- Why arguing with your boyfriend doesn't solve any problems
and how to get him to understand, listen,
and care when you are unhappy.
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So my ladies, let's start.
Men are ego-driven, women are emotion-driven.
If used correctly as we were actually designed,
being emotionally-driven for a woman can be good
as that is what makes her a nurturing, loving mother.
Being ego-driven for a man is also good as that is
what makes him put himself first and achieve what he sets
to achieve for himself and his family.
However, when we are not willing to understand
the difference because we are the same
and influenced so much to break the rules nowadays,
that is when the problem happens.
So here is an example that I'm actually borrowing
from a speaker which I was watching last night.
I do not remember his name, but if you guys know who he is,
please comment below.
So he gave this awesome example.
Let's say a man is buying a car for the family.
He wants a black one and his wife wants a red one.
He's thinking, I can't buy red.
What will my boys say about the red car?
I am buying black.
Whereas a woman is thinking, well, you said you love me.
If you love me so much and you said that you're gonna
do anything for me, you will be okay to buy that red car
and not care what your boys think.
The man, however, buys the black car.
His wife starts to feel hurt and thinks
that he doesn't love her as much as he said he does
'cause if he did, he would buy the red one.
Now let's talk about the same example in an argument.
Let's say you're disagreeing.
He tells you his point of view.
You are telling him your point of view.
Ladies, if you are looking for solutions during arguments,
in most cases you will not find any, why?
Because for a man, it's more important to win an argument
as he is ego-driven.
He is a man, a competitive male,
therefore he needs to win it.
Whereas you will take everything personally
because you are emotion-driven.
So you will think, oh, I thought he loves me.
How could he say this to me?
How can he be so cold?
He doesn't care about my feelings, and so on.
Therefore, in majority of case, the outcome of the argument
will be you will think he's cold and selfish,
he will think you're too emotional and totally crazy.
So how do we solve this?
Well, trying to get him to understand your emotions
and where are you coming from with it can get a bit
too complicated.
Also, if he likes to have the power and manipulate,
you trying to make him understand might do more damage
than good.
Ladies, better feel safe than sorry.
We speak in the language that he understands.
We give him a taste of his own medicine.
First, do not take things personally
as it doesn't make sense because all he wants
to do is win it anyway.
So what is the point to take it personally?
Second, if you see that during the argument instead
of being understanding, all he does is manipulate you,
put you down, and argue, set in the boundaries
with your actions.
Stop arguing about it as, again, what's the point?
And step back.
Show him that you don't care, as why should you care?
If he doesn't care to compromise, why should you care
about him or his needs?
Therefore, step back and give him a taste
of his own medicine.
If he is not willing to be understanding, value,
and respect you, well then he doesn't get
to have the attention from you.
As positive attention shows you care,
negative attention shows you care, therefore,
stop giving him any, and if he is into you as he says he is,
he will be back willing to compromise
and be understanding in no time.
Also ladies, I would really recommend for you
to watch my video how to get a man to respect you
which you can find just by following the link right here
as I break every single step there in a detail.
Ladies, remember, when a man loves a woman,
his love for you is bigger than his ego, yet in order
for him to love you, you need to love, value,
and respect yourself first.
You need to be high value, and if you would like
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Thank you so much for watching, queens.
Kisses from London.
- [Camerawoman] London?
- Oh my God, kisses from Manchester.
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So what do we do?
How do we solve this?
How do we get our own way and get to feel the respect
and vibe from a man?
This cat.
(laughing)
- [Camerawoman] You should have a group and be like.