Has your boss made your life a living hell? If that is true for you, then you know who
your boss is. He is a case of absolute nastiness. Yes, I'm not talking about a boss who is simply
disorganized or who keeps complaining or may be that your boss is incompetent. But still
I'm sure he must be a decent guy. I’m talking about a boss who is nasty or a case of narcissism. Yes someone
who is too proud of their physical appearance or who loves themselves just too much, who is arrogant
and is rude to you and he absolutely loves to harass you publicly. Do you have a boss
like that? Then what should you do about him? I think you should carry on watching this
session with me Michelle on Skillopedia, the place to learn skills for the real world,
coz here in this session we are going to learn 5 ways to make the most of a nasty boss.
So the first way to make the most of your nasty boss is to plan your escape. Yes you
surely don't want to stay longer with that nasty boss but then you have to plan your
escape, you know with a boss like that, it is not easy to escape him. You've got to be
smart and this includes some strategic and careful thinking. So what you really need
to do is, you need to start applying elsewhere. But while you are still with him, you have
to learn ways to cope with his behaviour. And to get the most out of him. Not only that,
you should also start thinking carefully because you want to develop your skills for the next
job. Yes, while you are still here, try to develop your skills so that you are an exciting
candidate for your next employer and that they wanna hire you. But believe me, the worst
thing would be to go up to the human resource's people or to the people beyond your boss complaining
about him. coz these kind of people, they are very sweet to you on your face but then
they are quite nasty behind your back and I can tell you surely, if they are smart and
cunning enough to reach that position, then they are too smart to stay there. So surely
they are going to side with your boss and then you will face the brunt for complaining
about him. So plan your escape, be smart and cope with his behaviour.
The second way to get enough of your nasty boss is look for support and help from other
areas. Yes, why should you only support and be friends with colleagues in your department?
May be you wanna help colleagues in other departments, so that you have a healthy working
environment. So let's say you are working with a content development team and you have
a very good relationship with all your colleagues in that department. However, you have no bond
with people from other departments, so maybe you wanna help somebody from the marketing
team with some creative ideas, so that you can have a supporting back against your boss
and that will have a positive environment at your workplace. You know one good reason,
you should do this, is so that you can get rid of all the negative energy that you collect
with those really rude interactions with your boss. And more than this, it would be amazing,
if you can have a relationship, a good relationship with someone at the same level as your boss.
Or maybe even above them. With that you can have a positive reference slipping in now
and then to your boss from that person. So you can make sure that you know that person
is telling good things about you to your boss and you have a positive momentum gathering
towards your position in the company. So have some allies in other areas of work and create
a positive working environment.
The third tip that I have for you to deal with your nasty boss is, find ways to manage
and influence their behaviour. Of course whatever you say works at a subconscious level and
the person who is listening to you actually understands you whether or not they are able
to consciously receive it. So what I actually mean is that when you are sub consciously
trying to influence your boss, try and find out, do some intelligent gathering about your
boss. What does he like to do, what are his favourite things? Does he admire someone at
the office? Or what are the things that inspire him and what are the things that he considers
most important? You are not trying to flatter him while you do this, you should be very
careful about doing this with subtlety so that your boss does not see you through it
or may be that you coworkers don't treat you as sycophant that is a person who is trying
to gain some importance by flattering their boss. So you have to be smart, carefully find
out what your boss likes so maybe your boss pays great importance to family values. So
sometimes whenever the opportunity arises, you can comment about how you've been raised
with important and great family values by your parents. Or at other times, he admires
someone at the office, you can obviously share or you know comment about how good that person
is and that will surely please your boss. We are not trying to gain his attention here;
we are trying to make him your ally. We are trying to make him believe that he has something
in common with you. So make sure, you do some intelligent gathering about your boss and
influence his thinking at the sub conscious level.
The forth tip that I have for you is, two don'ts. Yes that is don't cower, which means
do not shiver with fear from your boss but also do not get into a power struggle. Yes,
be sure that if you get into a power struggle with your boss, you are sure to loose coz
of course he is much powerful than you and that is why he is your boss and you are his
employee. So what you are actually supposed to do is, just supposed to stand up with courage
in front of your boss. This is not confronting him; this is more about sharing with him.
But do not share your experiences with him at a time when you are charged up. Because
you know, then you are going to burst your emotions because as you must have heard, do
not react when you are angry. So in any interaction, the person who looks best is the one who can
control their emotions. So even if it's a situation where your boss has embarrassed
you, do not react there and then. Make sure, when you are feeling more calm and collected,
you go and speak up to your boss with courage. There are some people who like those people
who can stand up for themselves. Maybe your boss is one of them. So may be in a situation,
your boss embarrassed you in a meeting in front of your colleagues and you felt quite
attacked. So you should make statements to him. That means you could tell him that, " sir
when you embarrassed me in front of my colleagues, I felt attacked and harassed in front of the
people that I work with." this will surely help you gain some empathy and some sympathy
from him. So make sure you tell your boss what you feel like, don't cower, don't shrink,
but don't even get into a power struggle with him.
The final way to deal with your nasty boss is that you give your best even in a hurting
situation. Yes, even if the situation is hurting and you feel that you are criticized too much
and you are undervalued for all the hard work that you do. It's important that you stay
collected, that you manage your emotions and give your best. But why is it important to
give your best? It’s important so that you can develop yourself and your skills for your
next employer, so that they can value you and realize your worth. And also even if you
are not able to develop your skills, at least you will be able to develop your coping mechanism
with a boss like that. Yes, only after you've had an experience of a nasty boss, you'll
be able to value a good boss. So consider this as an experience, don't get too bitter
about it. Be happy at your workplace, give your best. It's not important for others to
realize your worth, but it's much more important for you to realize your worth and your value.
So give your best, stay collected, and keep calm, the future is much brighter.
With this tip, we have come to the end of this session where you've learnt 5 ways to
make the most of our nasty boss. So don't be too afraid of him and make the most out
of him by being humble, calm. Because it is more important to serve others rather than
being served by them. So keep smiling and give your best and don't forget to subscribe
to our channel, Skillopedia, the place where you learn skills for the real world.