many people who get diagnosed with borderline personality disorder end up
denying their diagnosis or just don't talk about it altogether and why is that
that's exactly what we're gonna be talking about in this video because it's
the last day of mental health awareness month what is up everybody this is Chris
from the rewired saw where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution
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anyways this this video this idea for this video has been in my head for a
while I was recently reading a book called the Buddha and the borderline if
any of you are interested in borderline personality disorder or if you've been
diagnosed with borderline personality disorder you want an excellent book that
goes through this young woman's journey of being diagnosed as well as her
recovery I cannot recommend this book enough it'll be linked down in the
description below but anyways one of the parts is stuck out to me was how she was
talking about you know her interactions with people and other people who were
diagnosed and rejected that diagnosis all right so before I move forward full
disclaimer for those of you who don't know me know I'm not a licensed
therapist or psychologist I am just very nerdy when it comes to mental health and
psychology and all those other things so I like to put my knowledge out here on
YouTube to hopefully educate some people and maybe it'll help you understand your
disorder a little bit more or it'll help you understand somebody else who is
struggling with this disorder alright so first question is what is borderline
personality disorder alright you might have heard of it but maybe you don't
know the symptoms so here is a little summary of the symptoms as stated in the
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual if you don't know what that is the dsm-5
basically the guidelines that medical
professionals mental health professionals use to see what your
diagnosis might be now this isn't like a 1000% for sure thing when they diagnosed
you but it gives them kind of an idea of what you're struggling with mentally so
they can offer you the best treatment possible and check it out I actually got
my copy right here all right so I'm gonna go through these real quick all
right one frantic efforts to avoid real or
imagined abandonment to a pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal
relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of
ovulation and devaluation 3 identity disturbance markedly and persistently
unstable self-image or sense of self for impulsivity in at least two areas that
are potentially self damaging this can include spending money sex substance
abuse reckless driving binge eating etc 5
recurrent suicidal behavior gestures for threats or self-mutilating behavior sis
affective instability due to a mark reactivity of mood 7 chronic feelings of
emptiness 8 inappropriate intense anger or difficulty controlling anger 9
transient stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms
all right so these are the symptoms and if you're somebody who struggles with
this or you know somebody who does like one of the main main main symptoms
of this is emotional dysregulation alright I often think about it like on a
scale like if you have zero in the middle and then you got plus 10 and
minus 10 most people don't waver between like you know 1 to 5 right like you know
you might get like really angry but that's act of 5 but for people
struggling with borderline personality disorder that anger might be like
furious you see what I mean or like not just getting happy but really excited
we're not just feeling like kind of sad it's depressed not feeling nervous
it's anxious right I'm gonna combine that with like fear of abandonment and
everything like that so why do people deny or reject this diagnosis well
something that was brought up in the book and I've seen this happen many many
many times like when I was working at the drug and alcohol rehab center for a
little over three years I dealt with many clients who had borderline
personality disorder and one of the main reasons was because
their their family and friends there are a lot of misconceptions and myths about
borderline personality disorder like one of them one of the biggest ones is that
those people are extremely manipulative right and the thing is it is not
intentional okay like the manipulation is not intentional
like their fear of abandonment like it said in the DSM it's real or imagined
so that person might do anything they can to keep you around because they are
lacking this emotional control you see what I mean so it is not always
intentional and that's one of the things like there's such a stigma around it
there's people some people see that and I think that is intentional but most
people who struggle from my experience that I've met who struggle with
borderline personality disorder they hate that they hate that they do that
they hate that there's a self-sabotage or these anger outbursts and things like
that but the other thing that I ran into a lot when talking with clients who
struggle with borderline personality disorder was a lot of therapists and
even psychiatrists didn't want to work with them alright like I remember
working at a treatment center and people would be like oh Chris like here like
you want to work with them like I don't like working with people with BPD and I
just never really mind it I haven't had any I don't know my threshold is
probably pretty high but I haven't had any like crazy experiences you know what
I mean but when I would see like therapists and stuff saying they didn't
want to work with somebody I'm like huh right but I think in that book the
Buddha and the borderline they when they discussed it like they was talking about
like how she like when she went to tell her mom like she went to tell her mom
how she was diagnosed she was finally diagnosed with borderline personality
disorder like she was misdiagnosed with like depression anxiety bipolar bipolar
and borderline personality disorder sometimes those get misdiagnosed
but she goes and tells her mom her mom's like oh no no no no you don't have
that you do not have borderline personality disorder borderline
personality disorder is for crazy people right so that can make a person feel
very very insecure right especially when people classify people at BPD that's
crazy you know what I mean so it's quite common for people to deny or reject
their diagnosis now I've made a video in the past I know who Kati Morton who was
an actual licensed Marriage and Family Therapist you know on the platform she
has a video about the differences between C PTSD and borderline
personality disorder but they are very very similar especially because many
people who get diagnosed with borderline personality disorder had some type of
childhood trauma alright but here's the thing here's the thing that is my
personal view my personal opinion on it based on people I've met who have
borderline personality disorder and are working on overcoming it or they are in
recovery and it's this once you accept this diagnosis like the whole reason
this book exists is because once they can kind of figure out what your
diagnosis is now you can begin treatment so one of the best therapies one of the
best therapies for borderline personality disorder is something called
dialectical behavior therapy alright DBT for short now traditional DBT like there
are like groups like you do like I can't remember if it's like a six to
eight-week kind of group slash course right and you learn a bunch of different
techniques for managing your emotion right and then you're surrounded with
other people like if you're interested in learning more about dialectical
behavioral therapy the woman in that book she went through DBT alright
but DBT although the reason it's called the Buddha and the borderlines because
DBT a lot of it is based off of mindfulness which comes from Buddhist
philosophy all right mindfulness is something that I've been practicing for
probably about five or six years now which is really helped me regulate my
emotions and things like that so I have reaped the benefits myself
because I used to have a lot of problems with emotional regulation alright
because it helps you stop and have that pause button a lot of
people who struggle what BPD have this in these impulsive behaviors and they
lash out or they do something reckless you know so it is important to kind of
manage those things so if you cannot afford therapy what I would recommend
there are like a million a million DBT workbooks out there I'll link one of
them down below like one of my favorite ones
it's like mindfulness for borderline personality disorder something like that
I'll link it down in the description below but if you cannot afford therapy
like do something just do something because you can't begin to get better
while your your BPD may never be completely cured life can get
exponentially better but if you have the resources like if you have health
insurance talk to your doctor tacky or in church
provider talk to friends or family see if they can recommend a therapist for
you who specializes in dialectical behavioral therapy I personally use
better help online therapy and they have certain therapists who specialize in DBT
so if you would like to check that out there was an affiliate link down below
basically what that means you get a cheap affordable online therapy and a
little bit comes back that supports the channel alright but just know that this
isn't without hope and once you accept your diagnosis now you can begin working
on it alright but anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this
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