISION,
ABSOLUTELY.
ABSOLUTELY. >> YOU NEED YOUR PEOPLE.
>> YOU DO.
>> MM-HM.
>> MM-HM.
>> MM-HM. >> I REALLY CAN'T THINK OF
ANYONE WHO HAS WORKED THEIR
WAY UP THE LADDER THAT REALLY
WAS EXTREMELY DISLIKED BY
EVERYONE.
EVERYONE.
EVERYONE. >> NO.
>> NO.
>> NO. NO
>> NO. NO WAY.
NO WAY.
NO WAY. >> YOU MIGHT HAVE A
DIFFERENCE.
DIFFERENCE. OPINION WITH PEOPLE, BUT
GENERALLY YOU HAVE TO HAVE
THAT COHESIVE SENSE OF TEAM
WORK TO BE ABLE TO GET THINGS
DONE.
DONE.
DONE. >>
DONE. >> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT. >> NOT ALL WORKING
RELATIONSHIPS ARE OF COURSE
EASY AS OTHERS.
IN A NEW BOOK DR. KAREN SHARES
JUST A FEWER OF HER PRO TIPS
TO NAVIGATING THESE SITUATIONS
SO THAT THEY DON'T BECOME
STUMBLING BLOCKS FOR YOUR
CAREER PATH.
CAREER PATH. OKAY.
OKAY.
OKAY. FIRST UP, FIRST TIP, YOU DON'T
HAVE TO BE FRIENDS WITH
EVERYONE YOU WORK WITH, JUST
EMBRACE THE HOW TO
RELATIONSHIPS FOR WHAT THEY
ARE.
ARE.
ARE. THEY
ARE. THEY ARE FUNCTIONING.
THEY DON'T NEED TO BE
EMOTIONALLY CLOSE.
EMOTIONALLY CLOSE. SO THE QUESTION IS WHERE DO
YOU DRAW THE LINE WHEN IT
COMES TO BEING FRIENDLY WITH
COWORKERS?
COWORKERS? NYSSA?
NYSSA?
NYSSA? >>
NYSSA? >> FOR ME IT'S DIFFERENT
BECAUSE AS A MAKEUP ARTIST I
FEEL LIKE I HAVE A DIFFERENT
RELATIONSHIP.
RELATIONSHIP. I'M NOT JUST SITTING IN A
CUBICLE NEXT TO SOMEONE.
BUT EVEN WITH THAT, JUST KEEP
IT PROFESSIONAL.
IT PROFESSIONAL. IT IS WHAT IT IS.
YEAH.
YEAH.
YEAH. I
YEAH. I MEAN, I CAN -- THE STUDY
SAID YOU CAN BE FRIENDLY, YOU
CAN BE PROFESSIONAL.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE BUDDIES
AND EMOTIONALLY DEPENDENT UPON
EACH OTHER BECAUSE WE WORK
TOGETHER.
TOGETHER.
TOGETHER. >> NOT AT ALL.
>> I THINK YOU HAVE TO QUICKLY
LEARN WHAT NOT TO SAY.
YOU KNOW?
YOU KNOW?
YOU KNOW? WHEN I WAS JUST ONE OF THE
ANNOUNCERS ON OUR OTHER SISTER
STATION, I WAS LIKE ONE OF THE
ANNOUNCERS.
ANNOUNCERS. BUT WHEN I BECAME A PROGRAM
DIRECTOR, I HAD TO LEARN,
OKAY, JOYCE, YOU CAN'T SHARE
THAT INFORMATION NOW.
YOU CAN'T BE TOTALLY
TRANSPARENT.
TRANSPARENT. >> YOU CANNOT BE.
>> BECAUSE NOW YOU'RE WEARING
A DIFFERENT HAT.
>> YES, MA'AM.
>> THAT MUST HAVE BEEN VERY
HARD TO DO.
>> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. IT WAS HARD BUT IT'S SOMETHING
THAT I QUICKLY HAD TO LEARN.
>> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> AND BECAUSE I WANTED THE
POSITION, I WORKED HARD AT,
YOU KNOW, BECOMING INTERIM TO
PD, I KNEW THAT JOYCE, YOU GOT
TO CHANGE THE WAY YOU TALK,
THE WAY YOU SAY THINGS, THE
WAY YOU -- YOU GOT TO CHANGE
ALL THIS.
ALL THIS.
ALL THIS. >> AND I KNOW THAT YOU ARE
YOUR OWN BOSS BUT YOU OF
COURSE HAVE INTERNS WHO LOOK
UP TO YOU AND, UM, YOU KNOW,
HOW DO YOU KEEP THAT -- THAT
-- THAT FINE LINE WHERE, UM,
YOU'RE KIND OF A LITTLE TEAM,
BUT YET YOU'RE LIKE LET ME
REMIND YOU, I'M THE BOSS.
>> IT'S JUST WHAT NYSSA SAID.
YOU CAN TREAT PEOPLE WITH
KINDNESS AND RESPECT AND
PERSONABLE.
