have you noticed that your child has low self-esteem and you're trying to think of
how you can remedy that there are steps that you can take to help them have a mindset
of their value and their worth without looking to others to validate them all the time
so let's get into what those steps are number one direct their mind toward their inner pride
in other words when you want to encourage them instead of directing your comments
to be about how you feel about what they've done or how proud you are of them direct them to think
about how they should be proud of themselves for example instead of saying wow you did a really
good job i am so proud of you instead of that say aren't you really proud of yourself for doing such
a good job this directs their mind to think about how they feel about their own accomplishments
instead of looking outside of themselves for validation about how well they did
it can motivate them to have pride in their own personal self and their own accomplishments
this can actually motivate them to want to do things without being prompted in the future
number two teach them that mistakes are opportunities some children get discouraged about
their mistakes to a point of losing a sense of worth about themselves instead teach them to think
about how mistakes are necessary paths to learning tell them that the famous thomas edison said
i have not failed i have just found 10 000 ways it will not work encourage your child to have
this kind of mindset when it comes to mistakes number three encourage goals everyone who has a
healthy dose of self-esteem has goals they work toward goals and they accomplish them if your
child seems to be lacking in self-esteem help them set goals and help them accomplish them and they
do need to have short-term and long-term goals for example short-term goals could be that they can do
10 sit-ups without stopping and then maybe they can do 15 or 25 or 50. have them set a goal of how
many they want to do without stopping or if they play the piano maybe there's a really difficult
piano piece that they want to learn or even have a short-term goal of doing something kind
and unselfish for someone for seven days in a row for long-term goals they could join a self-defense
class and achieve progressive levels of skill they could go on a scouting type program to work toward
earning merit badges or the highest scout rank or they could work toward earning money to buy a
more expensive item that relates to their hobbies everyone needs goals to feel good about themselves
if they are lacking a self-esteem accomplishing goals can make a major difference number four
don't do things for them that they can do for themselves the more they do for themselves the
more self-esteem they will have don't make their bed brush their teeth or tie their shoe if they
are capable of doing it themselves teach them life skills as early as possible and this will make a
big difference in their level of self-esteem number five don't allow them to let fear rule
some people are naturally more fearful than others but do not allow your child to let fear
rule when anyone allows fear to permeate their decision-making they naturally are going to have
lower self-esteem not only do you want to model that in your own life by not letting
fears make your decisions for you but the phrase that you want to say often to them is
i know you can do it the more they hear that phrase at times of discouragement the better
once they are required to overcome fear they will feel much more confident and start believing more
in themselves but if fear is allowed to rule they will feel defeated and their self-esteem
will plummet simply don't allow it number six make helping others a part of their regular life
people feel good about themselves and recognize their worth when they use their talents and
abilities to help others find ways for them to help the people around them and you will see
their self-esteem blossom hey if you enjoyed this short video be sure and click on one of the cards
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