So we are talking to Jeff about why men decide to walk away from us when something has
been really good we've gone on vacations we said words to each other like I love
you and I want to be with you maybe even hint at marriage and then go have
wonderful vacation together and then boom! one day (he says), "I can't make You happy... you
deserve someone better... yada yada yada." why do guys do this Jeff? I mean this is just
my opinion I think there are several variables. I think one of them is that
perhaps something like marriage or something else that was said that guy
because I think guys are not as easy to convince about marriage as when I think
I just think they take a little time a little more time something like this so
if that was mentioned that could maybe that maybe he's not ready for that it
could be that he just heard something out of the woman that looks like he just
he has an insecurity where I can't fulfill that expectation no matter that
he can't fulfill that expectation
Insecure... Yeah I think I think men have & are more insecure than women understand. "Can you tell us more about that because INSECURITY is a phenomenon..." "Women can't believe these macho guys are insecure."
that's how you were currently at a restaurant. Look at this view! yeah... so I just I just think
men can be a lot more insecure than maybe their exterior shows you know that
shell or that kind of, you know, that put on around them the mask they
wear I feel like I feel like there could be a lot more insecure than they then
they let on it's hard to see... so then like when an
insecurity catches up with them, they just feel like they just CAN'T Possibly
Do This Thing (relationship) they can't possibly do all the extra work that it takes to be in a
relationship. I feel like they do kind of like you know, start putting their tails between their legs and want to get away... "Really?" Yes. "So what is they say 'I love you,' I can see us being together one day... & all oif a sudden they say 'I can't make you happy!' You Are Smiling???" I don't know I think
there's a lot of variables there and I think it depends on the maturity of the
guy where he's at his life what he's going through you know I think sometimes
when things look too real such as marriage such as like a serious
commitment such as providing financially I feel like oh sh**
things are good real they start scaring themselves out of this thing.
"Can a man come back from this type of thing?" Absolutely! you know sometimes I think it takes: Loss of the Woman, and
some reflection on that it's a good way that's really important how much you
know he's going to sacrifice for everything else he's gonna gain in a
committed relationship. right? versus oh god! now I'm alone again. Now I said all
this stuff and I'm like back to square one! I think they have to start weighing
stuff.
"Spoken like a man who's maybe gone through that?" Oh sure...
Tell us... tell us...
I should tell everybody's, he's got these hunky arms... freckley arms, I still call ya 'hot freckles'... Hot Freckles check and
see, (there was a song!) 102 or 103 come on baby... "so what's your best advice you can give women when she's in
that situation the guy has said, 'I can't make you happy,' and then they end things and he's like 'I gotta go be on my own!' And she has to say, "Ok... I respect your no
and I'll miss you. And Goodbye." what happens next? well I think there the woman has to
trust that the guy is gonna go through a period, this is just a guess, it is based
on a little bit of experience... the guy's gonna go through a period of like, 'oh sh**' now
what have I done?' and he will like I said he's a start weighing things (should the woman reach out to him at that point?)
I don't think so I mean that's that's my opinion. I don't know what you
would say. (Because Why?) I don't want that guy to feel like, 'Oh she'll be there for me.
I got her, if I want to come back I can come back. if I don't come back you know
I'm a better man for it.' I want the guy to stew in his juices so to speak and
like worry a little bit and contemplate and weigh things hopefully he's good at
you know kind of self-evaluation and judging things and looking at things on
a number of levels and realizing like, 'okay what do I gain here you know? what
do I have to sacrifice to to have this ultimately great partner great
friendship great relationship?' versus you know being the sort of like you know, "I got her."
yeah "she's coming to my house every weekend but I can't be with
you!" that I'm gonna be yeah but I think I think the woman has to like be patient
let the guy sort it out for himself. (should a woman keep dating other guys while her guy is 'figuring it out.'?) I think so, because he may never come back!
he may never figure it out. some guys are not capable maybe at that stage in their
life to figure it out, so. I think so! (What if he finds out you're dating someone else, is he mad and does he never want to speak again?) No! I think he's more gonna try to win your
heart or just show his best side, if he really thinks you're the one. I'm sure
that you know a lot of women that look at your stuff, or think about this sort
of thing, or have these issues understand that like you know, circular (Quantum) dating
whatever you call it, or just dating other people, is does not necessarily
mean sleeping around! it's just getting to know people, coffee dates or whatever.
(Amen! So what if the man calls you up and says, 'you're on match.com, I just broke up with you 2 weeks ago!' EXACTLY! I think he just answered his own question. (what does he need to hear?) You broke up with me, I'm moving on.
...Maybe, 'I miss you. I don't want to date other people but darn I want to be a wife someday!' well sure, I guess so. yeah. I think I
think that can't hurt the guy to hear that. All right everybody, you've heard it here from Mr. Hot Freckles. Himself. My husband Jeff.
Bye bye!