PERSONABLE. YOU DON'T NEED TO BE A ROBOT
BUT YOU NEED TO MAKE SURE YOU
ALWAYS HAVE THAT PROFESSIONAL
BOUNDARY ESPECIALLY IN A
LEADERSHIP POSITION BECAUSE A
STRONG RELATIONSHIP DOESN'T
MEAN THAT YOU'RE BEST FRIENDS
WITH EVERYONE NOR SHOULD YOU
BE.
BE.
BE. BUT
BE. BUT IT MEANS THAT YOU HAVE A
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP AND
HEALTHY BOUNDARIES WITH THE
PEOPLE THAT YOU'RE WORKING
WITH.
WITH.
WITH. >>
WITH. >> HOW ABOUT EVER HAD A
FRIENDSHIP WITH A COWORKER GO
SOUTH AND IF SO, HOW DID YOU
GET BACK ON THE RIGHT TRACK?
OR DID YOU GET ON THE RIGHT
TRACK?
TRACK?
TRACK? >>
TRACK? >> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. IT IS HARD.
YOU HAVE TO WORK AT IT.
AND YOU HAVE TO WANT TO.
>> YOU HAVE TO WANT TO.
>> SOMETIMES IT GOES SOUTH AND
YOU'RE LIKE YOU KNOW WHAT?
SHE IS MY CUBICLE NEIGHBOR
ANYWAY BUT THERE ARE SOME
RELATIONSHIPS THAT I THINK
INEVITABLY WHEN YOU START
WORKING WITH PEOPLE FOR A LONG
TIME YOU DO DEVELOP A
RELATIONSHIP THAT BECOMES MORE
VALUABLE TO YOU THAN JUST A
WORKING RELATIONSHIP.
WORKING RELATIONSHIP. AND WITH THOSE, YOU WANT TO
ALWAYS MAINTAIN.
ALWAYS MAINTAIN. >> IN MY BUSINESS, I HAVE BEEN
LUCKY.
LUCKY.
LUCKY. I
LUCKY. I HAVE HAD AND STILL HAVE GOOD
RELATIONSHIPS AND I REALLY
HAVE NOT HAD A RELATIONSHIP TO
WHICH I HAD TO SAY DONE, CAN'T
TALK TO YOU, I JUST HAVEN'T
EXPERIENCED THAT.
EXPERIENCED THAT. AND NOW YOU'RE THE BOSS.
HA HA!
HA HA!
HA HA! >>
HA HA! >> SO LOOK OUT!
>> SECOND TIP, SORRY I HAD
ASKED THAT ONE, SECOND TIP, IF
YOU ARE ASKED BY COLLEAGUE TO
KEEP A SECRET, THIS MIGHT NOT
BE A SMART PROFESSIONAL MOVE
DEPENDING ON THE SECRET.
I'LL TURN TO YOU.
>> I HAVE HAD COWORKERS BEFORE
TELL ME THAT THEY ARE
PREGNANT.
PREGNANT.
PREGNANT. AND THAT IS SOMETHING, YOU
KNOW, THAT THEY ARE KEEPING IN
CONFIDENCE.
CONFIDENCE. I ALWAYS SAY IF YOU ARE
TELLING ME SOMETHING WHERE
YOU'RE IN DANGER, SOMEONE ELSE
IS IN DANGER, YOU'RE DOING
SOMETHING ILLEGAL, I'M NOT THE
PERSON TO TELL BECAUSE I WILL
GO TELL HR AND THE POLICE!
HA HA!!
HA HA!!
HA HA!! >> HA HA!
>> HA HA!
>> HA HA! >> IF IT'S SOMETHING
PERSONAL, I'LL LEND YOU MY EAR
BUT I'M LIKE --
>> YOU'RE LIKE I'M SO COOL
UNTIL I'M NOT.
HA HA!
HA HA!
HA HA! >>
HA HA! >> UNTIL I'M NOT.
>> WHAT DO YOU CALL THE PEOPLE
THAT CALL THE POLICE AND THEY
ARE LIKE THE CITIZEN PATROL!
>> PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW WHAT'S
APPROPRIATE TO SHARE WITH
COWORKERS AND WHAT IS NOT.
>> THE LEVEL OF
PROFESSIONALISM.
PROFESSIONALISM. >> ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE IN
MANAGEMENT.
MANAGEMENT. SOME THINGS YOU JUST CANNOT
SHARE.
SHARE.
SHARE. >>
SHARE. >> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT. >> OKAY.
>> OKAY.
>> OKAY. >> I AGREE.
NEXT ONE, BEFORE YOU DECIDE TO
KEEP THE SECRET, ASK YOURSELF
THESE QUESTIONS.
THESE QUESTIONS. WHY DO YOU WANT ME TO HAVE
INFORMATION THAT YOU DON'T
WANT ME TO SHARE WITH ANYONE?
I CAN SEE YOU ASKING THAT.
>> YES!!
>> YES!!
>> YES!! YES!!
YES!!
YES!! >>
YES!! >> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> WHY ARE YOU SHARING THIS
WITH ME?
WITH ME?
WITH ME? AND HOW IS MY HAVING THIS
INFORMATION OF VALUE TO ME?
>> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> THOSE ARE TWO VERY
UNREALISTIC QUESTION.
UNREALISTIC QUESTION. WHO IS REALLY GOING TO TAKE
THE TIME TO ASK THAT WHEN
SOMEONE GOES I HAVE TO TELL
YOU SOMETHING, DON'T SAY
ANYTHING.
ANYTHING.
ANYTHING. >> NOT ME.
>> I WOULD BE LIKE TELL ME
LET'S GO.
LET'S GO.
LET'S GO. >> THOSE AREN'T THE TWO THINGS
THAT POP INTO MY HEAD.
WHY ARE YOU TELLING ME AND
WHAT IS THE VALUE OF IT TO ME?
SOMETIMES YOU LIKE KNOWING A
GOOD JUICY SECRET.
>> BUT AGAIN, YOU HAVE TO TOE
THE LINE.
THE LINE.
THE LINE. >> WHEN SOMEONE FEELS LIKE
THINK CAN TALK TO YOU, THEY --
ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE MADE IT
FEEL LIKE THAT --
>> THAT'S RIGHT.
>> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT. >> YOU MADE IT FEEL LIKE I CAN
GO AND TALK TO JOYCE, THEN
THEY ARE GOING TO COME AND
TALK TO YOU.
IT'S ON YOU AT THAT POINT, YOU
HAVE TO STOP THIS.
I JUST DON'T NEED TO KNOW.
>> THE THIRD TIP IS DEAL WITH
COMMUNICATION BULLIES.
COMMUNICATION BULLIES. >> OH!!
>> OH!!
>> OH!! >> IF YOU ARE A PERSON, NOW
WHO THEY ARE, IN MEETINGS,
WON'T LET YOU SPEAK,
DISCREDITS YOU OR YOUR OPINION
WHEN YOU SPEAK UP, EXPERTS SAY
TRY THESE EMPOWERING PHRASES.
TELL ME IF YOU FEEL
COMFORTABLE DOING THIS.
CLAIM YOUR PHYSICAL SPACE BY
PUTTING UP A HAND IN A STOP
MOTION AND SAY HANG ON, I'M
ALMOST DONE.
ALMOST DONE. >> I'M SORRY.
>> I --
>> I --
>> I -- >> I THINK TONE IS
EVERYTHING.
EVERYTHING. IT'S NOT NECESSARILY WHAT
YOU'RE SAYING BUT HOW YOU'RE
SAYING, THERE'S A DIFFERENCE
BETWEEN I'M NOT DONE -- AND
I'M NOT DONE!
>> NO.
>> NO.
>> NO. I
>> NO. I WOULD DO THAT.
>> I WOULDN'T DO IT EITHER.
>> I WOULDN'T DO IT, EITHER.
>> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> VERY TOUGH.
>> BUT THAT PUTTING UP YOUR
HAND, THAT'S TOO MUCH.
>> AND IT'S SO '80s TALK TO
THE HAND.
THE HAND.
THE HAND. NOT COOL.
NOT COOL.
NOT COOL. MIGHT AS WELL BE SAYING
"HOTLANTA."
"HOTLANTA." >> HERE'S A QUESTION.
WHAT YOU JUST SAID SEEMED
DISRESPECTFUL, JOYCE.
DISRESPECTFUL, JOYCE. >> OH.
>> OH.
>> OH. >>
>> OH. >> I CAN'T SEE DOING THAT.
>> OH.
>> OH.
>> OH. >>
>> OH. >> I MEAN, UNLESS I WAS REALLY
MAD AND IT WAS REALLY
INSULTING.
INSULTING. >> BUT I THINK --
>> I THINK IF IT'S THAT BAD,
THAT'S NOT WHAT YOU SAY WHEN
SOMEONE IS THAT DISRESPECTFUL.
>> HM.
>> HM.
>> HM. >>
>> HM. >> MINE IS, YOU GOT A MOMENT?
>> DO YOU HAVE A MOMENT?
>> I DON'T THINK ANY FULL-ON
MEETING I COULD EVER SAY, YOU
KNOW WHAT, THAT WAS A LITTLE
DISRESPECTFUL.
DISRESPECTFUL. BUT ACCORDING TO THIS ARTICLE,
STEP UP AND DO IT!
>> OKAY.
>> OKAY.
>> OKAY. >> DID YOU MEAN TO BE GUYS
DISRESPECTFUL TO ME?
DO YOU THINK IT'S UP TO A
MANAGER TO STEP IN WHEN A
COWORKER IS DISCREDITING YOUR
IDEAS?
IDEAS?
IDEAS? I'M NOT SURE MANAGERS
SOMETIMES ARE ALWAYS AWARE OF
IT.
IT.
IT. >>
IT. >> I
IT. >> I DON'T KNOW IF THEY KNOW
ALL THE TIME.
YOU GOT TO STICK UP FOR
YOURSELF.
YOURSELF.
YOURSELF. >> WE WOULD LOVE FOR YOU TO
WEIGH IN.
WEIGH IN.
WEIGH IN. >> THIS WAS FUN.
>>
>>
>> MARGARITA NEXT TIME.
>> "TRENDING